Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Goobergal99]

Being the parent of an "only" which I don't intend on changing, has really been an issue with my husbands family so I can kind of relate.

I have been a mom since highschool, so in all honesty DH and I are looking forward to having time for "us" We have been pretty busy through our youth being responsible parents.

So yea.... I admit it, I would love to stay in sugarloaf at The Grand Floridian one day and just kind of relax with my hubby.

But I don't think that makes me any more selfish then people who don't want to have children and I certainly don't think anyone should be judged for it

 

[Mrs.Reese]

I liked how the article mentioned it was a choice and people felt they should have choice. I really, really, really loved that people don't have kids not because they hate them. I know we certainly love kids. I couldn't be locked up in a room with 24 Kindergarteners all day if I didn't.

 

[LoveStitch626]

Ok.. I posted a vent... deleted my vent... Hattir, girl email me because I lost your addy!

 

[maddhatir]

Ok.. I posted a vent... deleted my vent... Hattir, girl email me because I lost your addy!

Did you just need to get it out and then you felt better??
How bad was it that you had to delete it

E-mailed ya!

 

[TKDisneylover]

Hello. I thought I would share this article that I saw online today.

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/AmericanFamily/story?id=3413039

As you'll see by my screen name I do want children but after 10+ years of marriage it hasn't happened for us yet. Perhaps not meant to be but my DH is an always will be my best friend and we haven't had a dull moment yet.

Missie

Thanks for posting this article! I agree with Goobergal99, it's nice that they listed it was "our choice" and that we don't "hate" kids. I love my 2 nieces dearly and we've done a lot together (sleep overs, cookie baking for Christmas, Easter egg dying, etc.) One of my nieces is now 20 and recently thanked me for the great memories she had spending with me & DH. She said she hopes she can be that great of an aunt someday. Brought a little tear to my eye, how sweet!

 

[raspberrysharpei]

Lissa, Hubbie and I have taken several trips to Sandals Dunns River in Jamaica. All-inclusive for five nights at a reasonable rate, we enjoy this resort so much, we have taken three other couples at various times. Booking through NWA vacations seems to give us the best deal year after year.

 

[Mrs.Reese]

Had another one of those "when are you having kids" moments with the in-laws. I told them we would when I felt like it. I had to have surgery for endo this year. My DMil almost turned white when I told her it was stage four. The first question out of her mouth was, "Can you still have kids?" Ugh....

I was so tempted to tell her no but we would be becoming those crazy cat people instead.

 

[ChisJo]

I was so tempted to tell her no but we would be becoming those crazy cat people instead.

I always say that I am going to be one of those crazy cat people who lives down the street....My BF won't allow me to have more than one cat right now, but maybe in a few of years, when he's too old and feeble to argue, I can convince him otherwise....

 

[PrincessKitty1]

I always say that I am going to be one of those crazy cat people who lives down the street....My BF won't allow me to have more than one cat right now, but maybe in a few of years, when he's too old and feeble to argue, I can convince him otherwise....

I've been saying I would become a "crazy cat person" since I was a kid!

The way my life has evolved, though, I think I'll turn out to be the crazy dog lady instead.

 

[kennancat]

Random Friday thought as we're coming to the close of the workday.

Not that I would really do this, but sometimes I'm so tempted to copy the original post from this thread, go to the Family board, and repost it there word for word except reverse the situation so that it's a couple who wants children and the family and friends are giving them reasons not to! I would just love to see the responses, and I'll bet you not a single poster would go onto that thread and criticize their choice or tell them that they'll regret it one day.

Just to get it out of my system, here's how it would look:

I am 32 years old. I have been married since I was 25 (celebrating our 7th anniversary at WDW).

DH and I want to have children. I have always wanted to have children. Early in our marriage, people asked questions about kids, and we always said, "We want children someday. We are not happy as we are."

I guess they thought we were bluffing, because the questions have been coming hard and fast.

My usual responses, depending on the questioning:
"Yes, we are going to have children"
"Yes, we are planning on having children."
"We want to have children - our dogs aren't enough."
"We want children - we are not very happy with our life as it is."
"We choose to have chidren."
"We choose not to be child-free."
"We choose to be parents."
"We want to be good aunts and uncles, but that won't satisfy us"

People keep on asking, and they don't find my answers acceptable. They don't feel that my choice is VALID?

It makes me angry, but it also makes me sad. I think a lot of people are not having children because it is what other people think they should do, and not what they really want.

Any one want to give their input - I would appreciate it!

 

[Hixski]

Random Friday thought as we're coming to the close of the workday.

