Let the Prom Drama CONTINUE . . . . . . . .

[horseshowmom]

Sounds like fun and a new grill with steak! Yummmmmm I love to BBQ steak, it is the only way I know it comes out the way I like, not too raw and not dead.
I marinate them in a mixture of soy sauce, garlic, green onion and sesame oil.

DH does a marinade with soy sauce, etc., and it's wonderful. I really prefer his steaks to the ones we get at restaurants.

DS's worst fears of a roommate:
1. A Yankee's fan. We are a New England Household all the way
2. Mama's Boy who brings a parent to college with him.

Fingers crossed here!

None of us saw this coming:
DS and his GF broke up 2 days ago. On grad day when we got back from the ceremony and were getting ready to depart for the party DS and GF were holed up in his room. She was having some sort of drama episode. I had a house full of people and food we needed to get to the party, I finally told them to sort it out and get into the car, which they did. GF left the party early with her Mom and Step Dad (Her Dad and his GF along with the neighbors they brought with them classy huh? Anyway, they all left and went off to party elsewhere) GF went with them and DS stayed with us at his party.

You know, that really wasn't the time for her to get dramatic, and then to add the grand exit to it was a bit much.

We leave to go on vac and towards the end of the vac DS mentions something to me about how GF won't answer his calls or respond to his text messages and that this had been going on for several days.

We had a vacation when DD was about 6. We took DH's sister and her kids with us (had a house rented in Orlando). His GF pulled that kind of thing while we were gone. Created a big drama when they did talk on the phone (decided she needed to see other people). She didn't want him to go to start with, and all she was doing was playing games. He was tore down, and it put a damper on everybody's trip.

GF was feeling very insecure about him going to college and "was afraid of holding him back" (what nonsense if you ask me) anyway, DS had told her the night of the grad meltdown that he was only 18 and he had no intentions of doing anything that would interfere with his continuing education, I guess he also told her that if she was along that was great but if not that was ok too. I finally asked him "what do you want?" "It's not about what GF wants, what do you want?" I think he was thinking alot about her feelings and not so much about his.
We returned home and the day after we got back they talked, they agreed to break it off. There was also some rumors from other friends that there might be another guy in the picture. It is rodeo week and evidently he is somehow associated with the Rodeo and she has known him for awhile. DS didn't ask, he frankly really didn't want to know.

Well, if it's going to end, now's a good time. By the time he starts college, he'll have it out of his system and be ready to start fresh.

I'm not too sure that she was being honest with him about what was in her head. It sounds a little bit like she was either pushing for a too serious relationship and when she didn't get it, decided to revert to an "old friend" (maybe to make DS jealous, maybe just to move on).

Either way, I hope he can move on and feel better soon!

VRBO is actually a pretty good service, that is how I found the beach house for this past trip and it was a gem!

I love VRBO (just used it when I was in Biloxi)!

Hot fudge cake what a wonderful concept....do they serve it warm and gooey?

YES, they did!!!

Any more news on the clerk? That is scary, not only for keeping track of the meds but also because she is dispensing meds

No, DD hasn't been back to work.

What a find! Does she love it?

She DOES! Right now, her plan is to use it as is, and when they build or buy "their" house, she's going ot have it refinished and put it in the dining room with the china that his grandmother is giving them.

 

[horseshowmom]

That reminds me - I need to get DS back into the dentist to check out his wisdom teeth. I forgot about doing that. He'll probably have to have his out as well.

I hope both of your sons come out okay!

The "calling" of the in laws should go to your DH. They're HIS parents, after all, and it gets YOU off the hook!!!!

Yep, that was what I thought too.

Nice to have you back!!!

Glad you had a nice trip (even if you were the "hostess")!



BTW, one of the presidential debates is being held at DD's university in September. Apparently, they paid a substantial sum to get it. I never realized that was the way it worked until this came up.

Anyway, that's going to be quite a sight to see in that small town. They're desparately trying to recruit people to rent their apartments or extra rooms out for a few days at very high dollar prices, but I guess we can forget that, can't we???

 

[Sandy V.]

Destin is in the panhandle section of Florida (between Pensacola and Panama City). It has the most beautiful beaches and water that I've come across in Florida. There's a nice outlet mall there and lots of good restaurants. It can get pretty crowded though. DD's RM is getting married just outside of Destin in Santa Rosa.

I really like the Sandestin resort in particular. It's very pricey, but its beaches are private, and you have a little nicer clientele there. You don't have a lot of nearly naked people (you know there are bikinis, and then there are bikini-bikinis ) with very loud, wild music playing. It was very much of a family atmosphere. It's a huge resort with tram transportation to the various areas (have a wonderful "village" type area on the Bay with entertainment, etc.). I prefer the condos that are directly on the beach though.

