MIL is dying! Things are getting worse!

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Yesterday after my test, I went to check on MIL, the night before she told me her feet and ankles where swollen. So she tried to get into the Dr.'s they told her they could not see her until Friday.

She is 79, and has just came home from the hospital last Monday. MIL has Cancer ( Multilple Mylemona) I took a look at her and knew she was not doing well, etc. I could not get her to eat, etc. So I went home and called my SIL we decided that one of us needs to get her into the Dr. I called and was able to get her in to her Dr.

The Dr. told her she was dying! At her own hands! She has just given up he told her. The swelling is from being Mal-Nurished! She has her whole back and butt are very red, from sitting and not wanting to get out of her chair. All of this in one week, Her breathing is shallow and low blood pressure. I think the Dr. wanted to put her back in the hospital. She did not want to go.etc.

The Dr. said her Depression has gotten very bad, and that she now needs to be treated like a child. He does not want her alone at all for at least 3 weeks. I tried to get her to come home with me, but she got mad.

I had to take her for some x-rays, of the chest, and today some kind of test of the lungs. Now they believe they found a shadow on her one lung, which we where told is the cancer!

I called SIL and told her everything, I went to DH's work and told him everything. I am not sure what the son's are going to do. DH wants to bring Mom here! I have no problem with that, so we are trying to get a room ready for her.

I feel so bad for MIL, as no one should have to Pass this way. I have gotten firm with MIL and she is pretty good to listen to me. She knows and understands that I am doing it for her own good. I do try to keep her humor up as well. The Dr. told her it is not her time yet to die. However she has just given up.

Dr. told me one thing and I am to call him. I did get her to eat lastnight for me. I would not be surprised if Mom is not back in the hospital at any time. Moms cancer is termiinal, I hope God will not let her suffer.
 
Hugs to you and prayers to your MIL and everyone involved.
 

:grouphug: :grouphug: Sorry your MIL is going thru this and you all are having to deal with it too :grouphug:
 
I'm so sorry you're going through this. My best friend just lost her dad due to cancer. He's lived with them for the past 6 months. It was hard, but an expereince she will always remember and cherish (having her dad at their home) Best of luck to you and lots and lots of hugs!
 
Might I suggest you get hospice in to assist??? Sounds to me like your MIL is an ideal canidate....

Good luck and best wishes

Brandy
 
I had to deal with similar issues with my dad. Sometimes the body just gets so warn out that the spirit decides not to fight any more. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this along with your own health issues.

Sending you hugs and pixie dust for the coming days. :grouphug: :wizard:
 
I'm sorry your family is facing this.
However, how your MIL chooses to die, especially with a 'sentence' of terminal cancer, is her choice. Have you looked into Hospice care? It is truly a godsend for those who are terminal. It will give her control, and choices, over what treatments she wants and how she wants to die. I STRONGLY recommend that you and your MIL investigate it.
 
I'm another advocate for Hospice. They'll provide all of the equipment that she'll need, as well as care and counseling.

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I am so sorry to hear this of your MIL. My FIL has the same cancer. He has been having treatments for 2 years now, but my DH and I are really seeing some rapid changes in him these last couple of months. It is so hard to sit back and let them make their own decisions. Our family has lost all faith in his doctor and are really trying to get him to see another, but he will not!!!!
I lost my Mom to cancer in 2000 and this is really beginning to get the best of me.
If you need anything, please call on all your DIS friends. We are here for you!
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I just went through this with my DA. She passed away last week. Hospice was great. They offer great support for the Patient and the family. Please take care of yourself also. :grouphug:
 
:grouphug: I also think Hospice would be good, you need to take care of yourself also.
 
CALL HOSPICE! They are wonderful. It sounds like she may be the type that doesn't want Hospice, but if you can get them there to talk to her she might change her mind.
 


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