Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Aunt Michelle]

Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[Hixski]

Hey everyone...it's been awhile for me on this thread. Haven't read through the posts, so I hope everyone is doing well.

Quick story for you....I have a very good friend who has 2 children and is very accepting of my decision not to have kids (in fact, she encourages that decision ). Not too long ago, she had a Party lite party and I attended. I know her family quite well, and many of them came to the party. Her one grandma is deaf, so communicating can be hard, but I did get her when she pointed at my finger and saw there was no wedding band on there yet, the head shake, and then she pointed at my belly, then to the kids running around, and I shook my head no, no kids. She shook her head and gave me a look of pity...like I was missing out. She is quite elderly, so she may think differently, but I honestly have only seen her 5 times in my life and again, it just irks me...alot, that people think 2 people in a relationship have to have children, just because that's societals expectation.

Anyways, off that rant...

Madd - I am getting really excited about seeing the Foo's later this month...have you ever seen them live??? Would LOVE to see Disturbed too! Doubt they'll ever come to my neck of the woods though...

OT: We are thinking of heading to New Orleans following a convention near by with my BF's company. Has anyone ever been to New Orleans? We are thinking of going and I need some pointers, where to stay? Do we need a car? Any hotel recommendations? How are the Bed and Breakfasts? What should w do? We'll have 4 days in May to explore the city. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

I think that is funny about the elderly grandma. We deal with this a bit from time to time with my MIL. DH is the youngest of 7 kids. They had him when they were 44. He is now 49 so his mother is 93 (father passed away 10 yrs ago).

She is an absolute sweetheart and still sharp as a tack. That being said she still sometimes thinks in terms of how SHE grew up. DH called to check on her the other day (she lives a couple of hours away) and she was complaining about one of her DIL's. DH's brother is 68 and his wife is 53-54. He still works part time and she works full time. Now I will say she is lazy and her and the 20-something daughter don't do anything around the house. DH's brother is left to do the housework and the yardwork.

The part that was funny was she said that "It is the womans job to take care of the house and fix dinners"!!!! DH had to tell her that while DIL is lazy things just don't work that way in the 21st century. He asked her if she thought we were doing it all wrong because we both work and both have to care take of whatever needs done. She decided that in our case we should work things out the way we do but "The woman still needs to take care of everything in the house." SIGHHHH.....I guess you can't change 93 yrs of upbringing.

 

[Liisa]

Madd and Suzibrat,

You both make me laugh and feel totally NOT "in the know" with bands. I'm in my mid 30's and haven't even HEARD of the bands you guys toss around. I told my husband about it and (big supporter that he is ) he tells me "well, honey, you're just not cool!". I think he's right! The CD's in my car are the Mama Mia soundtrack, several CD's from Disney world (love the music from Wishes and Fantasmic), Simon & Garfunkel, and a mix of a bunch of songs I pulled together.


Hixski,

I was thinking of you, I booked a vacation to Vero Beach yesterday for mid-September! It will be our first trip. Guess I better start looking at what is around there for restaurants. We are taking my parents and I know they definitely want to hit NASA.


Tomorrow, DH and I are heading to an open house for Newfoundland rescues. We are considering, maybe, possible looking for a Newf puppy (after the terrible weekend trying to rescue Kayla the adult dog, we've decided a pup will be our best chance of success in adding a third to our family... although hubby isn't yet convinced we need a third dog at all... yet. I'm still working on him!)

Anyone got big weekend plans?

Liisa

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

No big plans for the weekend other than MORE getting the house in order work. I made great progress last weekend w/ organizing the kitchen and dining room and living room and now onto bedroom. Boy, moving sure does take it out of you.

I'm so tired, I could go to sleep right now.

 

[Hixski]

Hixski,

I was thinking of you, I booked a vacation to Vero Beach yesterday for mid-September! It will be our first trip. Guess I better start looking at what is around there for restaurants. We are taking my parents and I know they definitely want to hit NASA.

Liisa

Squid Lips in Sebastian has wonderful food. That place is our favorite. We went there 3 different afternoon/evenings for happy hour the last time we were there. They had huge shrimp with Old Bay seasoning and grouper fingers (you know chicken fingers but with fish). It is a mostly open air place (the windows zip up). The decor is what I would call beachside diner decor. Nothing fancy. Great food though. I even have a picture.

 

[maddhatir]

Madd and Suzibrat,

You both make me laugh and feel totally NOT "in the know" with bands. I'm in my mid 30's and haven't even HEARD of the bands you guys toss around. I told my husband about it and (big supporter that he is ) he tells me "well, honey, you're just not cool!". I think he's right! The CD's in my car are the Mama Mia soundtrack, several CD's from Disney world (love the music from Wishes and Fantasmic), Simon & Garfunkel, and a mix of a bunch of songs I pulled together.

Where IS Suzi- I want to see if she has heard of Cavalera Conspiracy B/C I am ADDICTED to their song Inflikted

Lisa- I am so glad you are thinkng about another dog- with the puppy she will just grow into your other 2! No voilence to worry about.

