May 10, 2008 Ship of Thieves...May 2008 Repo Thread...Part 12

[taysmom]

wow..you live close by..thats cool. I used to live in fullerton on gilbert st. back in the day. I never went to disney when I lived there

 

[gydell]

I have all our clothes together and can not find the "prince charming" medal for dgs outfit. I had it a couple of weeks ago and put it where I would remember. Do you think I can remember???

 

[taysmom]

Thanks Nan. No, you're not ranting at me. Because of his breakdown a few days ago and seeing how frustrated he is, I did mention it to his dad again, and now his dad is backsliding on me about meds again and unfortunately, I have to have his approval because of the legal arrangement we have in our custody order, or go through the court to order him to give him whatever the pediatrician prescribes if the court agrees. Besides, I doubt there's enough time before the cruise anyway. Since everybody reacts differently to different meds, it could take many weeks (took months for my nephew) of trial and error to find one that works, and even with meds, both the OT and psychologist told us that it will likely be many weeks before we see effects because he'll have to go through the process of learning new ways of expressing the stuff he's doing now. He has an appointment Monday to check the fluid in his ears again, so I'll ask the ped then, but I'm not sure she even knows much of what's been going on because we've been going to the OT and psychologist, not pediatrician.

Too bad you can't give him to his dad for a while so he can see the daily struggles. I know with my dd's father, the minute I mention that he can have her he totally backs off and starts to get on board. But have I mentioned he's a wuss..
Looks like court is your only action...you can't continue on this wishy washy trail when it comes to the well being of your child. Good thing you work at a law firm, maybe someone could do some probono work for you

 

[HollyTyler]

Have a good time at the meet everybody!

I suppose I'd better force myself into the shower so I can pick Tyler up and not be stinky. Might go see some llamas today. He really, really loves those goofy animals!

 

[gaylean93]

wow..you live close by..thats cool. I used to live in fullerton on gilbert st. back in the day. I never went to disney when I lived there

We live close. I will not give you my address on here though! We usually have season passes but they expired in Feb. and I didn't want to get them again until after the summer. It's too crowded for me in the summer.

 

[gaylean93]

Thanks Nan. No, you're not ranting at me. Because of his breakdown a few days ago and seeing how frustrated he is, I did mention it to his dad again, and now his dad is backsliding on me about meds again and unfortunately, I have to have his approval because of the legal arrangement we have in our custody order, or go through the court to order him to give him whatever the pediatrician prescribes if the court agrees. Besides, I doubt there's enough time before the cruise anyway. Since everybody reacts differently to different meds, it could take many weeks (took months for my nephew) of trial and error to find one that works, and even with meds, both the OT and psychologist told us that it will likely be many weeks before we see effects because he'll have to go through the process of learning new ways of expressing the stuff he's doing now. He has an appointment Monday to check the fluid in his ears again, so I'll ask the ped then, but I'm not sure she even knows much of what's been going on because we've been going to the OT and psychologist, not pediatrician.

I agree. The meds could take a while but I know some people that got instant results.

 

[gydell]

Holly I'm sorry about everything that is going on. Is there anyway they can get Tyler on meds sooner rather than later? The will make a world of difference. I hate when kids suffer because they don't understand what is going on with there minds and bodies. Hopefully things will take a turn for the better soon!

 

[pahrumpgirl]

Yeah! What she said! I had the same exact experiences.

I've had the same thing happen to me when it comes to crafting/scrapbooking. I am finally able to start THINKING about scrapbooking w/o going into a panic attack.....slowly but surely I will get there.

Monica.

My therapist told me that one of the first things depression sucks out of you is your desire to do anything creative. For those of us who enjoy doing creative things that is a great loss. That is how I know I am slowly but surely getting back on track. I find myself wanting to do something creative at times and actually doing it. Then I lose the desire but it comes back. I will be glad when it is back for good. By the way, have you started riding your stationery bike again? I am happy to say that I am up to 4 miles on mine. And this from someone who doesn't like to exercise.

