Missing my sister

[MissManda]

November 6th marks the 5th anniversary of my sister's death. She died at age 29 after a year long battle with a rare form of aggressive MS that just ravaged her body.

She was my only sister and truly my best friend. There are some days that I still wonder how on earth I can make it though the rest of my life without her. I miss her so much it physically hurts. I wonder if that will ever go away (and yet, I don't know that I want it too).

Its so strange how life can move on but at the same time stand still. I get through each day but the pain of missing her is just as great now and it was then.

Hold onto your loved ones and never take the time you have with them for granted. It can be over way too soon. I wish I had more time with her.

 

[Disneylover99]

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I have three sisters who I love dearly and I cannot imagine the pain of losing one of them.
Remember your good times together and look after yourself, mentally, spiritually and physically.
Take care.

 

[kathie859]

I lost my older sister 30 years ago. It DOES get better but there are situations and events that trigger me to think of her. She was the family "organizer". She was musically talented, a great Mother, sister, friend, wife and daughter. Her death almost killed my father and changed family dynamics dramatically.

I still miss her. Life is different because of her absence.

The pain will go away. In my case, I used to silently have conversations with her just to feel some sort of connection--but that eventually stopped and all I have is some pretty good/funny/happy memories. It's enough.

 

[diz8297]

I lost my only, older sister on June 3rd. She was a mother figure, mentor, best friend and ally. Even though she was 14 years older, our children were close in age. I can't talk about this with many, because I should be "getting over it." She helped me greatly in taking care of our Mom. Mom now is in a nursing home. I talk to her all the time, but the slightest thing can go straight to my heart. I try to keep a wall up but when it cracks I cry uncontrollable sobs. I know I have to go on but I will never be "ok".

 

[mommasita]

Hoping and praying for easier times ahead, where you may smile at the beautiful memories you shared.

 

[Magic2000]

I lost my youngest brother in August. He was my best friend. He was only 44 years old. He just collapsed and died. SO unexpected.... I too wonder how life can go on without him here.
The holidays have been hard. I am so lost without him. The pain is still raw.
I am trying to enjoy the holidays with my family, but I still have my sad moments.

 

[Disneylover99]

I lost my youngest brother in August. He was my best friend. He was only 44 years old. He just collapsed and died. SO unexpected.... I too wonder how life can go on without him here.
The holidays have been hard. I am so lost without him. The pain is still raw.
I am trying to enjoy the holidays with my family, but I still have my sad moments.

I really have no words.......but I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[goofeygirl]

I believe your loved one's are with you spiritually and are trying to guide you on your journey through life. You will meet up with her again but I am sure she would want you to make the most of your life...go forward with your dreams because you can.
Use your gut instinct to help you and let your sister help you...with that feeling you have inside of you.

I know a dear friend of the family who was a twin had passed away and it devastated his family. It was so unexpected and so sudden, no one had time to say goodbye...he was there one moment and another moment gone for good. He left a one year old son behind. But his wife knows he is there with her along the way through the bad times which will turn to good times.

So try to laugh about the silly things you did as kids...and cry when you need to.

Don't be afraid to go for things in your life...new challenges...and know she is there beside you!

...and keep her memory alive by talking about her!

 

[diz8297]

Magic2000: I am sending you a hug. After 6 months I just know that I will always feel the pain from losing Sue. No one can take her place and sometimes I don't think I can make it. But I know I will see her again. And I believe that as the wall of grief starts to soften, I will feel her with me more. I agree with you Goofeygirl. I know she is with me. I just need to open my heart to it. May all of us who celebrate Christmas but continue to grieve a loss remember to be kind to ourselves. Give ourselves peaceful moments of meditation, and, yes, permission to cry. Hugs to all.

 

[mommasita]

Hugs to everyone....
Wishing you all the best for the holidays..

 

[Mommy a Deux]

I am going to be subscribing to this thread. Last May the I went to WDW for the first time in over 30 years. Took DS & DD for their first time. On our 4th day we went to MK and when we got off Tomorrowland Speedway I realized my phone was ringing and I had a bunch of txtx. LSS, my Mom was unexpectedly in ICU and her husband was talking about making decisions. He wanted us there. Threw everything in the car, and instead of spending the next 4 days at the World, I spent it at the hospital. The holidays have been awful, and planning for our upcoming trip to WDW in May, again, is sometimes happy and sometimes sad. I know that I will always miss her, but I must follow her example and keep putting one foot in front of the other every day.

 

[stasijane]

November 6th marks the 5th anniversary of my sister's death. She died at age 29 after a year long battle with a rare form of aggressive MS that just ravaged her body.

She was my only sister and truly my best friend. There are some days that I still wonder how on earth I can make it though the rest of my life without her. I miss her so much it physically hurts. I wonder if that will ever go away (and yet, I don't know that I want it too).

Its so strange how life can move on but at the same time stand still. I get through each day but the pain of missing her is just as great now and it was then.

Hold onto your loved ones and never take the time you have with them for granted. It can be over way too soon. I wish I had more time with her.

Its ironic that I just seen this but I feel your pain 100% Today is my only Sisters Birthday, she would have turned 30 today but unfortunately she was taken from me by a drunk driver about 14 years ago. This is always a hard time for my Mother and myself.

 

[diz8297]

I am so sorry, Stasijane. These special days/times are so very hard. I hope you and your Mom are able to do something special for yourselves and take good care.