love, ive given up

[flying_babyb]

I quit!!!! Tonnight I was told that Im not his type. Never had a good relationship. First guy I dated was 8 years younger than me. Second guy never cared about me at all,just wanted relations. Third guy was gay and dated me just to make me happy (No, i didnt know he was gay). Fourth guy, turned out to be a complete looser. then david, him i loved but, he lied ALOT
Anyone find love after 25? It seems everyone I know is getting married and me, IM not even dating anyone. Any tips? Advice? Help the hopeless

 

[poohandwendy]

Aw, I am sorry you are feeling so down.

Every single relationship you have is helping you figure out what you want and don't want in the 'right one'. Many, many, many people find the right person for them after the age of 25, don't give up hope. Your Mr Right is probably frustrated right now too, LOL.

My advice is to take a little breather, learn to enjoy time outside of a relationship. Just take some time for yourself, enjoy what you enjoy...stop and smell the roses a little bit. I know it's cliche, but the right guy always comes along when you aren't even looking. Cliches are built on truth, ya know?

I know it's tough to think positively when you are feeling low. But, he did you a favor. If he didn't have those feelings for you, it would have been a miserable marriage. Seriously.

 

[Glendamax]

Anyone find love after 25? It seems everyone I know is getting married and me, IM not even dating anyone. Any tips? Advice? Help the hopeless

OMG!!!! Love after 25? Pu-leez! Who told you that 25 is OLD? Yes, there is love AFTER 25. For me, REAL love didn't come until I was 25. So hang in there!

 

[poohandwendy]

OMG!!!! Love after 25? Pu-leez! Who told you that 25 is OLD? Yes, there is love AFTER 25.

LOL, so true. I would guess the majority finds their spouse/SO after the age of 25.

 

[MsDisney23]

 

[sunlver]

25 is not old. I didnt get married until I was 29. You will know when its ther right one. Before I met my husband I dated this guy for 4 yrs. Although he was a nice guy, I just always knew inside he wasnt the one. We broke up in March, and I met my husband in May. We got married 4 months later(No I wasnt pregnant and now have been married 13 yrs. No, it hasnt been all sunshine and roses, but I am glad I was a little older when I got married.

 

[1Prince2Princesses]

I also was 29 when I got married. I had multiple serious relationships before that, but I am so glad none of them ended in marriage. There's no way they were the right ones. It took me all those years (and some bad relationships) to figure out what I really did and did not want in a relationship, so when the right guy came along I could recognize him.

Be happy that you didn't wind up married to a lying loser. Your chance for true love is always there, at 25 or whatever age. Hang in there.

 

[Serena]

LOL, you can cross those 5 guys of the list of millions of men out there to chose from. There are so many people out there is it no wonder it's difficult to find the right one for you at the right time.
I have my moments of hopelessness too and I'm over 40. I just try not to let it get to me.
In the mean time, I'm learning about myself, doing things I want to do, I even started taking college classes.
Hang in there, and try not to worry. I'd much rather be alone that make a wrong choice.

 

[MushyMushy]

Yes there's love after the ripe old age of 25!

I have to laugh because I felt the same way you did. All my friends had married nice guys before 25, and I was dating loser after loser. It wasn't until I gave up and quit looking that I found my DH.

 

[Scutapipig]

Hang in there. I was thirty when I married and that gave me time to weed out the undesirable's and to find a committed and loving husband.

Take this time to travel, to follow your dreams, to overload your retirement fund, and when you do meet that special person, you'll be able to enjoy your time together leisurely.

 

[JESW]

I met dh when we were both 26 and I had "given up" on men and relationships. I wasn't even looking for anyone and there he was. It will be our 20th anniversary in June. Don't give up.

Jill

 

[minkydog]

My sister found the man of her dreams at age 28 and had her baby at age 40--obviously, the love is stil live

My brother married very young and divorced after 20yrs. He is now engaged to the love of his life--in Venezuela--at the age of 45.

My mother married young and divorced after 20yrs. She, too, thought it was hopeless for her. Her knight in shining armor came along and they were married when she was in her 50's. They had 16 wonderful years together before he died. She's 73 and dating again There's always hope.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I felt the same as you a couple of years ago. I was actually married at 19, but divorced at 23. I thought it was hopeless after that. I had a baby to care for and no time for love. And even if I did have time, who would want someone with a baby???

Well, I started dating the love of my life a month before my 27th birthday and I have never been happier. I found him after a week after I ended yet another bad relationship. I wasn't even looking for someone at that point! I had all but given up. And, I'm sure you know this, but 25 isn't old AT ALL. We have a client at the law firm where I work who is dating a wonderful woman and they're in their 80's!

 

[Luv'sTink]

Oh my gosh, 25?? I had my son when I was 32 and single. Met my DH when I was 33 and was married when I was 35! Yep there is love after 25

 

[hiwaygal]

OMG!!!! Love after 25? Pu-leez! Who told you that 25 is OLD? Yes, there is love AFTER 25. For me, REAL love didn't come until I was 25. So hang in there!

I met the love of my life at age 36.

Truth be told, I never dated much and spent most of the time between age 25 and 35 focused on my career.

My advice? Give yourself a break for a little while. Go out and do things you REALLY want to do. You are young and I'm assuming gainfully employed...enjoy the freedom of "fewer responsibilities". Travel to some of the places you are dying to see, get involved in some community projects that really interest you, join some "clubs" of some kind. All of these things will give you a lot to focus on as well as introducing you to people of similar interests...who knows, maybe you'll even find the love of your life!

 

[Nickunited]

Im 27 and still single - dont stress it - it will come along when it does. In the meantime - enjoy your life, friends, and family to the max. WHen i was in my late teens and early 20s i put so much stress on finding love that I feel i missed a great part of my life. Now i dont stress it as much. I use this mentality everytime something fails. If I date 40 women in my life 39 are going to fail!!!! So its just another step closer to the one that will be it!!! LOL - Keep your head up!

 

[azgal81]

Love true love happens at all different ages. Don't give up on finding it and don't settle without it!

 

[ButchJohnson]

I think 25 may still be too young anyway, so don't worry about it, didn't happen to me until 38! And you are a longgggggg way away from being old, just don't get in a hurry and latch on to someone just because you think you have to get married "because everyone else you know is." Thats not a good reason. Just don't be in a hurry, there's no sense in hurrying it or trying to rush things. You have your whole life ahead of you.

 

[Philadisney]

I feel your pain, I'm almost 25 and between my crazy work schedule and a plethora of relationships behind me that were a waste of time, I've given up too. When people ask if I'm seeing someone I tell them I've retired from dating I figure if it's meant to happen it will, but I'm not getting my hopes up anymore!

 

[UrsulasMyHero]

Love comes when you least expect it. Right now, it seems that you've "been there, Done that". Take time to focus on yourself. It's ok to "give up" for a time, because honestly, that's about when someone will sneak in and become the love of your life, because you won't be focused on the hunt.

Like the others here, I found the love of my life after I quit looking. He's a great guy, 3 years younger than me, but It's one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, including my 12 year marriage.

Remember that it's OK to be single too. There's no stigma attatched.