Mom in hospice...said my final goodbye..update post 65...shes in Heaven now :(

I am so very sorry for your loss.:hug: I am sitting here with tears running down my face.:sad1: I lost my mother a little more than a year ago, and I know how much your heart is aching right now, and I know the conflicted feelings of relief and sadness. Relief that your mom is no longer in pain or suffering, and unbelievable sadness that she is no longer here with you.

It was incredibly difficult getting through the holidays last year without my mother. I missed her so, so much.:sad1: I couldn't listen to Christmas music because it just brought back such a flood of memories. This year I'm finding it easier to deal with the sadness. My heart still aches and I will always miss my mother, but with time, I find that memories of my mom make me smile more than make me cry.

The hardest thing, for me anyway, is never knowing what will trigger a memory of my mom. It could be seeing an elderly woman that looks like my mother, or someone carrying a purse like she carried. And, there are so many times that I wish I could tell my mother about the things going on in my kids' and my grandson's life. She would have been especially proud to see how well my youngest daughter has overcome her anxiety and is excelling in college and at dance.

Shortly after our mother passed away, my brothers and I were going through a box of keepsakes that our mother had put away just for us. I came across a slip of paper that was addressed to me and my brothers. Our mom had written down a few lines from a popular Christmas prayer:

I love you all dearly now don't shed a tear
I'm spending my Christmas with Jesus this year

That little slip of paper hit me harder than anything else I came across in that box of keepsakes. I think it was because I relalized that my mother somehow knew that she wasn't going to be around for another Christmas. She had shared the things in that box with me several times, and that slip of paper was never one of the things in that box. I cried so hard knowing that SHE felt she wasn't going to be around for another Christmas, yet no else knew she felt that way.

:hug:to you. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
 

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I am so very sorry your Mom has lost her battle to the beast :sad1:. Even though it's so heart breaking to lose a parent, know that she is home at last, resting in peace pain free and smiling upon you. May her warm and loving memories help guide you and ease the pain of getting through these very difficult days. :hug:
 
My beautiful mama peacefully went to be with Jesus at 2:24am this morning in her sleep. I will miss her so, so much but after seeing her fight this horrible disease for 12 years I am relieved she is no longer in pain and suffering.

Oh, I am so sorry. I hope you find peace that she went well and without pain, though.

I know we haven't met, but having spent some long periods of time together on that $1 travel contest, I really feel for you now and not just as a stranger on a website.

I offer you my deepest condolences from my family to yours. :grouphug:
 
So sorry hlane. Many hugs. I've been where you are at, mom died at home with hospice 11 years ago from cancer. As everyone has said, time will help ease the pain but I know that doesn't help at all in the here and now. Its also hard thinking now about your Dad being alone, we went through that too. Just know you'll all be okay.

Our local hospice sent a card last Xmas and it read "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." ~From a headstone in Ireland. I think its very true.

Our thoughts are with you.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad, too, died from cancer, after only a three month battle. It was a terrible shock, and thirteen years later, it still seems unreal at times, but the horrible pain does subside, and you'll start to remember the happy times, more than the sad. God bless your family.:hug:
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts. :hug:
 
I am so very, very sorry. :( My heart goes out to you and your family. God Bless your Mom and I hope she is at peace now and no longer in pain. :hug:

Jill
 














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