Moms never win

[Squirrel!!!]

I can top or at least equal the OP as a "ruiner". My DD wanted to get feather extensions for the summer since her friends were, and she was going to pay for it. I pointed out that the pretty fancy roosters who are raised for the feathers do not survive the feather harvest.

This is no worse than eating chicken which I do all of the time. Ruiner. Now she won't get extensions and she cried over the cute chickens.

We always check out the fancy poultry at the county fair. Ruiner, that is me.

Maybe I should talk up dying her hair pink????

 

[njmom47]

One of my baseball mom friends has done this (her sister-in-law owns a beauty salon) and I thought it was really cool...that in itself should make her NOT want to do it!!!

 

[AndreaDM]

I heard something on the radio the other day about feathers being in high demand and that shops that make "flies" for fly fishing can't get what they need because the hair dressers are hoarding them!

 

[ChattaAlley]

I don't blame you for researching. Sometimes researching saves money as I would hate to pay that money and then it fade as soon as I hit the water.

 

[piperdown]

I can top or at least equal the OP as a "ruiner". My DD wanted to get feather extensions for the summer since her friends were, and she was going to pay for it. I pointed out that the pretty fancy roosters who are raised for the feathers do not survive the feather harvest.

This is no worse than eating chicken which I do all of the time. Ruiner. Now she won't get extensions and she cried over the cute chickens.

We always check out the fancy poultry at the county fair. Ruiner, that is me.

Maybe I should talk up dying her hair pink????

If I tell her this, she may just implode on the spot.

She also reads disboards, so there will be quite a ruckus if/when she reads this thread.

 

[bumbershoot]

I pointed out that the pretty fancy roosters who are raised for the feathers do not survive the feather harvest.

Poor roosters.


OP your post had me thinking of my mom. She was born in '44, and as a youth she swam a TON. At one point she dyed her hair in some way, then swam all summer, and got to deal with bright green hair for the first months of the following school year...

 

[Arielle22]

DD17 is a junior and has had 2 purple streaks in the front of her long hair since freshman year. It always fades after a few washings.

I was a bad mom the other night for suggesting I would straighten her hair after she washed it. Due to her hair being really curly,thick and long, she cannot do it herself.

You would have thought I told her I was going to poke her eye out with hot tongs the way she went on. She didn't want her hair straightened, the only one who liked her hair straightened was you (me)! I just laughed at her (the other option was murder by straigthening iron)

The next night she sweet as pie asked me to straighten her hair. I did say yes (because I do like it straightened) but reminded her of the night before.

 

[Jeafl]

As soon as I figured out I was the root of all my daughters' problems, life became much easier.

Ironically, I teach special ed and for some reason everytime they have a problem it is MY fault as well. Go figure.

 

[Arielle22]

I have 2 teen girls. I have 7 siblings (3 boys and 5 girls total). Our parents had 4 of us as teens at the same time. I don't know how they didn't kill us.

 

[kinntj]

http://www.hairfeather.com/

I love that feathering! That's a great alternative.

 

[LynnTH]

I had the feathers put in last weekend. My neighbor works for a high end salon that does this. So, she can buy the feathers at cost so instead of $10 a feather it was only $4 a feather. I have blonde hair, so I just put the natural ones in to kind of blend in. My DD10 has blonde hair also but has pink, purple and teal in hers. It is fun and I feel so hip for a 45 year old...

 

[laurie31]

LOL!!

And if you HADN'T researched, she would have been mad at you if it faded quickly.

Moooo-ooom, why didn't you TELL me it would only last a week? Now I've wasted my money!!!


Research is always a good thing, no matter what.

Now she can make an informed choice.

As others said, maybe she'll like the way it looks when it fades/changes. At least it won't take her by surprise.

 

[scrapquitler]

“I don’t know, mom!” (in a frustrated and angry tone). “You always have to research things, and then tell me all the things that might happen, and then I don’t want to do them anymore!”

In other words, I’m raining on her parade. Oh well, guess I’ll just have to be the bad guy.

Yeah, darn you for acting like an adult!

I wouldn't mention it again. If she wants to do it, let her do it and end up with the unpredictable results. It's only hair.

 

[LuLuO]

DD wants to dye the ends of her hair hot pink for the summer. I’m fine with this because she is using her own money, and she plans to have the dyed ends cut off before school starts in the fall. The dress code prohibits un-natural hair colors.

At any rate, I did some research on the process and found out that bright dyes and chlorine (i.e. swimming pools) can lead to undesirable results. Fading and color changes. Of course, I informed DD of this and then asked if she wanted to still proceed and this is what I got.