Thanks Deborah. This is just the tip of the iceburg. Lots of other stuff going on that I won't post here, but I've had 2 friends tell me they suspect depression. Just trying to cope and will try to talk to doctors soon.

Holly, I was going to suggest this. You sound like you have a lot of the symptoms and as well as the fact you have every right to be. Talk to your doctors about something for you. Don't let it get away from you like I did. Tyler needs you too much right now.

Looking forward to picking Tyler up in a few hours. Hoping he's in better spirits. I didn't mention this because it made me too sad, but last time I was with Tyler, on the way to his dad's house on Wednesday, he had sort of a breakdown. He's been pretty testy for a week or so and I was a bit angry with him for being very disrespectful. He apologized for something he'd said and was silent for a while. Then, he just started crying and while sobbing, he told me he's so tired of always being in trouble with everybody at school and both homes. He says he tries so hard and still is always in trouble and says he just can't take KAP anymore. KAP is the morning program called Kindergarten Activities Program that he goes to before lunch and afternoon kindergarten. He told me he can't handle everybody being mad at him anymore and doesn't know what to do about it.

It was absolutely heartbreaking and I actually ended up crying after I dropped him off. He wasn't crying in a bratty way, he was just sobbing out of frustration. It was horrible to see somebody so young be so sad and down on himself. Heartbreaking. I just reminded him that we're not mad at him but that it does get frustrating for us too just like it does him, and that everybody (family, teachers, doctors) are still trying to work out what would be best to help him. I feel so helpless to see him so sad.

I know every parent has problems with their kids, and I don't mean to make it sound like he's the only kid with issues, but that's just way too much sadness for a 5 year old to carry. Took me forever to type this because it made me cry all over again.

Poor baby, I would definitely talk to his OT and doctor. He needs some help NOW not when they are ready. IMHO

Carol

 

[gydell]

19 more days for us!

 

[fourmcds]

OK, a horrible week is over. But the good part now is that in a few hours it will be Passover. My favorite holiday of the year.

The bad news is that Sukie is REALLY sick. He's got some horrible head cold and a very bad sore throat.

There is no way he can go out today, nor go to the seder tonight. I think I am going to have to call to cancel, because I really don't want to leave him at home on his own. That is a complete bummer. I was really looking forward to tonight.

On the bright side I suppose, the seder tonight can be considered a "substitute sacrifice" (I'm translating into English and that is the closest I can come to the Yiddish word).

I suppose that the we are "substitute sacrificing" the seder tonight, a smaller event, to take the place of a larger event we are looking forward to, the cruise.

But he really is quite, quite ill.

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Still no parcels arrived yesterday from Bulgaria.

Happy Pesach Ian. We are forgoing a sedar at all this year because it is just too stressful of a time for us all. I went out today to try and find some matzo....every store was sold out,

Hope Sukie feels better soon.

 

[HollyTyler]

Too bad you can't give him to his dad for a while so he can see the daily struggles. I know with my dd's father, the minute I mention that he can have her he totally backs off and starts to get on board. But have I mentioned he's a wuss..
Looks like court is your only action...you can't continue on this wishy washy trail when it comes to the well being of your child. Good thing you work at a law firm, maybe someone could do some probono work for you

Oh, his dad sees it. He still insists, "Oh, he'll come around". When I told the OT that, she said, "OK, well, if he wants to live in La La Land, Tyler will keep floundering and struggling." She's really mad at his dad's denial and is furious that he hasn't been to OT yet. I told his dad that and he told me he wants to come to the next appointment on Wednesday to talk to her about why she insists on meds. DUH! I think she'll enjoy sinking her teeth into him and he'll run out of there with his tail between his legs.

 

[gydell]

Oh, his dad sees it. He still insists, "Oh, he'll come around". When I told the OT that, she said, "OK, well, if he wants to live in La La Land, Tyler will keep floundering and struggling." She's really mad at his dad's denial and is furious that he hasn't been to OT yet. I told his dad that and he told me he wants to come to the next appointment on Wednesday to talk to her about why she insists on meds. DUH! I think she'll enjoy sinking her teeth into him and he'll run out of there with his tail between his legs.