Make sure you post pics if you do get a pup!!!

 

[maddhatir]

I know all of you would LOVE to see the youtube video of the song

BUT- I cannot post the link b/c the song has the F word in it! You can just You Tube it. Choose the vid that looks like it is black and white.......not the live version.
fast forward to 1:35 seconds and THAT is all I keep singing in my head!!!

It won't go away.......

 

[PhotobearSam]

3 weeks ago, I got a call asking to rent one of our chalets for a month because the person needing it had a husband in the hospital with a stroke and needed a long term rental. It was $750 plus $250 damage deposit because it's non-smoking and the person does smoke...


Well, they were supposed to be out next week and I had gotten a call from a hockey team who wanted all the chalets I had left so I needed to know if the person already in the chalet needed it any longer. I called her several times on her cell but she would not answer. I figured that she was at the hospital with her cell off. I stopped by one day and noticed a cigarette but on my step instead of in the container and I then REALLY wanted to know if she smoked in my NON-smoking chalet. So I open the door to find SEVERAL of my plates being used as ashtrays but it got worse when my tunnel vision widened.

There was at LEAST 200 needles EVERYWHERE...She had turned my beautiful chalet into a CRACK house or a Heroin House or something...Can you tell I have never done any drugs?

Well, I then had a talk with my folks...Do I call the cops? Change the locks? Confront her? What should I do. Well, we decided that I should not involve the cops as we did not know what kind of reaction that would cause and we did not want to be left with all those needles to pick up. So I had to wait 4 days to corner her there (she was never around) and then I called. I told her about the hockey team and that I needed to know about if she needed the chalet for longer...She said yes, how much? I said $250...which she brought to me. I did this since she had burned our couch and I figured this was the only way I would see any $ for the damage because the original $250 was not even going to come close.

Well, I then followed her back to her cottage, knocked on the door and handed her a needle bin I got at the pharmacy and said "We don't accept drugs here, you need to pick up EVERY needle in there, get your crap and get out. She then argued with me that if I wanted $250 for damage, I just had to ask and she would have brought it to me...I laughed and asked her why I would trust a drug addict?

Well, I stood in the driveway of her unit, out in the cold, for 4 1/2 hours while she cleared out her stuff...and FILLED the large needle bucket I gave her...

It was the most stressful week. I could not eat or sleep while I waited everyday to try to catch her. The reason I waited till she was there was that I did not want anyone on my staff or myself to have to touch all those needles and I wanted my key back.

Well, there is a lot more damage than $500 but I am just glad she is gone. I have to replace the door frame and the couch, the kitchen table has a lot of burn marks but I think it can be saved and I have to paint the cottage and steam clean the rest of the furniture. All that in 3 weeks...I hate my job sometimes.

When it comes to renters, there are 2 kinds and 2 kinds only...The nice, hard working, honest ones and the scum of the earth...there does not seem to be a middle ground.

My parents own a lot of apartments and I own one and it is the worst of all my jobs. I am just glad it is over. This is the second time this has happened but the first one was an insurance company that was paying because their client had a flood. We knew the client, she was the receptionist at our local health clinic and we thought she would be fine...Not. We had to replace EVERYTHING and are still trying to get paid for it. Thank god all my other clients over the past 6 years have been right on or I would lose my mind...


Thanks for letting me vent. That person was a waste of flesh...I am very happy I don't have kids because raising them in this crazy world would be the death of me. At least kittens don't do drugs...

 

[maddhatir]

There was at LEAST 200 needles EVERYWHERE...She had turned my beautiful chalet into a CRACK house or a Heroin House or something...Can you tell I have never done any drugs?

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Man- I would have been on the phone with the cops so fast! NO hesitation!

Glad things worked out and got rid of her though. I wonder if the DH n the hospital was the truth?

 

[PhotobearSam]

My first instinct was to call the cops but since my parents have had little help from them before, my Dad was more concerned that they would retaliate in some way...They are in Florida and worry about me a lot even though I am 35 yrs old. They still see me as their baby...

It really did work out for the best....I just hated it. In April 2009 is our last payment to the bank for the chalets (opened June 2001...Yeah, paying off more than 2 years early... ) and after that, It will be easier.

I am just happy that I did not have to dispose of the needles because i would NEVER have asked an employee to do it...Thank God it's over.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

Thanks for letting me vent. That person was a waste of flesh...I am very happy I don't have kids because raising them in this crazy world would be the death of me. At least kittens don't do drugs...

Sam - Sorry you've had a such a rough week! You have far more patience than I do. I would have called the cops immediately. So glad you were able to get her to leave without incident.

 

[Hixski]

Sam: There are just too many crazies out there. Glad everything worked out. My dog is a druggie though. He has to take medicine for his hypothyroidism. Just like his mommy.

 

[PhotobearSam]

Sam - Sorry you've had a such a rough week! You have far more patience than I do. I would have called the cops immediately. So glad you were able to get her to leave without incident.

