Missing friend, update she drove to Disneyland

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Ok, the weirdest and freakiest thing i os going on here right now. My friend picked me up from somewhere a little after 3 yesterday, took me home and stayed with me til 5 orr so. She knew she was goimg to be staying with me for a little while so she had her middle son go pick up her youngest son and take him back to his dads house which is just 3 real short blocks from me. She and I start talkimg about our plans a trip to the casino for today, lunch on saturday, party at my house labor day weekend etc. I have known her 10 years and she is always the one I count on for back up rides for my kids to and from school etc. She was a long time school district employee til last year. Anyway she has gone through a real bitter divorce that seemed to be getting less contentious, her mom has breast cancer she has obviously had some depression over all this but seemed FINE yesterday. She left my house at 5 to go get her son 3 blocks away and go home about 2 miles away. She never showed up to get her son. Her oldest son went back over to her apt about 7 waited awhile and called me. I was immediately concened. No word from her. Her oldest son comes over at 10 wanting a few more details. Hospital has been called but I am not sure how that works with the hippa laws. The road to her house therte is only one way to get there. She cant drive after dark or long distances. She doesn't have a drinking problem. I just got off the phone with her son again and it is qboiut 2 30 here still no word. No answer on her cell. A missing persons report was filed hours ago. I will just wait til morning. I am pretty scared and upset. Her family and friemds could really use some good thoughts right now.



Ok update I spoke to her again, I asked if she went to the casino and she said no she drove out to disneyland :scared1:stopping several times on the way. I don't think she went it?? Heck maybe she did. I will be sure and find out. I know she stopped at the park that is halfway between my huuse and hers.

She just had something bring up some bad memories and went tilt I guess. She has been having a huge hard time falling asleep. (I have sleep problems so I relate) The divorce, alimony going down 800 a month starting next month etc.

I am totally terrified her ex will use this to go back to court and get full custody. That would destroy her. He is 15 and was with his brother so he was never in any danger but the dad might see this as a way to pay less support. The dad is a liar, cheater, abuser, verbablly abusicve, punches holes in walls and is deliberaltly manipulative and cruel. The line to testify against him would be long I am sure.

Anyways I just thought it was ironic I posted this on the Dis and thats where she was.
 
:grouphug: for you. That is SCARY! Are the police looking into it? I imagine they will be talking to the ex, since there was known tension. Does her cellular carrier have the ability to track her phone? Has someone checked all along the road between where your house is and where she was going--maybe she had a wreck and is off the road, where you cannot see the car.

I hope you get some answers soon!

Marsha
 
:grouphug: I hope everything is ok. Have you tried driving the road to get to the dad's house.. maybe she drove off the road by accident?
 

My husband, my mom and my son all drove the road in between the time she left my house and when her son called.

I HATE her cheating psycho husband but unless he called her to meet him and he was fast there wasnt really a way or time for him to do something. I am sure they can ping her phone she has ATT I think. I just was talking to my oldest daughter and we were both talking it over and even she said my friend seemed pretty happy. I am sure the police were able to say if there were any accidents involving her car since I am sure they gave a description and possibly looked up her tags. We have more then one hospital in the immediate area and I am going to suggest to her sons that they call or get the police to call the others.
 
I am so sorry and so worried for all of you! I pray things will be okay.
 
Oh also we live in in your typical southern callifornia new community, there are no bridges, lakes etc and it is all straighr well paved streets. I don't know what to think other then hope she is in a hospital for something and hipps is protecring her family from knowing.
 
:confused3

Your post says its 2:30 where you are-but it was posted at 6:50 AM central time.

Where do you live?

Police should get involved, IMO
 
I'm surprised the police got involved so soon. I thought they always made people wait 48 hours with adults who were missing unless there were signs of an abduction or violence.

Sometimes people who have been very depressed seem very happy when they make a decision to end their life. I hope that is NOT what is going on, but I have heard that is common.

Do you know if she was seeing anyone since the divorce?

Marsha
 
Bellep I copied my post from my other messaage board I post on,on It is now after 5 here and I am going to call again at 7
 
Not sure why the police got involved so soon or how seriously they are taking it. They have not come to my house.

The happy/suicide factor is at the very front of my mind. We had plans for this past sunday and she cancelled because she was having a tough time. I offered to go hang out with her at her house but she declined.
 
Wow, that is scary. So many things run through your mind. Please keep up updated. :hug:
 
:hug: I hope you hear something soon. Please keep us posted.
 
:hug: for you and :hug: for her boys... please keep looking and searching... not sure if you can go to the hospital and say you are looking for Jane Doe and they can tell you what room she is in, but if you call they cannot give you any info,....good luck and keep us posted
 
OP, I hope your friend is okay! Please keep us updated!
 
:hug: for you and :hug: for her boys... please keep looking and searching... not sure if you can go to the hospital and say you are looking for Jane Doe and they can tell you what room she is in, but if you call they cannot give you any info,....good luck and keep us posted
I have had hospitals tell me that the person I'm looking for is not there, but I believe that is all they can release (whether they're there or not.)
 
:grouphug: Hope everything is cleared up today and she just needed some to time alone to think and clear her head.
 
I agree with others-call the hospital and ask for her room-they can connect you to the phone in her room. That way you will know--they will also say we don't have her on record. That isn't a violation of HIPPA rules at all.

If she had some kind of restraining order or something on file with the police that might have been why they got involved earlier. I think there was some legislation to eliminate the wait period for missing adults-but that might have been local vs national (I can't remember).
 















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