Thanks for the info. It sounds very nice!! I'm like you, I prefer a place right on the beach.

They'll be at Louisiana State (thought I should qualify since LA could mean Los Angeles), and I know it can get hot in Louisiana.

I kind of figured as much, given your proximity to Louisiana.

Man, that's just like Sea World!!!

Yep. Unfortunately, since then, I haven't been able to get her to take it again. The shrimp have, but not Rosie the hawkfish. I'll keep working at it, though.


I hope that everyone had a good weekend. Ours was nice. We vegged out on Friday night and had pizza at home. We left Saturday afternoon for Estes Park, stopped to see DD for a brief moment, and then headed to Estes, which is 40 minutes from Boulder. After getting checked in (wonderful hotel room!), we went to dinner at a little brewpub that we always go to. Afterwards, we dropped DS off so he could do some fishing, and then DH and I went downtown for a little shopping. Afterwards, we headed to the Stanley Hotel for a glass of wine. The Stanley Hotel is where Steven King stayed when he wrote "The Shining" - it's the inspiration for the movie, although it was not the location where it was filmed. It's a beautiful old hotel. We've stayed there previously and really enjoyed it, but this time they didn't have a room that would accommodate 3 of us, so we stayed at the Comfort Inn this time.

The next morning, after breakfast at a great little coffeehouse with seating by a mountain stream, we rode bicycles around Lake Estes (great paved bike paths!) and then did some more shopping in town. We packed up and went back to Boulder to see DD. DH cleaned up for his business trip to Los Angeles and then took off for the airport. DD, DS, and I went to the Pearl Street Mall - it's a great pedestrian shopping mall in Boulder about 7-8 blocks from DD's house. We ate dinner at a great little sushi place, and then we went to Cheesecake Factory for dessert!! DD and I split a piece of the carrot cake cheesecake (heavenly), and DS got his own Dulce de Leche cheesecake. With full stomachs, DS and I headed home after saying goodbye to DD. Once we got there, everything was waiting to be fed (dog and fishies!!). The rest of the night was spent being couch material reading a book - very relaxing!!!

Well, gotta get back to work - check in when you can!!!

 

[horseshowmom]

Sounds like a GREAT weekend!

Sure beat mine by a long shot. I didn't get in from work until 6:30 Friday night and was in the office until 7:30 Saturday night. Work, these PD sessions, and these two online classes that I'm taking are killing me.

DH is teaching this week's PD sessions, so that takes some of the pressure off me. He's handling things for me over there (last week's sessions were in this building, but his are at the elementary school).

Better get back to it. Talk more later!

 

[Sandy V.]

Sounds like a GREAT weekend!

Sure beat mine by a long shot. I didn't get in from work until 6:30 Friday night and was in the office until 7:30 Saturday night. Work, these PD sessions, and these two online classes that I'm taking are killing me.

DH is teaching this week's PD sessions, so that takes some of the pressure off me. He's handling things for me over there (last week's sessions were in this building, but his are at the elementary school).

Better get back to it. Talk more later!

Wow! You HAVE been busy. I hope it slows down soon for you. Hang in there!!!!

 

[mamacatnv]

Sandy:
Your weekend sounds busy but fun, sounds like you all had a relaxing time with each other. I love Cheesecake Factory, but I am the lone person that loves it for their Calamari not their desserts Your poor DH I read the other day that So. Cal was having record triple digit heat, add it to the smog and humidity.....yuck!
So, now you have finicky fish

Sheila:
So, the parties have to pay for the venue? That works, the school gets some big time publicity and gets compensated for the headache at the same time. I bet with all the security and such that your small colllege town will be busting at the seams.
Any dress pictures yet?????

Your beach vacations sound nice but I don't know how you guys take the heat and humidity. Especially the humidity, ugh, I turn into a wet rag in nothing flat. I'm such a weeny when it comes to heat. I like Florida, in December! I have only been to New Orleans in Feb. and last summer the Texas trip cured me of ever going anywhere that is hot/humid in the summer I'm thinking Alaska would be an ideal destination!

We were semi busy this weekend.
Friday night we all went to the new ice cream parlour that has just opened in our neighborhood. We all had ice cream and played air hockey.

