Loosing hope about having children

[linzo552]

My husband and I have been trying for over a year and seeing a fertility specialist for about 6 months. When I was 18 I found out that i have really bad endometriosis and had to have surgery for it along with a 6 month hormone induced menopause. My husband and i knew we would be in for a struggle because of the endometriosis and decided to start seeing a specialist after 6 months. I knew it would be hard, but i had no idea how draining everything would be. Besides the endometriosis, I also do not ovulate on my own and do not produce hardly any progesterone. This will be our third month on clomid and the side effects are aweful. I think the worst part is that everyone I know has gotten pregnant within 6 months of trying (if not on accident). Its very difficult to find someone to talk to who knows what you are going through

 

[Disneylover99]

My husband and I have been trying for over a year and seeing a fertility specialist for about 6 months. When I was 18 I found out that i have really bad endometriosis and had to have surgery for it along with a 6 month hormone induced menopause. My husband and i knew we would be in for a struggle because of the endometriosis and decided to start seeing a specialist after 6 months. I knew it would be hard, but i had no idea how draining everything would be. Besides the endometriosis, I also do not ovulate on my own and do not produce hardly any progesterone. This will be our third month on clomid and the side effects are aweful. I think the worst part is that everyone I know has gotten pregnant within 6 months of trying (if not on accident). Its very difficult to find someone to talk to who knows what you are going through

Thoughts and prayers for you and a bit of pixie dust. Hang in there!

 

[DisneyJillian18]

Don't give up!
It took my parents 7 years to have me, I hope it brings you the same luck. It will happen if it is meant to, if not adoption is a beautiful process. It may not be the answer everyone wants to here, but you are giving an outstanding life to a child who may have otherwise had a terrible one. Consider your options and pray.
Praying for you to have a child, naturally or through an adoption.

 

[Mickey'sApprentice]

Do you guys know much about private or agency adoption or foster to adopt?

We are 44 and 48. I don't want to get started on a path that doesn't work out and meanwhile hubby ages out because he turned 50 waiting for something that didn't happen.

We've been considering International...but I am very leery of special needs or dealing with abuse. Help!

 

[DisneyFairytale]

I just noticed your reply, and I'm so sorry you had to go through the insensitivity as well. It's a shame really how people who are so close to you can be so mean. I deleted her from Facebook last Sunday because she posted a picture of Cory Monteith with the caption 'wasn't he a favorite of yours?' Which caused me to flip out while riding with my husband who told me just delete her. Thankfully I have a true friend now. She was there for me for my last miscarriage, we went to see the movie the interns, and she told me several times that this girl was a dreadful human being and she would beat her up for me. My husband and I both still feel that she only reconnected for gifting purposes, but like you pointed out, I owe her nothing. If she ever tries to reconcile again, I will do my best to put aside my nice nature and remember that she is so mean.

People are just sick. How can you do that to a friend? I've seen close friends of mine go through that with a few people that they knew. Human beings are just sick sometimes. You know what Karma will bite her in the ***.

 

[JandJ]

Do you guys know much about private or agency adoption or foster to adopt?

We are 44 and 48. I don't want to get started on a path that doesn't work out and meanwhile hubby ages out because he turned 50 waiting for something that didn't happen.

We've been considering International...but I am very leery of special needs or dealing with abuse. Help!

Check out rainbow kids (all one word) dot org They break down adoptions by country and the qualifications. I know when we were looking at international (the country we were working with closed to US adoptions 2 months before our match was to go through - another heartbreak) we were close to aging out and that was before we both turned 40 so you will want to look at the qualifications very closely.

 

[Mickey'sApprentice]

Check out rainbow kids (all one word) dot org They break down adoptions by country and the qualifications. I know when we were looking at international (the country we were working with closed to US adoptions 2 months before our match was to go through - another heartbreak) we were close to aging out and that was before we both turned 40 so you will want to look at the qualifications very closely.

I have looked at Rainbow Kids. It looks like Bulgaria is our best bet if we go with International.

 

[Robbi]

OP, my DSIL couldn't maintain her pregnancies either. A while after she was put on thyroid meds( hers was Armour thyroid), she got pregnant and delivered a beautiful daughter who is now 3 years old.

 

[Lemonademouth]

I know it has been almost a year since I posted in here and that is because after 8 years and 4 miscarriages we finally have our miracle! His name is Riley Finn and was born on April 28th. I had deleted dis boards from my phone because it took up so much room, but recently got an iPad with more storage capabilities. The pregnancy was actually really great, which was surprising considering my past issues. He is beautiful and I cannot wait to spoil him with trips to our second home. We are going at the end of next April to celebrate his 1st birthday and I want to get his 1st hair cut at the main st barber!

