Men, I just do not get them

[mom2kazkids]

When we started to plan our trip to WDW I showed DH the menu for Le Cellier, and he flat out refused to go there. I was also the same for CRT for either lunch or dinner. So I planned the Plaza resturant in MK as a table service, and Rose and Crown in Epcot as a table service. (We are on the dining plan). A few weeks ago I decided that I would really like to eat a meal in the castle, so I show the menus to DH again, now he decides that supper in the castle would be OK. Now today I have been thinking about Le Cellier and wanting to go there in place of Rose and Crown, (will just pay for the kids and use their table service credits towards our meals) so I show Dh the menus for R&C and LeCellier, now he thinks that we should go to LeCellier. I just do not get it, a few months ago both places were out, now DH thinks that they are OK places. OH WELL, at least I get to try the places I want to go to.

Barb

 

[Cyndiu]

I find that my DH doesn't hear a word I say until he's ready to hear it. Also, he disagrees if I present ideas before he's ready to hear them. He's not a jerk, he just doesn't plan as far in advance as I do. We sort of have an agreement about WDW. Whatever I plan, he does. It works for me!!

 

[pbharris4]

And they think us women can't make up our minds!!!

 

[Laugh O. Grams]

Wait a minute...this is a thread...with 3 women complaining about...men changing their minds?!?!?!?

 

[Cyndiu]

I don't think women change their minds more than men. I think men hear what they want to hear rather than what is actually said, thus thinking we are changing our minds instead of hearing us correctly the first time. So there.

 

[pbharris4]

I couldn't have said that better myself. My DH claims I never said anything in the 1st place. I'm on to him though. )

 

[njchris]

Show him the menus when he is hungry. That way I'd bet he'd approve more easily.

 

[Martha7]

I was just going to say that. He probably wasn't hungry the first time you showed him the menu!

 

[MAGGIED]

We have an agreement - I plan - he will do what I plan... it is that simple...

 

[ncbyrne]

DH and I have been married for 30 years. After about 15 years I quit asking his opinion when I realized he'd rather have me do all the planning anyway. He's just like all the other husbands mentioned on this thread...liked it one day, not the next! I know what kind of food and ambience he likes, so I take it from there. Each day when we wake up in WDW I tell him where we're going and what we're doing that day - works for us.

 

[KilleriMac17]

the real question is, when did you ask him, and had you been chattering all day already about things.

Remember, if you have been nagging a guy already about stuff, at some point he will turn off what you are saying(since, like my wife, she will change subjects mid-sentance without warning and keep talking and you dont know what she is talking about so end up just nodding and not pay attention). thus, he could have have been saying no even if you asked him if he wanted 1 billion dollars..

 

[Toadman99]

Yeah - in my experience I find I can't process everything. For example, I will occasionally find that over a course of days I will get ideas thrown at me about all the things we need to have done to the house. To her she is just brainstorming, but to me it feels like an overwhelming burden. I prefer to concentrate on one thing at a time. I'm all for planning ahead - but let's actually plan it, not just get excited and start piling stuff on. But that sort of situation sometimes leads me to be negative about a lot of the ideas right off the bat, which isn't good.

On the other hand - I'm the one doing the planning for our WDW trip. So I will bring up details about the trip to get buy-in from my DW. I get mixed reactions. Sometimes I get "whatever you think is best dear", sometimes I get some sort of knee-jerk negative reaction, and sometimes we actually end up discussing and planning it. In general - she is glad I'm doing the planning, and I haven't been too frustrated yet. I think she is a little worried that I will be too commando about it - I'm trying to avoid that. Hopefully I will schedule a reasonably relaxing vacation and my planning doesn't go out the window when we actually get there.

- Todd

 

[kirbsam]

Darn, I was really hoping for some fireworks on this thread. I guess this topic doesn't instill emotions like pool hopping, refillable mugs, or those other evil subjects. Isn't anyone going to get all offended???? Please....anyone???

 

[Maureenmouse]

My husband was the same way about the Castle. He outright refused to go there before I made PS for our upcoming trip. Then when I read all about our dining plan and realized that the children credits can be saved and used for another meal for DH and me, I showed him the castle menu again and he thought it would be a good place to dine. It figures. It seems many DHs think the same way.

 

[bard721]

Being willing to go to WDW on a fairly regular basis was on my list of deal breakers when I was dating. My DH knew what he was in for, sort of, when we got married 23 years ago. He asks me to limit my WDW conversations to about 45 minutes a day when I'm in full planning mode. I do, and he actively listens, considers, and lets me know what he thinks.

 

[DISNEYBIGGDOGG]

That is why I do all the planning for my family and my DW goes along with all of. We have been to WDW so many time and I know what she and the kids like to eat so we never have any problems.

 

[Nini]

My dh will say "you never said that...I have a good memory!" even when I have said it repeatedly. Now, I just write what he needs to know regarding birthdays, appts., events and general info (short blurbs) on our family calendar hanging in the kitchen. This way, there is NO excuse!!!

By the way... I do NOT consider talking to my husband "nagging"! Men have such a different take on conversations than women do! While I don't like to admit it, I feel that I must "edit" what I say so he does not feel that I am complaining or nagging...it's a bummer.

In short, I keep my conversations edited down to basic information needed. He just cannot handle too much info and goes on overload otherwise! So much for men...

 

[kelleigh1]

I actually recently read about this study where they said men change their minds more often than woman.

And I seriously think it's because they tune us out. I haven't even been married a year yet, but from planning the wedding to just about everything we do...he lets me do the planning. If there's something he really wants to do, he lets me know. I'll ask him for his input...usually when I know I've got his attention and if he has a solid opinion one way or the other, I can tell. Otherwise I make most of the decisions. Life is so much simpler that way.

 

[WDW LOVR]

My WIFE says just plan it and I'll do whatever. I think it's more related to personality than gender. Some of us are planners and some are not.