Saturday, DD's friend from school called at 9 a.m. grrrrrrr and wanted to come over to play with DD. You know how 9 year olds are on the phone, I finally got Grandma on the phone who wanted me to come get the child. I said sure, no problem (thinking it was a school mate therefore would be in the neighborhood) noooooo, they live about 15 miles away. I am still not sure why the kid goes to DD's school. Now I can't disappoint DD, so I suck it up and go get her friend. I figured since I had to head into town to get this child that I would take the girls to the water park. So we played at the park all day Saturday and then came home to a movie, I arranged for the friend to spend the night.

Sunday, the girls worked on DH to take them to a movie. That man is such a sucker where DD is concerned I didn't want to go anywhere. I haven't had a down day in over a month. So, DH took the girls to see Kung Fu Panda and then out to lunch and dropped the friend off on the way home.
I enjoyed having 4 hours of peace and quiet. Me, my book, Simon the Fat Cat and the remote control....... Oh yeah and before DH left he set up a second fan in my bedroom, I must have looked like a queen, 2 fans blowing on me from different locations and this big fat cat asleep on my lap! Now mind you I also have central air that was at 70 and my room is dark and cavelike and is the coolest room in the house..... What more could a 40+ heat intolerant person want

DS worked all weekend and went to the Rodeo on Saturday night with some friends. Who does he see at the Rodeo kissing another guy? You guessed it, GF who dumped him last week after 9 months. Poor kid, he is heartbroken, when he got home he and I sat on the porch until about 2 a.m. talking about it. He doesn’t get it, he is just so confused and upset. He didn’t realize he was “so disposable” and he doesn’t understand why she lied about seeing the other guy while we were on vacation. Ugh, girls!

I kept telling him, "she is 17" "she doesn't know any different" etc.....
He is mostly angry she lied to him. DS is very honest (mainly because he can't lie to save his life ) anyway, he never thought she would lie to him. Life lesson learned............

He has a really good friend who is a year older than he is home from college for the summer. I like the kid and the kid's family. They have been hanging around alot with each other which I think is good for DS. Diversion and male bonding, he will get over it.

Today, my BFF has to take her little guy (he is almost 3) for his evaluation and she is a wreck. He has a chromosonal syndrome called Noonans and he is severly developmentally delayed. He is in an early intervention program but when he turns 3 he goes from early intervention (thru the state) to the school district and their pre-k intervention programs. She wants so badly for them to tell her he is fine and all caught up but she knows that is not a reality. Unfortunatley, her DH and MIL are both in heavy denial and she battles her feelings on her own. Me thinks there will be much beer drinking on the patio tonight.

This week I have a camera class. I got a digital Canon Rebel last summer and I know how to use the "auto" button and that is about it. For Mother's Day my DH signed me up for an intermediate digital camera class at a local camera shop. I am very excited, it is frustrating to have this really nice camera that I really don't know how to use.

Well that is about it on this front. Hope you all have a great day and catch up when you can.

 

[horseshowmom]

Sheila:
So, the parties have to pay for the venue? That works, the school gets some big time publicity and gets compensated for the headache at the same time. I bet with all the security and such that your small colllege town will be busting at the seams.

Actually, you've got it backwards. The university pays for the debate to come to them (well over a million dollars at that ). They look at is as being great publicity for the university (as you mentioned). I can't imagine where they're going to put these people. The last I heard, they're expecting to ferry people back and forth from Memphis, Tunica (has lots of hotel rooms due to the casinos), and Tupelo.

Any dress pictures yet?????

Just haven't gotten to it yet. We had to return one and have them order another size for us. One of the other bridesmaids is in China right now, which would make it difficult for her to try on her dress , but fortunately, she's the same size as DD (they swap out clothes), so that solves that problem.

Your beach vacations sound nice but I don't know how you guys take the heat and humidity. Especially the humidity, ugh, I turn into a wet rag in nothing flat. I'm such a weeny when it comes to heat. I like Florida, in December! I have only been to New Orleans in Feb. and last summer the Texas trip cured me of ever going anywhere that is hot/humid in the summer I'm thinking Alaska would be an ideal destination!

You're going to laugh, but I actually stay off the beach during the day. I like to sleep late, have breakfast on the balcony, and watch the waves for awhile. Then I like to hit the outlet mall or take in a movie during the afternoon. I like to hit the beach in the late afternoon when the sun is going down, and it's cooler - mostly just to walk along the water's edge (don't do much swimming at all). I just love to listen to the waves roll in and out. It relaxes me more than anything else I know.

Saturday, DD's friend from school called at 9 a.m. grrrrrrr and wanted to come over to play with DD. You know how 9 year olds are on the phone, I finally got Grandma on the phone who wanted me to come get the child. I said sure, no problem (thinking it was a school mate therefore would be in the neighborhood) noooooo, they live about 15 miles away. I am still not sure why the kid goes to DD's school. Now I can't disappoint DD, so I suck it up and go get her friend. I figured since I had to head into town to get this child that I would take the girls to the water park. So we played at the park all day Saturday and then came home to a movie, I arranged for the friend to spend the night.

