I'm sorry you've experienced all that! I had to call Disney the other day about an account issue (my fault, easily fixed) and I didn't wait more than 30 seconds for a castmember to pick up the phone. It was so fast, they even interrupted the "please hold" recording.
Website issues? Haven't experienced any lately, knock on wood. They really seem to have worked out the kinks since our last visit (last year).
Account issues? Well, they've stopped automatically withdrawing the remainder of your payment from your card, which was a bit of a surprise. But, probably a lot more secure. No account issues.
Room refurbs that strip the unique theming? I thought they'd been adding a bunch of themed rooms lately, such as the princess rooms and pirate rooms and that whole Art of Animation thing. Those are all new(ish), no? Most room refurb photos I've seen seem to be an improvement... but that's likely a matter of personal taste.
I do appreciate my good fortune, and am happy to bubble on about our upcoming Disney vacation to anyone who asks. I'm also well aware that sometimes the places we go become overly familiar and seem to lose their luster, and maybe someday that'll happen with Disney. Knowing that doesn't make me sad. It'll just be time to explore exciting new vacation venues!
And, when that time does come, I won't be hanging out here any more, either. I'll have found new boards, to talk about my new favourite places.