Maybe this isnt the right place to put this but....

[AshtonsMom99]

My DS who just recently turned 10 is starting to notice his body changing a little bit. He is always very open to show me these difference, but is afraid to talk to me about them, and why its hapening. He was at school yesterday in the library looking for books about it. His teacher gave me the heads up through an email. He talks to his step father, but I think he is afraid to talk to him about it in depth....Is giving him a book about it the best approach or no? I hate to be the kind of parent who just gives his kid a book and says here read it...without ever talking about it again.....EEP what to do?

 

[PollyannaMom]

I'd say if that's your kid's comfort zone, then definitely make sure he has a book. Just also tell him that it's a book that's meant to be talked about - that you expect him to have questions and it's fine to ask you, and that you even may ask him some too.

Then, if doesn't come to you to talk about it, ask him things like -
Is there anything that didn't make sense to you?
Anything that surprised you?
Grossed you out?
etc.

Good luck!

 

[AshtonsMom99]

Great advice! Thanks.....Do you know of any really good boooks about it. I have seen some that aren't quite so kid friendly even though they claim to be.

 

[mjkacmom]

When my kids turn 10, I give them the book It's So Amazing, which covers pretty much everything - body changes, feelings, sex, homosexuality, STD's, etc. There are also drawings of naked human bodies, all ages. It's informative, and funny. I then asked if they had any questions, which they did. If you start the conversation before the teen years, it's MUCH easier to keep the window open. I'll bring up sexuality when we're watching TV - subjects like teen pregnancy, oral sex, feeling pressured, etc.

 

[AshtonsMom99]

Is that the name of the book? It's so amazing? If not what is it called?

 

[mjkacmom]

Is that the name of the book? It's so amazing? If not what is it called?

LOL - yes, that is the name of the book. Another book, I think from the same author, gearing for kids a little older, I believe, is It's Perfectly Normal. I need to get this for dd12.

 

[K and K's Mommy]

Funny you should ask about books... I just got one to read with my 9 year old DS. It is called On Your Mark, Get Set, Grow! by Lynda Madaras. It pretty thoroughly covers puberty and what happens to boys bodies.

 

[loveysbydesign]

Thank you for bringing up this subject! My almost 10 y.o ds needs one of these books now!

 

[AshtonsMom99]

Hey you are welcome......I do what i can...

 

[mickeeemouse]

My DS 10 just got a pimple the other day and he is picking it saying I don't want to have a pimple and to go out and by clear care, so now he is washing his face every night. Of course didn't he get glasses the same day too, poor kid I think he was totally stressed out. Next year I know they have the class in fifth grade for the kids but I would love to get him a book about it. The other day his sister was running around with no diaper 15 months big time diaper rash and of course she went pee and he was going where does her pee come out of her butt next day we put one of her brothers 4 year old t shirts on her to run around without the diaper . They stay young only so long. Thanks for the book titles.

 

[loveysbydesign]

These are the 3 books I seemd to like the best on amazon, just trying to decide which one to get for my ds.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...t_shr?_encoding=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&v=glance
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...t_shr?_encoding=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&v=glance
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...t_shr?_encoding=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&v=glance
I'm leaning towards the last 1 for him and maybe one of the others for my almost 7 y.o. dd, whichever seems more appropriate.

 

[mjkacmom]

These are the 3 books I seemd to like the best on amazon, just trying to decide which one to get for my ds.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...t_shr?_encoding=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&v=glance
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...t_shr?_encoding=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&v=glance
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...t_shr?_encoding=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&v=glance
I'm leaning towards the last 1 for him and maybe one of the others for my almost 7 y.o. dd, whichever seems more appropriate.

We have it's so amazing - I like that it gets into every aspect of sexuality (might not be appropriate for a 7 year old), and not just puberty. Even though I don't expect ds10 to be sexual any time soon, talking about it early makes it much easier to talk about it when it's relevant (I don't think I could talk about oral sex with dd12 if we hadn't started the dialogue years ago - she's in middle school, and the walls are coming up).

 

[chris&adrimom]

In our school district in the 5th grade, the school nurse gives a talk to the girls about thier periods and changes in thier bodies. They watch a video, get a little packett which contains menstrual supplies, deodorant, and a book. The boys are taken to another room and also watch a video and get some answers to questions they may not feel comfortable asking mom and dad about. The boys also get a book and deodorant. Usually a female talks to the girls, and a male talks to the boys. A parent permission form is sent home of course. The kids are then encouraged to go home and talk with thier parents about what they've learned.

 

[trustknoone]

We bought DD10 the On Your Mark, Get Set, Grow!: A "What's Happening to My Body?" book for girls when she was 6, she still reads it and we have discussed it end to end. Well this is 5th grade for us now and they were covering all the health stuff and she had questions about boys, since we had liked the girls book so much we bought her the boys version. This one has also sparked lots of discussion They are both such well written books I can recommend them both without reservation. I had DH read the boy one before we gave it to her and he said it was accurate and and as well written as the girls book which he has also read.


Disclaimer
I would definitely recommend reading whatever you choose before you give it to your child so you don't get surprised by the content.
What I and others may or may not find acceptable and age appropriate may differ.