15 miles away??? That sounds more like being way out here in the country like I am!

Oh yeah and before DH left he set up a second fan in my bedroom, I must have looked like a queen, 2 fans blowing on me from different locations and this big fat cat asleep on my lap! Now mind you I also have central air that was at 70 and my room is dark and cavelike and is the coolest room in the house..... What more could a 40+ heat intolerant person want

I think you might qualify for semi-igloos status!

DS worked all weekend and went to the Rodeo on Saturday night with some friends. Who does he see at the Rodeo kissing another guy? You guessed it, GF who dumped him last week after 9 months. Poor kid, he is heartbroken, when he got home he and I sat on the porch until about 2 a.m. talking about it. He doesn’t get it, he is just so confused and upset. He didn’t realize he was “so disposable” and he doesn’t understand why she lied about seeing the other guy while we were on vacation. Ugh, girls!

UUUUGGGGHHHH!!!!

Bless his heart, I know he's really been blindsided. Just make sure he remembers all of this when the rodeo leaves town again.

It's a sad fact that not everybody is as honest as some are. You'd like to think that with as much history as they have, she could have been more honest than this. A break up is never easy, but it's a lot worse when lying is involved. I think it makes us feel like we've been a fool (on top of everything else).

I hope his friend is able to help out some, and things will probably get better when college starts.

Today, my BFF has to take her little guy (he is almost 3) for his evaluation and she is a wreck. He has a chromosonal syndrome called Noonans and he is severly developmentally delayed. He is in an early intervention program but when he turns 3 he goes from early intervention (thru the state) to the school district and their pre-k intervention programs. She wants so badly for them to tell her he is fine and all caught up but she knows that is not a reality. Unfortunatley, her DH and MIL are both in heavy denial and she battles her feelings on her own. Me thinks there will be much beer drinking on the patio tonight.

I wish her the best. I know she loves him dearly and wants the very best for him that he can have. Dealing with developmental issues has to be difficult I know, and I'm sure it weighs heavy on her heart (especially if she's having to take on the responsibility of being the one who accepts it). Best wishes to her...

This week I have a camera class. I got a digital Canon Rebel last summer and I know how to use the "auto" button and that is about it. For Mother's Day my DH signed me up for an intermediate digital camera class at a local camera shop. I am very excited, it is frustrating to have this really nice camera that I really don't know how to use.

What a wonderful idea! You have a great time!

 

[mamacatnv]

Actually, you've got it backwards. The university pays for the debate to come to them (well over a million dollars at that ). They look at is as being great publicity for the university (as you mentioned). I can't imagine where they're going to put these people. The last I heard, they're expecting to ferry people back and forth from Memphis, Tunica (has lots of hotel rooms due to the casinos), and Tupelo.

Oh, I totally missed that one! A million bucks I think if that were to occur here there would be all sorts of drama. The Univ. here is facing huge budget cuts, hiring freezes, tuition increases etc.... if they spent that kind of money on a debate.......oh I shudder to think even tho I know the economic boost to the area would be huge since we can handle the tourism.

Just haven't gotten to it yet. We had to return one and have them order another size for us. One of the other bridesmaids is in China right now which would make it difficult for her to try on her dress , but fortunately, she's the same size as DD (they swap out clothes), so that solves that problem.

Yep, that could be a little tricky!

You're going to laugh, but I actually stay off the beach during the day. I like to sleep late, have breakfast on the balcony, and watch the waves for awhile. Then I like to hit the outlet mall or take in a movie during the afternoon. I like to hit the beach in the late afternoon when the sun is going down, and it's cooler - mostly just to walk along the water's edge (don't do much swimming at all). I just love to listen to the waves roll in and out. It relaxes me more than anything else I know.

I love the sound of the ocean and can sit and watch waves for hours, it is a hypnotic form of relaxation. I'm not laughing, to me you are avoiding the "heat" of the day. That is a concept I totally understand. One time when we were in FL. (in December) it was hot and sticky so we headed to the beach. Now, I grew up near the Pacific Coast (Santa Cruz area) and was totally unprepared to arrive at the beach and have it be the same temp that it was inland (we were on the Gulf Coast in the Sarasota area). I was expecting a cool ocean breeze and instead it was just hot sticky air. I was totally disillusioned!

15 miles away??? That sounds more like being way out here in the country like I am!

