Mean spirited kids

[teacups]

Have you ever seen or heard a neighbor kid being downright mean or nasty?
A kid who has one of those socially mean personalities, but is a kiss up to adults? "let's not let Suzy be our friend today" "Let's all ignore Suzy today" "Let's all call Suzy fat and stupid", that kind of thing, and more. Do you let your kids suffer through it to learn a life lesson or do you find other things for your kid to do so she wont have to be in that circle... or do you permanetly keep her away from this kid in future? These kids are 7,8,9.

 

[Iott Family]

Kids like this are bully's. I dont see a lesson to be learned by making your kid play with such a tarb(brat spelled backwards!). If this behavior is happening in your home I would walk said tarb child home and explain to the parent why that child is no longer welcome on your property. If this kid is bullying your child at his home Id ask the parent whats up with that! Setting all that aside, I would encourage my child to play in a different circle and explain to him/her why you are doing this and what bully's are. Meaning a bully is a person with a low self esteem who projects their own inssues onto others to try and gain exceptance.

Im sorry you are dealing with this. Most kids who are bully's have a parent or parents who are donkey butts, too!

 

[teacups]

Most kids who are bully's have a parent or parents who are donkey butts, too!

You hit the nail on the head.

 

[GreatDaneMom]

No, I don't let my kids hang with these punks. It's bad enough you have to deal with them in the workplace when you're a grownup. I try to teach the kids to just smile and keep their distance from people like that.

 

[HappyHeart]

No good is going to come from letting your children continue any type of relationship with the bully kids.

I've known a child like that. Her parents had her late in life, they had trouble conceiving. So to them, this child was an angel and they refused to see any thing she was doing wrong. It was always someone elses fault, someone else's problem, etc.

Except now the child is a teenager and is on an extremely bad path. Her parents still do not believe that their child "did that."

The more this child gets away with, the more this child does bad things.

 

[PrincessMom2002]

We had two (not related and they weren't even friends with eachother) who fortunately moved away. None of the parents on my street (including me) would let our kids play with these boys. I am not normally one to yell at other people's kids but there were several occassions where I had to step in. One of the boys was 5 years older than my son, yet he would do everything he could to torment him. The other kid was younger. Both boys were very hateful and viscious to the other kids. The older one once killed a frog in front of all the little kids on our street. When I realized what he was doing I went screaming down the street at him. I do feel for both boys though because their home lives weren't exactly stable. And I really do believe they were crying out for attention. However, I was not going to let my kids endure their torment. Ever since they moved, things have been pretty peaceful around here, and aside from the usual kid spats, they all get along very well.

 

[Robinrs]

There's one in every crowd and every age group. I told my son that I saw it even in the elderly independent home I used to work in!!

 

[3jsmommy]

It is not only little girls that do this, but grown woman as well...bullies never grow up & often never shut up!!!

 

[Val]

We have one in our neighborhood....a girl same grade as DD10, but in the other class. Caught her catching our cats in our yard, carrying them to the neighbor's yard (not hers) and dropping them so their lab would chase our cats. Our Golden apparently "won't chase" so she had to go next door.......when you call her on it she seems remorseful. It just seems that "mean" is her first behavior, but when she stops and thinks she gets that maybe that is not appropriate. Ugh! At least the bus driver and teachers are on to her......she gets caught so often you'd think she'd give up being mean!

 

[MushyMushy]

It is not only little girls that do this, but grown woman as well...bullies never grow up & often never shut up!!!

HA! I was just going to post the same thing. I'm going through something similar myself right now.

To answer Teacups, I would remove my child from the situation, especially at that age.

 

[castleview]

This is tough for me also since we have a next door neighbor who we have to deal with. If she wasn't the only neighbor we had or her parents weren't friendly with us, we wouldn't allow DD to hang around with her. I try and limit their time together and have even flat out refused to let them drive to an activity together because it was getting to be too much. Right now, things are fine but at the end of the summer, it will be awful.