Thanks everyone. Now I have to worry about flooding...What a week.

Well, I really wanted to call the cops but the main thing was that I did not want to have to deal with the needles and I knew if I called the cops that they would take her away and I would have to pick them up...This way, she's gone, the needles are gone and it ok.


What is everyone doing this weekend?

 

[plgrn]

Man- I would have been on the phone with the cops so fast! NO hesitation!

I would have done the same thing and then probably regretted it as soon as I was picking up needles and letting my mind race with thoughts of her seeking revenge! Glad it worked out ok, Sam, and that it's over with.

 

[PhotobearSam]

Great...Now we are flooding. We are in the midst of an ice storm and I have 4 chalets that have 1 inch of water in them in some areas...

We are not in a flood prone area but the snow and rain is so much this year that the earth is just saturated...I had a tractor come and dig a trench behind the chalets tonight...I can't wait to see that bill...A tractor on a Saturday night...

Then I get home and my furnace room has some water on the floor in the corner...I have had it.

Someone tell me some good news...

 

[Suzibrat]

Calling Suzibrat!


Some Slipknot and DISTURBED concert news!

I have been waiting to see Disturbed for a long time- so I thought I would just Google some tour info and found this
http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1580706/20080131/slipknot.jhtml

I see they will be in Camden NJ on 8/15

and on 8/13 in Boston! Is that close to you????

I am SO getting tix- I do despise these all day concert things- with all of those testosterone infested kids- BUT I will just find out what time Slipknot and Disturbed will take the stage- most likely at the end of the day- and just scoot in the venue then!

DH will NOT be happy- he hates those kinds of concerts too- but- I have my LIST of must see bands- and Disturbed in on it!

OMG - AS I am writing this- the DJ on SIRIUS is TALKING ABOUT IT!

This is DESTINY!!!!!

Hey Madd! I'm here! I've been busy with work and my computer has been a pain in the butt all week. Slipknot hasn't officially announced any tour dates yet so those dates could change. They will be announcing the official tour dates shortly. I feel sorry for the people that are being raked over the coals buying tickets already. The tickets are clearly fakes and they are paying astronomical prices for them. Without saying too much, I have to attend an East Coast show because we are having a staff event meet and greet. So I'll let you know which one I'll be at and we can meet up to chat for a bit!
Did you get to see Headbanger's Ball last night? Joey (the drummer) was on with 3 Inches Of Blood....coolness!!!!

 

[maddhatir]

Hey Madd! I'm here! I've been busy with work and my computer has been a pain in the butt all week. Slipknot hasn't officially announced any tour dates yet so those dates could change. They will be announcing the official tour dates shortly. I feel sorry for the people that are being raked over the coals buying tickets already. The tickets are clearly fakes and they are paying astronomical prices for them. Without saying too much, I have to attend an East Coast show because we are having a staff event meet and greet. So I'll let you know which one I'll be at and we can meet up to chat for a bit!
Did you get to see Headbanger's Ball last night? Joey (the drummer) was on with 3 Inches Of Blood....coolness!!!!

I have noted Aug 15th on my calendar (tentativly, that is!) That is the only one that is close to me! Is that where you might be? What kind of work do you do, if you do not mind me asking- if you do- say- SKIP that question

No- I don't watch Headbanger's Ball- that is SO funny I used to watch that in the 80s THAT was the only place you would get to see the REALLY good videos!!!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Reason for this post.....Just watching Flyers vs Rangers and......

I know some of us here are hockey fans aka PUCK bunnies

but have not seen a lot of our regular bunnies around in a while!

...........Anyway I see this commercial all the time when watching the Flyers games-

It is so funny- I cannot relate to the parent and the nursery But I just love the hockey analogy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EG6orPtnhdY

and the only thing this next one has to do with hockey is, I see it all the time while watching the games and PEE my pants it's so funny!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWgbMJZupGM&feature=related

Has anyone seen either of them?

Sorry I'm a bit late getting a reply in on this one...we got in about midnight/1am...last night. Lost an hour coming home + another hour to DST. Boy am I off today!

My husband loves that commercial. We've seen it for a while.

Have you seen this one yet?!?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvU-p_x7tDA

 

[zima-cheryl]

In catching up on my e-mails I got the latest from Ill Will Press...

http://www.illwillpress.com/

Check out the cartoon for this week - too funny!
I love the part about kids in restaurants... Could say the same thing about kids on airplanes & in airports!

Be forewarned...this little squirrel cusses like a sailor in port!

 

[maddhatir]

In catching up on my e-mails I got the latest from Ill Will Press...

http://www.illwillpress.com/

Check out the cartoon for this week - too funny!
I love the part about kids in restaurants... Could say the same thing about kids on airplanes & in airports!

Be forewarned...this little squirrel cusses like a sailor in port!

I WANNA HEAR ABOUT YOUR TRIP, YOUR TRIP!!!!!!!