She was about as far from town as we are but in another valley to the East of us and tucked way back in the boonies of said valley. What surprised me was that I don't know this kid or her parents. I picker her up at noon on Saturday and at 4 ish on Sunday I called to inform them that DH was going to drop her off. No one called to see if she needed a ride home or what was up. This never ceases to amaze me.

I think you might qualify for semi-igloos status!

I hate heat. It's funny, DD is the same way and I so remember how miserable I was as a kid when I was warm. Must be just the way we are wired. She and I were at Home Depot a couple of weeks back and it was 95 - I had to take her into the bathroom and sprinkle her with cool water then plant her inside on the patio furniture while I finished getting yard flowers. She just wilts and overheats so quickly as do I.

UUUUGGGGHHHH!!!!

Bless his heart, I know he's really been blindsided. Just make sure he remembers all of this when the rodeo leaves town again.

It's a sad fact that not everybody is as honest as some are. You'd like to think that with as much history as they have, she could have been more honest than this. A break up is never easy, but it's a lot worse when lying is involved. I think it makes us feel like we've been a fool (on top of everything else).

I hope his friend is able to help out some, and things will probably get better when college starts.

Sadly, the guy is a local and won't be leaving town when all the others do. DS will get over it I have no doubt, he is just wounded. I always worried about the first girl who came along since there were only 2 scenarios (in my book) he would either get his heart stolen or broken. She broke his........
Personally, I think he will have a better summer and will get out a little more, plus it solved the issue of how he was going to juggle her in H.S. and him in college. I am actually glad it occurred early in the summer so he can lick his wounds and have his head on straight to start school in August.

I wish her the best. I know she loves him dearly and wants the very best for him that he can have. Dealing with developmental issues has to be difficult I know, and I'm sure it weighs heavy on her heart (especially if she's having to take on the responsibility of being the one who accepts it). Best wishes to her...

Thanks. It is always going to be a tough journey. She and I were talking about the phases she has gone thru (detachment, embarrassment, anger and acceptance) It has been a long couple of years and he can be very frustrating but at the same time he is such a charmer. I am not fond of toddlers (they are gooey ) but I do love that little guy. My whole family is very protective of him. He loves my DS, thinks he is some sort of interactive jungle gym and DS is very good with him. We are all apprehensive about leaving the early intervention group and being subjected to the school district which we don't know a lot about.

What a wonderful idea! You have a great time!

Being the techno idiot that I am, I am excited!

 

[horseshowmom]

Oh, I totally missed that one! A million bucks I think if that were to occur here there would be all sorts of drama. The Univ. here is facing huge budget cuts, hiring freezes, tuition increases etc.... if they spent that kind of money on a debate.......oh I shudder to think even tho I know the economic boost to the area would be huge since we can handle the tourism.

Apparently, that's the way those things work (although I certainly had no idea). The universities basically compete for the opportunity (and, of course, it draws the eyes of the entire country to that particular campus). I'm not sure what other universities will be hosting debates, but I think that Ole Miss is going to be the first one (wonder how much extra that cost! ).

She was about as far from town as we are but in another valley to the East of us and tucked way back in the boonies of said valley. What surprised me was that I don't know this kid or her parents. I picker her up at noon on Saturday and at 4 ish on Sunday I called to inform them that DH was going to drop her off. No one called to see if she needed a ride home or what was up. This never ceases to amaze me.

I cannot even fathom that. Those people didn't have a clue as to who you were or anything about your family. This is the first time the girl has even been in your house, and they just hand her over to spend the night (basically, the weekend).

It's a good thing she was in a safe environment.

Sadly, the guy is a local and won't be leaving town when all the others do. DS will get over it I have no doubt, he is just wounded. I always worried about the first girl who came along since there were only 2 scenarios (in my book) he would either get his heart stolen or broken. She broke his........
Personally, I think he will have a better summer and will get out a little more, plus it solved the issue of how he was going to juggle her in H.S. and him in college. I am actually glad it occurred early in the summer so he can lick his wounds and have his head on straight to start school in August.

She may have been looking for a replacement since he was headed off to college (even though college was actually going to be right there). Who knows?

I agree, better now than in August.

We are all apprehensive about leaving the early intervention group and being subjected to the school district which we don't know a lot about.

That was the first thing that I thought too. It really depends on how good of a program a school district has.

Being the techno idiot that I am, I am excited!

Hey! I resemble that remark!

 

[horseshowmom]

Although I'm not going to make it to Destin, it looks like I'm going to spend a few days in Gulf Shores, AL at the beach. I've never been there, but I hear that it is very similar to Destin, so it should be a good compromise (and it's closer too).

