Ladies

[monkeyboy]

ever not want to catch the bouquet at a wedding and why so?

(only if you are eligible that is)

 

[FreshTressa]

Cuz who wants to marry a stinky BOY anyway...they have cooties!!

(I was 6)

 

[Stacerita]

I neve want to catch it. Heck, I dont ever want to even get up to try to catch it. Sorta humiliating. "All single women to the center of the dance floor!" Can there be anything more humiliating? I think the whole thing is lame and just some cruel attempt to embarass and mess with us. And who really thinks that the person who catches the bouquet is the next to get married anyways? It really stinks when almost everyone you know is married so the group "trying" to catch the bouquet is less and less every time. I once went to a wedding and there were only like 5 single women to catch it. Including me and I wasn't even up there. What made it horrible was that there wasn't even any single men to catch the garter. Yeah, I dont get up anymore.

I did catch the bouquet once. I was a junior bridesmaid and 10 at the time. I guess I peaked and it all went downhill from then.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

I'm no longer eligible, but as someone who was single into her 30's the boquet toss became a NIGHTMARE! Ugh - I know I still looked young, but it was awful to be out there with all the little girls, teens, and young 20-somethings and be the only single woman over 25 on the floor. It was just a reminder that I was the last single person in my age group. I'd hear things like "I'm sure your turn will come. Maybe some nice man will just sweep you off your feet tomorrow." or even better "I know a woman who got married for the first time when she was 50, so you see, there's always hope even for you!" Oh yeah, that was helpful...not!

It was even worse when a well-intentioned bride would try to make sure I caught the boquet. Usually the guy who caught the garter would be 10 years younger than me, or else it was someone the bride & groom pre-determined they would try for a set up for me. It was always awkward...

I intentionally chose not to do a boquet toss at my own wedding, and was thanked by several single women!

 

[Daxx]

The Bouquet Toss - better known as the ultimate humiliation.

Like you guys are into catching that garter!!!!

I'm not eligible for the bouquet toss anymore ... but when I was, I would make an immediate break for the bathroom to hide out!

At my wedding, I tossed my bouquet to my nieces who ranged in age from 5 to 13 years old. My 15 yo nephew was the one who made the mad dash to successfully catch it, much to his cousins and sisters chagrin!

~Daxx's Wife

 

[georgina]

ever not want to catch the bouquet at a wedding and why so?

(only if you are eligible that is)

I think most of those wedding reception "traditions" are stupid. I would never try to catch the bouquet. I didn't throw one at my wedding or do that garter thing...ick. We had a nice meal and party with friends to celebrate our marriage.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I'm the one knocking down the other ladies trying to catch it.

 

[disykat]

Humiliating. I did not do it at my wedding - I would never do that to my friends. I'm with Georgina, we didn't do most of the wedding traditions (bouquet, garter, cake smashing, unity candle) because I just don't like them. Heck, I was 29, I didn't even have my dad "give me away". I am pretty traditional, but I avoided things where I didn't like the symbolism.

 

[Bunchkin]

My 8 yr old DD caught a bouquet at our friend's wedding last summer. It was so cute. I think the bride's friends were a little miffed!
Afterward, a girl came up to my daughter and asked if she could have it. DD told her to take a hike.

 

[agotta]

I'm the one knocking down the other ladies trying to catch it.

Until I got married, me too Don't stand in my way of that bouquet or you might get an elbow.

 

[lulugirl]

I think most of those wedding reception "traditions" are stupid. I would never try to catch the bouquet. I didn't throw one at my wedding or do that garter thing...ick. We had a nice meal and party with friends to celebrate our marriage.

We didn't do a lot of the "traditional" stuff either. I always found the bouquet toss particularly cheesy.

 

[carolfoy]

Last wedding I went to the bouquet landed at the feet of me and two of my divorced friends, it was like scene from sex and the city - we all justturned around and walked away

 

[scrump]

I think most of those wedding reception "traditions" are stupid. I would never try to catch the bouquet. I didn't throw one at my wedding or do that garter thing...ick. We had a nice meal and party with friends to celebrate our marriage.

I too think that most wedding traditions are pretty stupid, the garter toss being particularly putrid. The bouquet toss is something that I never participated in. People certainly forced me up there, but then I'd stand to the side because I was never interested in catching it. The only time I went up willfully was at a wedding where my MIL made me go (hey, I choose my battles).

ETA, because after reading my post, I realized how strange it must sound that my MIL forced me to go to a bouquet toss: she made me go to show "support" for the bride, her relative.

 

[LoraJ]

I've caught 3. So much for being the next to marry.

 

[Sthronds]

I have made many a hasty escape when it was time for the bouquet toss. It's a perfect time to go to the bathroom, get some air, get something out of the car. . . I've used every excuse in the book.

As for why, it's embarassing to me. I don't like being the center of attention and I don't want to risk the chance of actually catching it. Too much pressure that goes along with it.

 

[liamsaunt]

I never wanted to participate in the bouquet toss because I did not want to be part of the yucky garter thing! The idea of someone I did not know sliding his hand up my leg really skeeved me out.

The only time I particpated in a bouquet toss was at my now SIL's wedding (her brother, my now DH, and I were dating at the time). She asked me to do it because they had planned a trick on one of the groom's friends. She threw me the bouquet, and then her DH threw the garter to his friend. After he caught the garter, they blindfolded him, and the groom replaced me in the chair with his pant leg rolled up. When the groom's friend touched "my" hairy leg he jumped halfway across the room. They all thought it was really funny. I did not care as long as noone was going to be touching my leg!

I did not have the garter thing at my wedding.

 

[puffkin]

I intentionally chose not to do a boquet toss at my own wedding, and was thanked by several single women!

I also chose not to do this tradition at my very traditional wedding. I always thought it was stupid and humiliating, especially when the DJ starts harassing guests to get up.