Lonely

[kdm31091]

This will sound immature and I'm only 15 so probably going to be told I'm too young for this anyway. But my (temporarily) long distance boyfriend, who lives in California (until June, and we've been together many times in real life), is sick, so we won't talk til tomorrow.

I happen to be quite weird, and I get this horrible nervous feeling in my stomach, wondering what he's doing, who he's talking to, etc. I wish I was there, and it kills me that we won't talk today. I'm really lonely tonight, used to having him here to chat online or phone by 5pm. I really am lonely

 

[DMickey28]

Totally normal... I find I get that way and it's just based on routine. I get thrown out of sorts when DH is sick and he goes to bed early... hey wait, I am the one that goes to bed at 9pm. You tuck me in and then I go to sleep. I don't know what to do in the living room alone!! I think it's normal, no matter what stage or what point in your life you are in. Part of it has to do with routine.

PS... why can't you talk b/c he is sick? Is he sleeping?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Research your career options and that CC link I sent you--seriously! Distraction works wonders to pass the time.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Aw, hey, I'm just as "immature" then (and I'm 32) I have certain people with whom I'm the same way. I think I know EXACTLY what you mean by that horrible nervous feeling because I feel it often. It doesn't help that I'm insecure and clingy by nature.

 

[UrsulasMyHero]

It's time to play games on the net. Neo Pets works wonders for Distractions. I hope he feels better, and you too. *hu

 

[kdm31091]

I'm VERY clingy. I even hate him "bonding" with his parents - how totally ridiculous. I can't wait till he moves though. He's so fun to be around that it will make this summer rock! Plus, he's so sweet, he wants to follow my career ideas. Not copy me like a clone but he said he might wanna do the same industry as me because he wants to be like me.

We can't talk because if it's before 10pm, we have to be online, not phone...because we don't have the same provider. Plus the time zone difference. My free night minutes begin at 9pm, which is only 6pm there. his begin at 7pm there, or 10pm there. We talk on the phone at 10 tonight. But normally we're only all these hours.

 

[DMickey28]

I'm VERY clingy. I even hate him "bonding" with his parents - how totally ridiculous. I can't wait till he moves though. He's so fun to be around that it will make this summer rock! Plus, he's so sweet, he wants to follow my career ideas. Not copy me like a clone but he said he might wanna do the same industry as me because he wants to be like me.

I am sorry in advance but I can't let this one go. That is a bit freaky. You guys met online right? He's older too? I would just be very careful and watch out... I thought I remember a post you had that he was 18? RED FLAG to me... Is he moving out to where you are for good or just for the summer? Where is he going to live (because I assume you live at home with your parents)?

 

[kdm31091]

I am sorry in advance but I can't let this one go. That is a bit freaky. You guys met online right? He's older too? I would just be very careful and watch out... I thought I remember a post you had that he was 18? RED FLAG to me... Is he moving out to where you are for good or just for the summer? Where is he going to live (because I assume you live at home with your parents)?

We met online, he's not 18 yet. Almost. He's moving here for good, but he's not living with me. He's gonna rent at a nearby complex.

Don't worry. Not in a freaky way or anything. He doesn't obsess about being like me. I think he justs wants to have similar hours like me, or be home when I am, etc. Not "be" like me. I think I said it wrong.

 

[kdm31091]

Okay, now people think my bf is a freak, lol

 

[Sparx]

I have a similar relationship. We met online, we've met in person. yadda yadda yadda.

I miss my boyfriend when he's sick. Its nothing to be ashamed of. I miss him the nights he doesn't call. I miss him when we're not together.

I just always remember that someday we're going to get to be together whenever we want to be. It makes missing him easier.


And about the career, I get that. But you should make sure he does what makes him happy.

If my current boyfriend and I were living together, doing the jobs of our dreams, we'd not have similar hours, but we would still get to spend a lot of time together. He doesn't have to have the same job as you to get to spend time with you. Just make sure he does whatever makes him happy.

and a great big e-hug from one longdistance relationship to another.

 

[milkabum]

I am sorry in advance but I can't let this one go. That is a bit freaky. You guys met online right? He's older too? I would just be very careful and watch out... I thought I remember a post you had that he was 18? RED FLAG to me... Is he moving out to where you are for good or just for the summer? Where is he going to live (because I assume you live at home with your parents)?

I agree.
It doesn't feel right. At all.

 

[kdm31091]

Read my response and the way another teen responded, milkabum. It's really nothing to worry about. My mom and family have met him extensively. There were no issues.

 

[kdm31091]

I have a similar relationship. We met online, we've met in person. yadda yadda yadda.

I miss my boyfriend when he's sick. Its nothing to be ashamed of. I miss him the nights he doesn't call. I miss him when we're not together.

I just always remember that someday we're going to get to be together whenever we want to be. It makes missing him easier.


And about the career, I get that. But you should make sure he does what makes him happy.

If my current boyfriend and I were living together, doing the jobs of our dreams, we'd not have similar hours, but we would still get to spend a lot of time together. He doesn't have to have the same job as you to get to spend time with you. Just make sure he does whatever makes him happy.

and a great big e-hug from one longdistance relationship to another.

Thanks!

I'm so glad this long distance thing is temporary. He was last here in July and I remember thinking "Well, 11 months and he'll be back". He's coming back ~June 14, which is about 5 months down. I'm past the halfway point!

Only concern: Getting enough money! He's gonna get a pt job when he's 18 (to avoid the permits and junk for <18 year old jobs, like I had to do), and hopefully, raise a lot of money. He currently has about $450 which would basically get him here but not much else.

He needs about $3,000, maybe even $4,000 I'm guessing, more or less. An apartment, one bedroom, plus deposits and yadda, will probably be about $1,500 (not monthly but upfront). A used car will be about $500-1,000 at the cheapest. That's $2,500 right there. Add in food for the first few weeks until paychecks start coming (he's gonna line up a job beforehand), and he really needs $3,000. Hope it's possible.

 

[kdm31091]

But anyway, don't be freaked about him. Still kinda lonely though

 

[lil mermaid]

Long distance relationships are hard. I feel for you. DH and I had one, sort of, for awhile. We didn't met online, but he was in the merchant marine when we first met, during our engagement, and for the first year of our marriage. We met when he was on a 3 month vacation. Then he shipped out for three months - then home for three months...repeat repeat repeat. He now has a job on LAND.

I have to say, this is bothering me....Why do you hate it when he bonds with his parents??

 

[kdm31091]

Mostly because if they bond too much he could decide to postpone his move. It was supposed to be in January, this month, but we moved it to June, so he could finish high school where he's at.

 

[Liberty Belle]

But you're only 15, right? That's awfully young to have someone moving to be with you. Your parents are really okay with this?

 

[DMickey28]

I am glad that your parents have met him. Just be careful!! That's all I am going to say ... What you want and do at 15 MIGHT not be even remotely close to what you want to do at 20 and you don't want to get "tied down" this young. What I wanted at 18 is not even remotely close to what I want now at 28... life changes fast and the next 10 years are going to bring A LOT of change at you.

Trust me.. there are so many people out there that you will fall for....

BTW: I met my DH online as well. While he and I were not in a long distance relationship, I was in one through parts of college. I know it's hard and it does stink at times.

Off - topic and I don't want to hijack your thread .. but now that I am pregnant and I know it's a son, my outlook on things have changed/broadened so much. I remember so clearly what it was like to be 15/16 years old and what you must be feeling. I can only hope and pray that when my son (and any brother and sisters that may come along) are growing up I can remember what it felt like to be his age.

 

[kdm31091]

My mom knows he's moving. She doesn't mind.