I was able to get a 3 BR beachfront condo for $150 a night (found it on VRBO - love that site!). It's normally $269 per night, but he had these 5 days that hadn't been rented (and probably wouldn't have been, so he was willing to deal). Five days away was about all I could spare anyway (2 of them will be weekend days).

A friend of mine and I are taking our girls (my DD and hers are BFF, she's DD's MoH). She also has a 12 year old. If her son decides to go (15), we'll let DFi go too, otherwise he's stuck at home!

(DH had absolutely NO interest in going to the beach - was adamant about it. I'm not sure he thought I'd come up with this idea of going with somebody else! )

(Guess it's a good thing that my parents will be here this week. Chachi will need a sitter since this condo doesn't allow pets! )

 

[mamacatnv]

Apparently, that's the way those things work (although I certainly had no idea). The universities basically compete for the opportunity (and, of course, it draws the eyes of the entire country to that particular campus). I'm not sure what other universities will be hosting debates, but I think that Ole Miss is going to be the first one (wonder how much extra that cost! ).

Interesting I didn't know that was how it worked either. Sounds like the debates get put out to bid. It would be exciting for a Univ. to be in the spotlight and the thing I do like when they go to campuses is when the candidates get to face student panels. Students are so fresh and honest and are not afraid to really ask the tough questions.

I cannot even fathom that. Those people didn't have a clue as to who you were or anything about your family. This is the first time the girl has even been in your house, and they just hand her over to spend the night (basically, the weekend).

It's a good thing she was in a safe environment.

I know I thought it was bizarre myself. My DD wanted to then stay at her house.....ummmm, no. I saw the inside of the house and I hate to sound like a snob, but......the house had a refrigerator on the front porch and things did not get better once inside. It looked to me like there are several different family members living there. The living room was packed full of stuff and the dining room had sheets hanging from the ceiling forming a makeshift bedroom. There was an assortment of adults ranging in age from 20's to 60's who were present, both male and female. Now I know that not every child is fortunate enough to have a Mom and a Dad and a nice house but sometimes I really struggle and just will not leave the kids in an environment like that. I then feel snobby, which is not my way but I can't help it. I got the impression that they were all really nice people but I was not going to leave my child with someone who did not check up on their child for over 24 hours which in itself is no crime, it was that they didn't know us, they don't know where we live and we have never met. It was just weird.

She may have been looking for a replacement since he was headed off to college (even though college was actually going to be right there). Who knows?

I agree, better now than in August.

I agree with you. I think she is looking for a way out of her family situation and when DS made it clear that his education was the priority then she shifted gears. I was trying to explain to him last night how the possibility of being friends is rather remote. He is just starting to show the hurt, he misses her and confirms my theory that he was way more invested than she was. I keep telling him, she is only 17 but his little heart is broken at the moment.

That was the first thing that I thought too. It really depends on how good of a program a school district has.

Assessment was really hard on BFF - her DS is almost 3 and the psychologist said he is almost 2 years behind. They are assessing him at 12-18 months for most physical tasks (ie. he cannot stack blocks) and developmental milestones and 20-22 months for his verbal skills. (Which amazed me since he really only says a couple of things and not clearly, but what do I know) he has started to follow simple commands so it seems he understands more than he says. Her DH is finally acknowleding that maybe his delays are not just because he was small at birth and a couple of weeks early however, he is still convinced that he will catch up in the next year or so. (Again, I am no expert, but I don't think that is going to happen)

Hey! I resemble that remark!

I'm kind of excited I might actually learn what a few of the buttons are for

Although I'm not going to make it to Destin, it looks like I'm going to spend a few days in Gulf Shores, AL at the beach. I've never been there, but I hear that it is very similar to Destin, so it should be a good compromise (and it's closer too).

I was able to get a 3 BR beachfront condo for $150 a night (found it on VRBO - love that site!). It's normally $269 per night, but he had these 5 days that hadn't been rented (and probably wouldn't have been, so he was willing to deal). Five days away was about all I could spare anyway (2 of them will be weekend days).

A friend of mine and I are taking our girls (my DD and hers are BFF, she's DD's MoH). She also has a 12 year old. If her son decides to go (15), we'll let DFi go too, otherwise he's stuck at home!

(DH had absolutely NO interest in going to the beach - was adamant about it. I'm not sure he thought I'd come up with this idea of going with somebody else! )

(Guess it's a good thing that my parents will be here this week. Chachi will need a sitter since this condo doesn't allow pets! )

Of course you found a deal, I never doubted it for a minute. My DH would do the same thing, then look all confused while I was packing my bags and heading out the driveway. It's still gulf coast, I bet it is nice. Does all of the gulf have that powdery white sand like the Sarasota area of Florida does? Grandma is coming to take care of Chachi, isn't that sweet. Who is going to rescue your DH from you parents?
Is Chachi nice to Grandma?
How are Kodak and Tigger doing?