Not that I would really do this, but sometimes I'm so tempted to copy the original post from this thread, go to the Family board, and repost it there word for word except reverse the situation so that it's a couple who wants children and the family and friends are giving them reasons not to! I would just love to see the responses, and I'll bet you not a single poster would go onto that thread and criticize their choice or tell them that they'll regret it one day.

Just to get it out of my system, here's how it would look:

Thats funny! I would love to see all the responses to that. I look on that board from time to time just to see what they complain about.

 

[maddhatir]

I always say that I am going to be one of those crazy cat people who lives down the street....My BF won't allow me to have more than one cat right now, but maybe in a few of years, when he's too old and feeble to argue, I can convince him otherwise....

When he gets older get a few cats that look alike- just tell him they are the same one

 

[maddhatir]

Random Friday thought as we're coming to the close of the workday.

Not that I would really do this, but sometimes I'm so tempted to copy the original post from this thread, go to the Family board, and repost it there word for word except reverse the situation so that it's a couple who wants children and the family and friends are giving them reasons not to! I would just love to see the responses, and I'll bet you not a single poster would go onto that thread and criticize their choice or tell them that they'll regret it one day.

Just to get it out of my system, here's how it would look:

Go for it!

 

[Mrs.Reese]

Please, please, please, please....... I would just love to see the responses.

DH used to say that he didn't want to be married to the crazy cat lady. Then we got one. One became two and now two has become three. They are the best kids. They only need string for entertainment, can sleep anywhere, and eat the same thing everyday.

 

[ChisJo]

When he gets older get a few cats that look alike- just tell him they are the same one

It's just too bad I can't get away with it now....I keep using the "but she's lonely when we're gone" excuse, or "one is just not enough" or, my favorite, "every pet needs a brother or a sister...it's just not right to have just one". I'm sure you've all heard it before....he just won't go for it.

 

[Muushka]

I, too, have a great love for the feline. And I, too, am limited to 2. Actually it was only supposed to be 1, but a feral cat adopted us, and we couldn't resist. We are both allergic.

I volunteer at a no-kill cat shelter for my fix. After I get done with the cleaning, watering, feeding, I have my fill of the feline. They appreciate it so much.

 

[kennancat]

Please, please, please, please....... I would just love to see the responses.

Go for it!

Thats funny! I would love to see all the responses to that. I look on that board from time to time just to see what they complain about.

Ehh, in the end it wouldn't be worth it. I'd have to come up with a fake user name to do the post, and run up a decent post count so I wouldn't look like a troll. Then I'd have to come up with at least one or two other fake user names so that I'd have something to post negative comments with "Maybe your family is right and you would make bad parents", "What's wrong with you that you're not enough for each other?", etc. Of course, I would make sure to badly misspell words and throw in other grammar errors in my mean response posts. It'd only be fair to give the family board equal ammo as what we get

Bottom line is I'd guess that doing all that probably equals grounds to have your real user name revoked, and I wouldn't want that But hey, I did just figure out how to use the multi-quote! Cool!

 

[Liisa]

Ehh, in the end it wouldn't be worth it. I'd have to come up with a fake user name to do the post, and run up a decent post count so I wouldn't look like a troll. Then I'd have to come up with at least one or two other fake user names so that I'd have something to post negative comments with "Maybe your family is right and you would make bad parents", "What's wrong with you that you're not enough for each other?", etc. Of course, I would make sure to badly misspell words and throw in other grammar errors in my mean response posts. It'd only be fair to give the family board equal ammo as what we get

Oooohhhh... well thought out, very devious and quite clever. I like it!!!

I've been sending evenings with DH looking at the details of every all inclusive in Mexico and the Caribbean. Tough work, but someone's got to do it! At this point, looks like we are leaning towards the RIU Palace in Playa del Carmen, Mexico. Looks so pretty. Thanks so much for the recommendations. They certainly kept us busy!

 

[Pumbaa_]

My DH and I celebrated our 24th anniversary today. The kids were very happy. One coughed up a fur ball, 2 got in a cat fight, and the other one dragged his rump on the rug. We are very happy 'parents'

 

[ObsessedwiththeMouse]

Random Friday thought as we're coming to the close of the workday.

Not that I would really do this, but sometimes I'm so tempted to copy the original post from this thread, go to the Family board, and repost it there word for word except reverse the situation so that it's a couple who wants children and the family and friends are giving them reasons not to! I would just love to see the responses, and I'll bet you not a single poster would go onto that thread and criticize their choice or tell them that they'll regret it one day.

Just to get it out of my system, here's how it would look:

I'm confused...what would the purpose of that be? Maybe I'm just having a blonde moment.