Mom as Matron of Honor?

[MainStMandy]

Ok so I am kinda stuck...My mom has kind of hinted about being my Matron of Honor...not what I had in my mind. During my first wedding I kinda think my mom's feelings were hurt because she didn't walk me down the aisle, just my dad did. My mom is my best friend, but I don't picture her as my Matron of Honor. I think MoB is a "different" position and I really want her to walk me down the aisle this time WITH my father.

Has anyone dealt with this or had their mother as MoH?

 

[Bride-to-be]

I have heard of it. You are in a tough predicament. Is there someone else who you would like to be the MOH? I feel like everyone makes sacrifices to keep their parents happy. Thats a huge sacrifice but if it makes your mom really happy then go for it.

We went invitation shopping today - I couldn't find anything I remotely liked and my mother has given up on our wedding being traditional. However my sister is have a much more traditional at home wedding. She found tons of invitations that she loved that were very classic looking. My mom made it very clear that she felt very strongly that they had to just be simple off white with black engraving in a nice script. no borders, no pictures, no ribbons, no nothing. My sister I think is not super happy about it - but she agreed and said that was fine - to make my mom happy.

So I guess if it were me I would ask myself how much it would annoy/upset me as compared to how happy it would make her. Weigh it out and see where you are.

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

Maybe you can tell her that you really wanted her to walk you down the aisle. She may like that and give up on wanting to be an MOH. I didn't have that problem. My mom didn't want to do anything but sit there and watch.

 

[lock3130]

Well I'm kind of in a different boat....I WANTED my mom to be my Matron of Honor. Her and my sisters (my other bridesmaids) are my best friends....so it just made sense. So, if you do end up asking her, you're not the only one to ever have your mom as a Matron of Honor.

Do what you feel comfortalbe with though!

 

[MainStMandy]

Thank you!!

I do have someone else in mind, and I really want my mom to walk me down the aisle BUT I don't want to hurt her feelings in the process. I guess it doesn't matter to me as long as the two people I have in mind are there. Maybe it bugs me because she asked...and I feel like I am doing it because she wants to not because I wanted her to.

 

[MainStMandy]

So I really want my mom to be involved but I am still unsure about MoH... I am thinking of giving my mom a card that says this:

Inside: Mother,
You're one of the
most important people
in my life.
You've loved me unconditionally
every step of the way.
Someone I've always counted on
and someone who has always been
there for me.
So,
that is why I'm asking
you today,
Will you please do me
the honor
of walking me down
the Aisle
on my special
Wedding Day?