Busy week around here - taking DS to the oral surgeon today for a consult, DD and BFF's DD are at a day camp for the week and today they are supposed to swim, then they have a VBS program this whole week that started last night. We pick them up from day camp at 4:30 throw a snack at them and drop them at VBS at 5:15. We take turns with the carpooling duties, depending on each others schedules. It works out really well for all concerned.

California is on fire and we are being inundated by smoke. It is so thick, we are all coughing, runny eyes, stuffy noses etc. The day camps all over the city are having to shift gears since the health dept. is advising no outdoor activities. Example, it is 93 today but they are going to an indoor pool (sauna IMO) and tomorrow they are supposed to go to a beach/marina but may end up roller skating. Just a crazy week until the winds pick up and shift that smoke out of here. It did make for a beautiful sunset last night.

That is about it here on the home front......Hope all is well and you ladies have a great day

 

[mamacatnv]

So, I just called DS because I left my cell phone at home. I was going to have him bring it to me when he meets me to go to the oral surgeon appt. He says "I'm not at home, I'm having breakfast" I say, "okay, are you by yourself" he says "No, I with GF"(Former) oh dear................let the roller coaster ride begin

 

[horseshowmom]

Interesting I didn't know that was how it worked either. Sounds like the debates get put out to bid.

The university phone number came up on our call ID last night. (I used to answer it until I caught on that the purpose of their calls was to solicit donations. ) When I looked at DH to see who it was, and he told me it was them, I told him that I was tempted to talk to them. I really wanted to ask if they really thought what little money I've got was going to compare to what they just paid for the debate! (Since it's just a poor student worker, I wouldn't do that though.)

I know I thought it was bizarre myself. My DD wanted to then stay at her house.....ummmm, no. I saw the inside of the house and I hate to sound like a snob, but......the house had a refrigerator on the front porch and things did not get better once inside. It looked to me like there are several different family members living there. The living room was packed full of stuff and the dining room had sheets hanging from the ceiling forming a makeshift bedroom. There was an assortment of adults ranging in age from 20's to 60's who were present, both male and female. Now I know that not every child is fortunate enough to have a Mom and a Dad and a nice house but sometimes I really struggle and just will not leave the kids in an environment like that. I then feel snobby, which is not my way but I can't help it.

I wouldn't leave mine in that environment either. Sorry, the situation is too ambiguous for my taste. They would have to play at my house.

I got the impression that they were all really nice people but I was not going to leave my child with someone who did not check up on their child for over 24 hours which in itself is no crime, it was that they didn't know us, they don't know where we live and we have never met. It was just weird.

I agree 100%. No better than they tended to their own child, they sure wouldn't be responsible for mine. No way, no how...

I agree with you. I think she is looking for a way out of her family situation and when DS made it clear that his education was the priority then she shifted gears. I was trying to explain to him last night how the possibility of being friends is rather remote. He is just starting to show the hurt, he misses her and confirms my theory that he was way more invested than she was. I keep telling him, she is only 17 but his little heart is broken at the moment.

Friends? Nope, he's looking for a way to stay connected in some way (and haven't we all done that at some point ). I agree with you, he needs to back away from the situation and let it fall where it does.

On the extremely remote chance that the situation should work itself out favorably, the only way it could work would be if she came to that realization herself (the realization that he wasn't there anymore, and she didn't like it that way). If he's right there available to her, she'll look at it as being too easy. Of course, he can't go into it looking at it like that either. He just needs to look at it as being over - period.

I've often thought that DD and DFi's time apart did them a world of good. As much as he adored her though, after she broke up with him that was the end of it (at least until they wound up back together after 6 months).

He's really got my sympathy. Nothing hurts much worse than a broken teenage heart. DD's heart was broken when she was about 16 (the guy wasn't honest with her either), and I think she still carries a little grudge.

Assessment was really hard on BFF - her DS is almost 3 and the psychologist said he is almost 2 years behind. They are assessing him at 12-18 months for most physical tasks (ie. he cannot stack blocks) and developmental milestones and 20-22 months for his verbal skills. (Which amazed me since he really only says a couple of things and not clearly, but what do I know) he has started to follow simple commands so it seems he understands more than he says. Her DH is finally acknowleding that maybe his delays are not just because he was small at birth and a couple of weeks early however, he is still convinced that he will catch up in the next year or so. (Again, I am no expert, but I don't think that is going to happen)

Ohhh, I'm so sorry. That sounds pretty serious. Like you, I doubt that he's going to just "catch up" over the next year considering his progress has been slow so far. I know your BFF is really suffering. She wants so much to make everything okay for her baby (like we all do). Reminds us all to be thankful for the blessings we have.