 

[stasijane]

I know it has been almost a year since I posted in here and that is because after 8 years and 4 miscarriages we finally have our miracle! His name is Riley Finn and was born on April 28th. I had deleted dis boards from my phone because it took up so much room, but recently got an iPad with more storage capabilities. The pregnancy was actually really great, which was surprising considering my past issues. He is beautiful and I cannot wait to spoil him with trips to our second home. We are going at the end of next April to celebrate his 1st birthday and I want to get his 1st hair cut at the main st barber!

OMG I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!

 

[quandrea]

You did it. See I knew you could. Congratulations. I guarantee that you will feel such gratitude every time you look at that sweet boy's face.

 

[mommasita]

I know it has been almost a year since I posted in here and that is because after 8 years and 4 miscarriages we finally have our miracle! His name is Riley Finn and was born on April 28th. I had deleted dis boards from my phone because it took up so much room, but recently got an iPad with more storage capabilities. The pregnancy was actually really great, which was surprising considering my past issues. He is beautiful and I cannot wait to spoil him with trips to our second home. We are going at the end of next April to celebrate his 1st birthday and I want to get his 1st hair cut at the main st barber!

What a wonderful update to read!!!!!!! Blessings to you and your family.. I hope to read more from you.

 

[ellochka]

I know it has been almost a year since I posted in here and that is because after 8 years and 4 miscarriages we finally have our miracle! His name is Riley Finn and was born on April 28th. I had deleted dis boards from my phone because it took up so much room, but recently got an iPad with more storage capabilities. The pregnancy was actually really great, which was surprising considering my past issues. He is beautiful and I cannot wait to spoil him with trips to our second home. We are going at the end of next April to celebrate his 1st birthday and I want to get his 1st hair cut at the main st barber!

Congrats! My little petri dish wonder DD turned 3 on April 30. She was conceived through our first IVF. We had two more IVFs in the past year, and no luck so far (a chemical and a miscarriage). But you know what, life goes on. We are finally taking our little one to see grandmoms this summer , and then we will be doing a lot of princess dining in January . Hoping for a miracle of science with our FET later this year.

 

[Lemonademouth]

OMG I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!

. Thank you!

 

[lisaviolet]

The loveliest update ever!

Very happy for you. Congratulations to both of you. Enjoy.

 

[Lemonademouth]

Congrats! My little petri dish wonder DD turned 3 on April 30. She was conceived through our first IVF. We had two more IVFs in the past year, and no luck so far (a chemical and a miscarriage). But you know what, life goes on. We are finally taking our little one to see grandmoms this summer , and then we will be doing a lot of princess dining in January . Hoping for a miracle of science with our FET later this year.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Have a fun summer!

 

[snowweisz]

I never followed this thread but now I just wanna say congrats.
I read the whole thing just now and I'm really, really happy for you and hope you have a lovely, blessed life with your baby

 

[Lemonademouth]

Happy new year to everyone who has followed us. Riley is going on 9 months old already. I cannot believe it. We are going to be in Disney for his first birthday and I was very fortunate to get him a reservation at Harmony Barber Shop for his first haircut and a dinner reservation for Be Our Guest on his birthday. We also got a reservation for Pirates and Pals fireworks cruise. We are splurging and staying at the Wilderness Lodge! Always wanted to stay there, but never been able to afford it before because of all the medical costs of trying for a baby. Pretty sure it is going to be the best, if not the most trying trip to date, but I think it will be the best way to celebrate our little miracle!

 

[lisaviolet]

Happy new year to everyone who has followed us. Riley is going on 9 months old already. I cannot believe it. We are going to be in Disney for his first birthday and I was very fortunate to get him a reservation at Harmony Barber Shop for his first haircut and a dinner reservation for Be Our Guest on his birthday. We also got a reservation for Pirates and Pals fireworks cruise. We are splurging and staying at the Wilderness Lodge! Always wanted to stay there, but never been able to afford it before because of all the medical costs of trying for a baby. Pretty sure it is going to be the best, if not the most trying trip to date, but I think it will be the best way to celebrate our little miracle!

Oh, so lovely. Have a wonderful time.

 

[quandrea]

Have a wonderful time. My ds, who was also one of two miracle babies, had his first haircut at Harmony. So glad all is well.