I am so very sorry for your loss.

I am sitting here with tears running down my face.

I lost my mother a little more than a year ago, and I know how much your heart is aching right now, and I know the conflicted feelings of relief and sadness. Relief that your mom is no longer in pain or suffering, and unbelievable sadness that she is no longer here with you.
It was incredibly difficult getting through the holidays last year without my mother. I missed her so, so much.

I couldn't listen to Christmas music because it just brought back such a flood of memories. This year I'm finding it easier to deal with the sadness. My heart still aches and I will always miss my mother, but with time, I find that memories of my mom make me smile more than make me cry.
The hardest thing, for me anyway, is never knowing what will trigger a memory of my mom. It could be seeing an elderly woman that looks like my mother, or someone carrying a purse like she carried. And, there are so many times that I wish I could tell my mother about the things going on in my kids' and my grandson's life. She would have been especially proud to see how well my youngest daughter has overcome her anxiety and is excelling in college and at dance.
Shortly after our mother passed away, my brothers and I were going through a box of keepsakes that our mother had put away just for us. I came across a slip of paper that was addressed to me and my brothers. Our mom had written down a few lines from a popular Christmas prayer:
I love you all dearly now don't shed a tear
I'm spending my Christmas with Jesus this year
That little slip of paper hit me harder than anything else I came across in that box of keepsakes. I think it was because I relalized that my mother somehow knew that she wasn't going to be around for another Christmas. She had shared the things in that box with me several times, and that slip of paper was never one of the things in that box. I cried so hard knowing that SHE felt she wasn't going to be around for another Christmas, yet no else knew she felt that way.

to you. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.