Maybe it's because I'm getting older

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Do you ever notice an acquaintance or friend who always seems to have input on almost anything anyone is discussing? Maybe it's because I'm getting older and have little patience for it, but it really seems to be bothering a bit more than it used to. No matter what the subject is, this person has information, personal experience and/or facts that they just HAVE to share. Even sharing facts and information to such a degree and in such a way that they really seem to be trying way too hard to be involved. I guess I need to learn some new social skills because it's getting pretty painful biting my tongue.

Am I alone in this? Do you ever witness this and just shake your head wondering if there is a subject matter they might pass on? If you're better at ignoring it than I am, please tell me how you do it.

 

[MickeySP]

Not alone I love an off button on myself & friends. There is a reason silence is golden

 

[ronandannette]

If you're having these discussions with people, don't you expect them to contribute? And at the ripe old age of 45, yes, there are actually quite a lot of topics I am personally familiar with - more so than say, when I was in my 20's. I toss in my perspective during conversations about them - maybe you'd consider that "know it all" behaviour.

 

[MidnightParade]

Like the person is just waiting for you to stop talking so they can start talking about them self? And how their stuff is just more interesting and more important? Yeap, it's not just you. On the bright side you really don't need to pay attention. Just go on auto pilot and think about anything else and just kinda nod your head sometimes.......or slowly go cross eyed and see how long it takes them to stop talking and ask you about it. Lolz.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

If you're having these discussions with people, don't you expect them to contribute? And at the ripe old age of 45, yes, there are actually quite a lot of topics I am personally familiar with - more so than say, when I was in my 20's. I toss in my perspective during conversations about them - maybe you'd consider that "know it all" behaviour.

These aren't one on one conversations at all. There are many, many individuals involved in these discussions, but that one individual seems to always have a story or information well beyond what is needed. I find it annoying in that setting to do what this individual does.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Not alone I love an off button on myself & friends. There is a reason silence is golden

Good to know it's not just me.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Like the person is just waiting for you to stop talking so they can start talking about them self? And how their stuff is just more interesting and more important? Yeap, it's not just you. On the bright side you really don't need to pay attention. Just go on auto pilot and think about anything else and just kinda nod your head sometimes.......or slowly go cross eyed and see how long it takes them to stop talking and ask you about it. Lolz.

That explains it quite well, thank you very much!

 

[Sabeking]

Yes...it bothers me and I see it on the Dis everyday. The same people over and over and over again..... They are armchair doctors, lawyers, gluten free specialists, allergy experts, buttering bread etiquette experienced, psychotherapist trained, PTA presidents, coached every team this side of Alaska, social climate skilled, professional parent, abuse aware, knowledgable about everything not nailed down people.....

 

[ronandannette]

Yes...it bothers me and I see it on the Dis everyday. The same people over and over and over again..... They are armchair doctors, lawyers, gluten free specialists, allergy experts, buttering bread etiquette experienced, psychotherapist trained, PTA presidents, coached every team this side of Alaska, social climate skilled, professional parent, abuse aware, knowledgable about everything not nailed down people.....

Place a roll and a pat of butter on your bread plate, which will be located above and slightly to the left of your dinner plate. Break off a piece of roll, butter it (with the butter knife that should have been on the edge of your bread plate, not your dinner knife) and eat. Repeat the steps, until you've consumed your roll or had enough. Pretty sure anybody who's been on the DIS for any length of time could have nailed this one...
(Sorry - I couldn't resist!)

 

[TipsyTraveler]

Place a roll and a pat of butter on your bread plate, which will be located above and slightly to the left of your dinner plate. Break off a piece of roll, butter it (with the butter knife that should have been on the edge of your bread plate, not your dinner knife) and eat. Repeat the steps, until you've consumed your roll or had enough. Pretty sure anybody who's been on the DIS for any length of time could have nailed this one...
(Sorry - I couldn't resist!)

Do you know how sometimes a group of people are talking and then there's that one person who, no matter the subject, just has to jump in with information they just HAVE to share?

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

These aren't one on one conversations at all. There are many, many individuals involved in these discussions, but that one individual seems to always have a story or information well beyond what is needed. I find it annoying in that setting to do what this individual does.

It annoys the crap out of me as well. I have a friend who does exactly this. My husband leaves the room every time. She does not notice.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Yes...it bothers me and I see it on the Dis everyday. The same people over and over and over again..... They are armchair doctors, lawyers, gluten free specialists, allergy experts, buttering bread etiquette experienced, psychotherapist trained, PTA presidents, coached every team this side of Alaska, social climate skilled, professional parent, abuse aware, knowledgable about everything not nailed down people.....

There is an entire clique of them here and god forbid you have a differing opinion. They will come at you over and over and over again.

 

[lorimay]

Oh yes, I have someone like that. We don't get together often but when we do she gives me a migraine.
After 10 years, I have learned to just let her talk and I nod and let her go. I don't ask more questions or say much cause that just encourages her to go on even more.
She loves to repeat herself too. She talks about something I have personally gone thru and tries to tell me about like I don't know anything about the subject after I lived it.

 

[Luv2Run]

Ugh, my ex-husband was like this. A constant one-upper. His favorite phrase was, "Oh yeah? Well, I do you one better. This one time, I..." It used to drive me crazy, because not only could I not hold a conversation with him, but he would annoy me around our friends. I brought it up with him once, and he claimed he was just giving "life advice".

I'm so glad I'm not married to this man anymore.

 

[ronandannette]

Do you know how sometimes a group of people are talking and then there's that one person who, no matter the subject, just has to jump in with information they just HAVE to share?

Good one!

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm pretty sure that's a DIS specialty.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

And here I thought that was how adult conversation worked.

 

[SC Minnie]

I have a coworker who always has to be the last one talking. This can be in a meeting or on a conference call. He has to ask a question or make a statement to be the last one heard. It drive me crazy. After 10 years of this it is now a running joke among others here.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

And here I thought that was how adult conversation worked.

Then you're doing it wrong.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Yes...it bothers me and I see it on the Dis everyday. The same people over and over and over again..... They are armchair doctors, lawyers, gluten free specialists, allergy experts, buttering bread etiquette experienced, psychotherapist trained, PTA presidents, coached every team this side of Alaska, social climate skilled, professional parent, abuse aware, knowledgable about everything not nailed down people.....

Exactly this! Glad I'm not the only one.