Of course you found a deal, I never doubted it for a minute. My DH would do the same thing, then look all confused while I was packing my bags and heading out the driveway. It's still gulf coast, I bet it is nice. Does all of the gulf have that powdery white sand like the Sarasota area of Florida does?

A lot of it does, but not all of the gulf is nice. Biloxi is awful. They've hauled in the white sand, but the water is just ugly and nasty looking (not due to the hurricane, just always been that way). I don't care for Galveston either. The nice beaches and water kind of stretch from the Gulf Shores,AL area to the Panama City Beach, FL area. The water is a beautiful greenish blue, and the sand is what you described. Different areas are nicer than others though. I particularly love Destin and have been told that GS is very similar.

I found out yesterday that Jimmy Buffet's sister Lucy has a restaurant called LuLu's in GS. I love Jimmy Buffet and Margaritaville, so I'm looking forward to visiting LuLu's while I'm there (I'll bet you could "find a frozen concoction to help you hold on" there! ).

Grandma is coming to take care of Chachi, isn't that sweet. Who is going to rescue your DH from you parents?

My parents actually come every summer. They stay in their motorhome (park it up at my grandmother's old house - they keep a W/D there to use during the summer). My mother adores Chachi (kind of refuses to admit that he's the heathen he really is - you know how grandparents can be... ).

I just went over to today's PD session (DH is the trainer) for lunch, and he mentioned that he might like to go after all. Now this is scheduled to be an all girls trip, but the other woman is actually related to DH so she might let him go.

How are Kodak and Tigger doing?

They are doing great, but Kodak thinks that Tigger is a chew toy. Tigger is such a sweetie that he won't claw him, so Kodak just continues to roll him around (not trying to hurt him, but pawing at him and putting his teeth around Tigger's neck! ). He doesn't do that with the other cats because they won't let him. Even Leigh Ann's mild mannered cat will take his foot and gently tap Kodak on the face when he starts trying to pester him - like he's saying, "None of that now".

Kodak's learning some manners (like not jumping up on you and trying to control his exuberance - the second part is really hard for him ).

California is on fire and we are being inundated by smoke. It is so thick, we are all coughing, runny eyes, stuffy noses etc. The day camps all over the city are having to shift gears since the health dept. is advising no outdoor activities. Example, it is 93 today but they are going to an indoor pool (sauna IMO) and tomorrow they are supposed to go to a beach/marina but may end up roller skating. Just a crazy week until the winds pick up and shift that smoke out of here. It did make for a beautiful sunset last night.

Try to breathe carefully! It sounds like your DD is having a fun summer (although DS's appt. probably isn't going to lead to much fun).


Any updates on poor Nibbles?

 

[horseshowmom]

Got to add a story one of the teachers told me at lunch. She and I are similar ages and have known each other forever. She was telling me how she had gotten her mother and daddy a cell phone last year.

Her mother called her and told her that her daddy had gone to the field (still farms some), and that she had called him and called him but hadn't gotten an answer. When he got home, she decided to check the phone. She told her daughter that something was wrong with the phone, because everytime she tried to call it, it wouldn't ring - it just laid there and moved.

 

[Sandy V.]

My, you two have been busy. I just came back from lunch with some girlfriends, but I will do some reading and catch up tomorrow. Work calls for now. . .

 

[horseshowmom]

So, I just called DS because I left my cell phone at home. I was going to have him bring it to me when he meets me to go to the oral surgeon appt. He says "I'm not at home, I'm having breakfast" I say, "okay, are you by yourself" he says "No, I with GF"(Former) oh dear................let the roller coaster ride begin

Oh my, I missed this one because we posted at the same time. Yes, roller coaster time.

And if you're like me, you're going to sit on pins and needles until you hear what's happened.

 

[horseshowmom]

My, you two have been busy. I just came back from lunch with some girlfriends, but I will do some reading and catch up tomorrow. Work calls for now. . .

That real life stuff can be such an inconvenience!

 

[Sandy V.]

That real life stuff can be such an inconvenience!

True enough.

 

[mamacatnv]

My, you two have been busy. I just came back from lunch with some girlfriends, but I will do some reading and catch up tomorrow. Work calls for now. . .

Girlfriends - you have other friends!

 

[horseshowmom]

Okay, so what happened with DS and the GF? Is he doing okay?