MIL can't get excited over our trip

[flortlebap]

So what can I do to help? She enjoyed the last trip but she just isn't looking forward to it this time - she said she could take it or leave it

What can I do?? It's horrible when other people aren't as excited as you are...

 

[Mickey1122]

Show her the commercial for the Year of a Million Dreams on mydisneyparks.com. That is probably the most compelling commercial I have ever scene. It does a wonderful job of portraying the experience of Disney over the ride aspect. It shows you how much fun you can have.
Also let her help plan a little bit. Ask her where she would liek to eat and what she would like to do. She will have to remember last trip to do this. By doing that, she'll remember how much fun she had.

 

[MartDM]

Not everyone goes over the moon each time the visit Disney. Lay off her & let her approach the vacation in the flow that works for her. Trying to force her to match your level of excitement will just leave you both frustrated.

 

[Jasminesmommy]

I wouldn't worry about it. Once you all get there she will be just as excited.

 

[nyfinfan]

I wouldn't think that their is much you can do. Either she is excited or she isn't. I'm sure she will have good time once she's there.

 

[SnwflkCts]

I wish my MIL would even GO anywhere. But she won't - she is too busy worrying about every little thing to even enjoy life ... ok off topic but I was just thinking how nice it would be to share some of the fun DH and I have going places with my MIL.

Did she have a good time last time? Is she worried about the travel? Anyway, I hope she gets a little more excited for your sake.

 

[*Fantasia*]

If she is not excited.. she doesn't have to come if she doesn't want to. Is she paying for her own trip? Maybe she is worried that she may not be able to afford the whole trip and may come short with money.

If you are paying for hers and she is not getting into Disney, I would probably just tell her that instead of Disney, maybe she can come to another different trip and maybe she will get excited about it. Maybe she is not too excited about Disney cause she has done Disney already.

 

[flortlebap]

Well, the thing is she DOES have to come... she's paid for all 10 of us to go!!

She does like it there, she doesn't want to go on the plane but she says she may feel better once she gets there. The trip is meant to be celebrating the fact that she's still alive (she nearly died of a brain tumour 18 months ago) but instead I get the impression she doesn't feel like a complete person because of the illness she had (and is now fully recovered from)...

I've never seen that commercial before but I'll keep it bookmarked!!

 

[SnwflkCts]

I think she is just worried and that kind of cancels out excitement. I've felt that way before. I think she will be better once she is there. I wish you lots of pixie dust on your trip.

Your MIL sounds very nice to take you all on such a wonderful trip. Good luck! Tell us about it when you return!

 

[pepe of ohio]

let her be herself. After a life threatening experience, ones outlook does change on life. It takes time for memories and wounds to heal and everyone does this at their own pace and way. I'm not a flyer either, have done is years ago just to please our grown kids a couple of times but now we're Amtrak travelers, not the fastest way but for my nerves and liking, the smoothest, wife and I do the train and the kids fly and meet us there. We're looking on maybe getting my rear up in the air again but we'll see. From our own experiences, we're late 50-ish, I feel a burden anymore dragging my old **** around the parks holding up the younger people but daughter and son in law never complain and basically go at our pace, we stay 9-12 nights, stay deluxe and see and do it all, not commando anymore but a nice leisurely pace with noon time breaks at the resort pool, more to their liking, and hardly have late late night park sessions. We prefer, all of us, to see a park to our extent, return to resort and hit the pool with some cocktails and snacks and either bob in the pool, late night and gab or sit at a beach table and chew the fat. When we get old, we try not to be a burden to the younger set. Our minds say we're young but our bodies don't respond the same way. When my mother used to go to WDW with us, she's now 85 and not able to do it, we paced ourselves around her staminia and let her stay back at the resort when she didn't feel up to a park walk, she enjoyed the resort and always did dinner and breakfasts with us and felt a aprt when we reminenced around the pool, always thankful for the years she attended WDW with us, My dad and mom started me and my family on this mouse addiction back in 1977, through his work and the Magic Kingdom Club we're done over 38 visits, had our daughter do the college program for 6 months, come home and graduate college and return to Florida and give WDW another year of employment to return to her home state, get married and now we all vacation together to the happiest place on earth. Memories built over these years can never be taken from us.

 

[Glendamax]

I went through the same thing with my Mother this year. After awhile I stopped trying to get her excited, and I just focused on the trip. Comming on here helped alot. Stop using your energy on her, and use it on yourself! Have fun! This is what I did!

 

[dismikki]

At least she is fun enough to go! My husband's whole family is going (10 grandkids under age 10) and she doesn't want to go because she has been there before. Nevermind that it was 15 years ago and with no kids! I have tried everything, but no luck. So enjoy your trip, I'm sure you will all have a great time, including MIL.

 

[Eoywin]

I have a similar problem - my fiancee (will be husband on Saturday!!) and I are going to WDW next year for our honeymoon.

I'm excited already since I've wanted to go back for several years now. He told me that he won't get excited until about week before we leave

I'm going to make him watch the new planning dvd once I get it, and make him help me plan this trip.

 

[yankeepenny]

can I make a suggestion? how about if you take mom just for a tea/lunch or do something special just the two of you? or maybe go to DD for a couple of hours or do your own touring, maybe peruse the world showcase? or, even mini golf? it would give her something ot look forward too.