Turn her loose on him!

 

[fourmcds]

Michelle,

You have hit a WEAK SPOT for me. I LOVE chocolate covered matzo. I was very brave and did not buy any this year. I did stand in the aisle in the supermarket and look longingly at it, while it sang to me.

As a matter of fact, I bypassed lots of goodies I love, such as 7 layer cake.

I did get real extravagant and bought handmade matzo. There is no comparison between the machine made, and handmade hearth stuff.

However, I did pass up the butter and jam. I LOVE a crunch piece of matzo with lots of butter and strawberry jam.
OK, I've rambled on enough. I'm sure that no one else here has a clue what I'm talking about.

Oh, a favorite for me as well. Have you seen the "new" everything Matzo? They aren't kosher for passover but I had to laugh at them. But, like I said, no Matzo out here...they are sold out!

 

[HollyTyler]

Thanks everybody for all the good words and advice and virtual hugs. I appreciate everything mentioned. Life just sucks so much lately that not even the thought of the cruise has been exciting me. Unspeakable, I know. People at work were shocked because I couldn't remember how many days left, so they knew something wasn't right with me.

I'm off now to pick up Tyler and am hoping he'll have a great time visiting the llamas.

 

[fourmcds]

Well, quickly skimmed everything....

John, hope things today are more stable and looking better! You are all still in our thoughts, especially Manuel!

Holly, sorry you are going through a rough spell, I hear ya for sure!

I am sure I am missing a few posts to people, so, to all who are in need.

We had about an inch of snow last night, freezing rain, hail and now sunny and freezing....I am so ready for warm weather and a cruise

Everyone....have a great time at the meet!!! Can't wait to hear about all the fun you had

 

[taysmom]

Oh, his dad sees it. He still insists, "Oh, he'll come around". When I told the OT that, she said, "OK, well, if he wants to live in La La Land, Tyler will keep floundering and struggling." She's really mad at his dad's denial and is furious that he hasn't been to OT yet. I told his dad that and he told me he wants to come to the next appointment on Wednesday to talk to her about why she insists on meds. DUH! I think she'll enjoy sinking her teeth into him and he'll run out of there with his tail between his legs.

Well, if he doesn't go or doesn't respond well to the OT doc..you need to GET ON IT and get to court and get the permission to treat YOUR child. This wishy washyness is not doing tyler any good. The doctors know what they're talking about and have a positive plan of action. Do what you need to do to get YOUR child the help he DESERVES!
And have a good day with him.

 

[iankh]

Ian, I so know what you are talking about. My babysitter and best friend were jewish and I did everything with them as kid. But never had chocolate covered matzo, just the idea, .

Pj

Chocolate covered matzo is indescribable. It is dark chocolate and the matzo is crunchy. Though it sound bizarre it's incredible.

I'm going to bolt the door, so I don't head out to the supermarket!

 

[granmaz]

she's leaving, be quick

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[granmaz]

3 weeks to day and it will be us.

 

[iankh]

Oh, a favorite for me as well. Have you seen the "new" everything Matzo? They aren't kosher for passover but I had to laugh at them. But, like I said, no Matzo out here...they are sold out!

Are you in Seattle? My one of my first cousins lives in Seattle.

If I had known I would have sent you a care package. There are several "Jewish" supermarkets here in Chicago, and now one of the chains, Jewel (up in Evanston for you Chicago savvy people) has a HUGE kosher section. Sukie and (and everyone I know) call it the "Jewish Jewel."

They had a TON of passover stuff. That's where I bought the handmade matzo. I never thought I see handmade matzo in a chain supermarket.

I had to tear myself out of the supermarket. Usually I deal very well with food, but this is one holiday where the emotional/food association are just too strong.

Monday night, the 2nd seder night is also the anniversary (Yahrzeit) of my brother's death in 1972. So passover is very bittersweet for me. Very fond memories coupled with tragic ones.

There I go rambling again.