Moms gone Crazy

[Tomader]

Does anyone know a person that has lost their mind? My friend at work has a friend that is married with three little children. She has been having on line affairs and has now acted on them. She meets men and has sex. Her whole purpose at this point is to have sex. Her husband knows but is still holding out hope that she will work this out of her system?? Has the world gone crazy? Her friends have told her they have also had affairs and this is what keeps their marriage going? I'm talking about women with little children, educated, living in good neighborhoods. Most are stay at home moms. I just don't get how the values of people have gone down the drain. The friend now wants to install a pole in her bedroom and wants some advice from her husband on what men like?? I'm not even kidding. What husband would tolerate a wife like this? Both need some real help. I just wonder how common this is in other areas. I know that when my friend and I talk we are amazed at what people think is okay. A good night for me is my pajamas, pizza and a good movie. I might add that being with my husband and kids.

 

[Nik's Mom]

This is the 2nd time I've typed this on the dis today. This is a sick society that we live in. Sounds like your friend has problems. I feel bad for her kids. I hope her dh gets the courage to leave her if she isn't willing to stop her destructive behavior.

 

[SC Minnie]

I must live in a cave.

 

[Heidict]

Wow, your friend has some serious issues. This is not normal and is not healthy. Sounds like there may be some sort of sex addiction going on there. It's bad enough that she is doing this, but I'm just in shock that her DH is okay with this and sticks around.

Ugh, those poor kids.

 

[luvmy3]

If the dh in the OP is really not Okay with it, then he needs to discuss that with his wife. Who knows maybe if she knew how he really feels then she would change her behavior. Has he told her he thinkls she has a problem or did he just give his "permission" to do what she wants? Without knowing all the details I think its really unfair to jump to conclusions about their relationship. I'm not saying you specifically OP, I just mean in general.

As far as anyone else, who are we to judge whats a healthy relationship for others. Some couples have open relationships and as long as both parties are aware and except it, I don't see a problem with it.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Your friend has a co-worker who tells her all the intimate details of her extramarital affairs and intimate details of what goes on in her bedroom? Then your friend repeats it to you in all the same details? Then you post about it on a message board?

I have some really close friends, and I don't know one sacred detail of what goes on in their sex life.

 

[Buckalew11]

I've known several people who have acted like this. But, yeah, I'm a hairstylist so people spill their guts pretty often, LOL. When I worked in a large salon, it was always strange to me how these people did not whisper their secrets but practically yelled them across the room!

I think it is self destructive. Destruction to the marriage and destructive and devastating to the children involved. Most of the stories I know do not have good endings.

 

[Tomader]

If the dh in the OP is really not Okay with it, then he needs to discuss that with his wife. Who knows maybe if she knew how he really feels then she would change her behavior. Has he told her he thinkls she has a problem or did he just give his "permission" to do what she wants? Without knowing all the details I think its really unfair to jump to conclusions about their relationship. I'm not saying you specifically OP, I just mean in general.

As far as anyone else, who are we to judge whats a healthy relationship for others. Some couples have open relationships and as long as both parties are aware and except it, I don't see a problem with it.

The husband is a complete fool. Those are the words I use for him. He knows that she has had relationships with men. Two she has tried to keep but the men ended it with her. Her husband still has love for her so he wants to keep trying. Maybe at one point she will come to her senses? "The co-worker" talks to him and tells him this is not healthy for him or the KIDS. So what this is really about is a mom that has lost her mind. If you want to think about something my thought is think about your kids. It might sound crazy to some people but my kids come before my libido. You want to date other men than don't get married. Better yet don't have kids. They are the ones that suffer. She is more concerned about pole lessons that she had to cancel her daughter's dance class because it was on the same day. The problem with the world today is we forget we are the parents. We want what we want when we want it.

 

[JessR]

work it out of her system

 

[mikehn]

Obviously you all dont watch Jerrry Springer or Dr Phil

 

[Sneezie]

I'm just thankful that in this ever-changing world there is a never changing God. The world needs prayer.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Oh, let's have a li'l fun today.

I wonder if this woman's husband is neglectin' her and that's why she has to have her online affairs?

 

[Christine]

I don't know if she is truly "out of her mind" but I will say that many people end up living a life they think they *should* live and have no business doing. Many women think they need the marriage, the kids, the white picket fence. And then they find out it can be stifling. Rather than deal with it in a healthy manner, they act out in ways like this.

Truly, I think a lot of these women just aren't fulfilled as wives, mothers, and/or stay-at-home mothers. I think they need to find a better way to find meaning though.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[themarquis]

having affairs (whether or not you think it's a bad idea) does not constitute a mental illness!

 

[Uncle Remus]

having affairs (whether or not you think it's a bad idea) does not constitute a mental illness!

But, but, but...what else explains that behavior?

 

[themarquis]

But, but, but...what else explains that behavior?

hee hee

 

[PaulaSB12]

This is the 2nd time I've typed this on the dis today. This is a sick society that we live in. Sounds like your friend has problems. I feel bad for her kids. I hope her dh gets the courage to leave her if she isn't willing to stop her destructive behavior.

He is probably thinking of his children what will happen if he leaves her? Will he take them with him?

 

[Tomader]

having affairs (whether or not you think it's a bad idea) does not constitute a mental illness!

Maybe not a mental illness but something real close. If you cross a line and cheat on your spouse than I think that is a problem. I'll look at finding the right word I want to use. I guess if she did not have a husband and kids at home I would not be writing this post. I'm mad that some people find her behavior okay. The women at the Catholic School her daughter attends have also talked about how common this is. Affairs, shopping, the movies, there all the same? What's the big deal? The only area they disagreed with her on was telling her husband. Other than that what's the problem? Nuts, crazy, these words just keep coming to me.

 

[MeghansMommy]

I'm just thankful that in this ever-changing world there is a never changing God. The world needs prayer.

Ain't that the truth.