I know I'm still new here but I really can't believe how rude people are being to Shirley. Sure, it may seem like a joke to you but she is here asking a serious question. You don't know her situation, except for what she's posted here. Maybe she is very isolated except for her husbands, her kids, and her one friend. I can't imagine living life with so few people to rely on. She reached out here to get some honest, true advice and she's getting mocked and made fun of. Calling her a troll is mean, and egging her on like King Schultz is doing is just plain rude!!