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[Maleficent13]

I have been officially divorced for almost 2 years. We are finally getting rid of the last link, the house. It is on the market now, and I am really hoping it sells soon. When it does, I will have no financial reason to stay where I am.

I am not currently happy in my job, and am going to start looking for a new one. My thought is this: if I need to find a new place to live and a new job, why should I do that in this location? I could go anywhere, basically. Before my ex proposed, I was going to move to FLA. When he proposed, that went out the window. Now, he's not in the picture and I can go anywhere I want.

My family lives where I do now. The closest any of them lives to FLA is Tennessee, which is not that close. So if I did this, I would be starting from scratch, completely on my own. I'd have no safety nets, no anything. It sounds exciting, but also very scary. Has anyone ever done this? Anyone have any thoughts?

 

[Celluloidgal]

No strings to hold you down!!!

Go for it! What an adventure! You can use it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself & what you want out of life. Enjoy

 

[CEDmom]

I haven't personally done this but one of my brothers has. He moved to California w/o a job or a place to live. It was rough in the beginning but he's now married and a dad plus he has a great job and lots of friends. Another brother moved to Brussels for a job but didn't know anyone and didn't speak french very well. He was lonely at first but he's made friends and is enjoying his time there.

I think it could be a great opportunity to give yourself a fresh start. Many towns have some kind of newcomers club that you could join. Also every religious institution welcomes newcomers. I think if you go with a positive attitude you'll succeed.

I bet where ever you decide to go chances are there's a DIS member nearby.

Good luck.

 

[poohtown]

kinda did this when i was right out of high school. I was so ready to move I didn't give it much thought. Closed out what I thought was a big bank account, wanted to live in NY or Boston -couldn't decide so I picked CT (in between). Took a bus, found a ratty apt., and a ratty job, had one sheet, one pillow, one pan, one fork and a can opener. A couple weeks later I guess my mom figured I wasn't coming home and came up to help me. You're right about it being exciting and scary. I don't regret it though although your situation is different than mine. Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

[Dan Murphy]

<marquee direction=left> Florida, here ya come! </marquee>

 

[Maleficent13]

Thanks for the thoughts, guys! I'll be down there in less than a month...maybe I'll start looking for jobs/apartments!

 

[Geezer]

Not sure how old you are, but if you are in your 20's it sounds like a good way to make a break!

 

[Rajah]

How important is being close to family to you.

For me, I could never move that far from my mom. But if that's not an issue for you, then go for it!!

 

[cynsaun]

I am originally from CA, and we have lived in San Antonion, TX, and now live in Raleigh, NC. I am an only child, and my mom is still in CA.

My husband and I have 2 girls, and he is a pilot and is gone most of the time. I can tell you that it was difficult at first feeling all alone in a new place, without my support network--sometimes it still is. But, I have built a network of friends, some have even become like family!

It a hard decision to make, and only you can make that it. But know that you will meet new people and establish a new network where you go, whether it be through your new place of employment, church, or neighbors.

I look at moving to a new place as an adventure. I have met so many wonderful people that I wouldn't have met otherwise!

I wish you all the luck in the world!!

 

[Maleficent13]

Originally posted by Rajah
How important is being close to family to you.

For me, I could never move that far from my mom. But if that's not an issue for you, then go for it!!

My mom is totally supportive of me doing this. As a matter of fact, I think she's hoping I will so that then she can really bug my dad into moving down there. We both know that's never gonna happen, but at least they'd have an excuse to come down more often.

 

[disdreams]

If you have always wanted to live in Florida, and you don't take this opportunity to, you may always wonder, "what if".

I wish you lots of luck. I think you will like it in Fl.

 

[Desiree]

I agree with everyone else. If you don't at least try you will always wonder what if! Go for it! Especially if your mom is supporting you to do this. Family support means ALOT!

 

[Chrissi Pooh]

I say follow your heart. It sounds like a great opportunity for everything (job, home, new start)......Good Luck!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

My SIL sort of did this after my ILs died. She built a house in FLA near a friend of hers, and moved down there. Her DH travels back and forth between CT and FLA(that's a whole other story! ), but she's down there full time and she LOVES it!!!!!!!! Since she's moved down, heer uncle and a very close friend have also bought in her develoment, to use for winter homes.

If you have no ties, and have some cash saved up to live off of til you get settled, I say go for it!

 

[Serena]

Go, go, go! You deserve to do something you want. You deserve to take this adventure and see what happens.