“I don’t know, mom!” (in a frustrated and angry tone). “You always have to research things, and then tell me all the things that might happen, and then I don’t want to do them anymore!”

In other words, I’m raining on her parade. Oh well, guess I’ll just have to be the bad guy.

That's hilarious.

 

[disney1990]

Years ago, our DD had green, blue, purple and pink hair (at different times). The pink hair over the summer changed colors from pink to orange to light orange. I never had a problem letting her color her hair -- there are too many more important things to worry about. And thankfully, here in the DC/Maryland schools don't have a problem with kids and hair color and/or hair length (on males). DD is now in college working on her Master's Degree -- the hair color thing is a distance memory because she doesn't color her hair at all now.

We did have something cool happen. While she had pink hair, we visiting the Magic Kingdom and ate breakfast in Cinderella Castle. She had her picture taken with the Prince. Later that night while we were watching the parade, the Prince came by on a float and picked my daughter out of the crowd of people watching the parade. He called out her name and waved to her. Believe me, he would have never picked her out of that crowd had her hair not been PINK. It totally made her day.

 

[disney1990]

Let me add one more thing about what matters in life. 4 years ago, our granddaughter was diagnosed with a very rare childhood cancer at the age of 8. Now her Dad (my son-in-law) is pretty conservative. When they found out that she was going to have to have chemo and that she was going to lose all of her hair, they first allowed her to cut her hair into a Mohawk and then let her dye it bright pink. After almost a year of chemo, she was allowed to have her ears pierced -- another thing her Dad wouldn't let her do. Why, because in the scope of things -- those things didn't seem to matter anymore. She is now a 4 year cancer survivor.

 

[dngnb8]

There are some parades worth raining on, and some that arent. Sometimes, its tough to choose.

 

[castmemberb4]

Tell her to use Kool-Aid instead.
It's cheap easy and lasts forever.
When my God daughter did it, I swear
it lasted for 3 years ! She however was
not a regular swimmer.
BTW Her hair is dark bown and she used
cherry to get burgundy streaks.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I can top or at least equal the OP as a "ruiner". My DD wanted to get feather extensions for the summer since her friends were, and she was going to pay for it. I pointed out that the pretty fancy roosters who are raised for the feathers do not survive the feather harvest.

This is no worse than eating chicken which I do all of the time. Ruiner. Now she won't get extensions and she cried over the cute chickens.

We always check out the fancy poultry at the county fair. Ruiner, that is me.

Maybe I should talk up dying her hair pink????

I found the article. Sad really. I wonder if this is true for all "feathers"?

The practice of attaching rooster feathers to human hair is becoming more popular, in part due to various celebrities such as Steven Tyler, Kesha, Hillary Duff and Miley Cyrus who were early adopters of the practice. Rooster feathers have been used for making fly fishing lures for years. Lately however, fishing shops have seen an increase in sales from women and hair salons seeking to use the feathers as hair extensions.
A top supplier of rooster feathers in the U.S., which provides feathers to fishing shops for fly fishing ties, said they harvested 125,000 roosters in the year 2000. Most of them died. As the Seattle Times put it, “At Whiting Farms Inc., in western Colorado, one of the world’s largest producers of fly tying feathers, the roosters live about a year while their saddle feathers – the ones on the bird’s backside and the most popular for hair extensions – grow as long as possible. Then the animal is euthanized.”
One would assume most of the customers seeking hair extensions don’t know where the feathers come from, nor that many chickens died. Demand for rooster feathers for fly fishing existed before the hair extension fad or trend, but the additional demand has exceeded the supply. Consequently rooster feather prices have soared. Will the much higher prices cause rooster farms to add even more chickens to their populations, and result in even more deaths?
It’s time to explain to celebrities and hair salons how they are contributing unknowingly to the suffering of many chickens for the sake of vanity. You can do your part by not buying rooster feather extensions and spreading the word.

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/feather-hair-extensions-killing-roosters.html#

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[KimR]

Let me add one more thing about what matters in life. 4 years ago, our granddaughter was diagnosed with a very rare childhood cancer at the age of 8. Now her Dad (my son-in-law) is pretty conservative. When they found out that she was going to have to have chemo and that she was going to lose all of her hair, they first allowed her to cut her hair into a Mohawk and then let her dye it bright pink. After almost a year of chemo, she was allowed to have her ears pierced -- another thing her Dad wouldn't let her do. Why, because in the scope of things -- those things didn't seem to matter anymore. She is now a 4 year cancer survivor.

I'm so happy she is doing well.