Ladies Trip?? Major Guilt and Indecision...

[Mermaid02]

A friend of mine wants to do a "Ladies Only" trip and I LOVE the idea but the thought of not taking my 13 yo ds and 20 yo daughter (YES I SAID TWENTY) makes me feel so badly! We havent' been since 2005- dd went to MK one day last summer when she was staying in Florida with a friend... she called me crying during Wishes because she wanted me there with her.... It just seems like WDW is our "Family Place" and I'm not sure I want to do it without my kids!

 

[dumboiu]

It just seems like WDW is our "Family Place" and I'm not sure I want to do it without my kids!

Then don't!

 

[Mermaid02]

Then don't!

I know right? LOL but then I think how fun it could be with my girlfriends and just kind of doing our thing without TOO MUCH whining and I think it would be INCREDIBLE.

I guess it's just Mommy guilt.....

 

[dumboiu]

I know right? LOL but then I think how fun it could be with my girlfriends and just kind of doing our thing without TOO MUCH whining and I think it would be INCREDIBLE.

I guess it's just Mommy guilt.....

Weigh the pros and cons. Write them down if you have to. If you decide you can enjoy going without the kids, then do so and don't look back. If you decide that you would not enjoy going without them, then stick to that decision! I know, easier said than done - but, I would hate to see you go and then not enjoy yourself!

 

[LuvOrlando]

It doesn't sound to me like your heart is in it. I wouldn't go for that reason alone.

Good luck with your decision whatever it is in the end.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I know right? LOL but then I think how fun it could be with my girlfriends and just kind of doing our thing without TOO MUCH whining and I think it would be INCREDIBLE.

I guess it's just Mommy guilt.....

Ok, then you do your basic pro/con list and compare.

If the pro wins, everytime you feel the guilt coming on you whip out your sheet and read it to combat the guilt, which is really anxiety.

I am using my dd's counselor's technique and I have to say it is pretty helpful.

ETA...I would have no guilt leaving my kids.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'd go on the Ladies only trip, and start planning for a trip for the family. It doesn't have to be in the near future. Just something to look forward to. I think it would take away the guilt.

 

[eliza61]

A friend of mine wants to do a "Ladies Only" trip and I LOVE the idea but the thought of not taking my 13 yo ds and 20 yo daughter (YES I SAID TWENTY) makes me feel so badly! We havent' been since 2005- dd went to MK one day last summer when she was staying in Florida with a friend... she called me crying during Wishes because she wanted me there with her.... It just seems like WDW is our "Family Place" and I'm not sure I want to do it without my kids!

I say go for it. It's going to be a very different type of trip but you'll still have fun.
It's not like disney is going to shut down afterward. You may very well find that it's one place you rather do with your family but you also may find that it's enjoyable both ways.

You'll never know until you try.

Moms get to have fun without their kids some times.

 

[kacaju]

how does your ds13 feel about you going without him? I am sorry, but your dd20 is a young adult now. It was nice last summer she thought of you while she was at WDW, but come on, she should not be making you feel guilty if you want to go someplace with your friend.

 

[Mermaid02]

how does your ds13 feel about you going without him? I am sorry, but your dd20 is a young adult now. It was nice last summer she thought of you while she was at WDW, but come on, she should not be making you feel guilty if you want to go someplace with your friend.

I know my son would be VERY upset. He loves Disney as much as I do.... sometimes he looks up the rides on YouTube and we watch together.... Maybe I should plan a Mom and Jack trip.....

You're right, she is an adult and is planning on moving out this summer.... she does plenty of fun things without me..... LOL

 

[Tink888]

I say go and have fun. DH & I did a short trip to WDW for our anniversary a few years ago and left the kids at home. Our kids have been there before plenty of times. They told us to go and have fun, that we deserved a little time alone.

It's a whole different trip without kids. Different, but still loads of fun. I did feel a little guilty when we first got there but we both had a great time. The kids had a blast with their grandparents. No damage done.

There's nothing wrong with doing something for yourself once in awhile. Even a Disney trip.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I know my son would be VERY upset. He loves Disney as much as I do.... sometimes he looks up the rides on YouTube and we watch together.... Maybe I should plan a Mom and Jack trip.....

Now see that would go on the pro side.

 

[freckles and boo]

I went a couple of years ago with my sister and if the opportunity comes up I will do it again. No kids, no husbands. We considered it a reconnaissance trip. We did things that I wouldn't waste time doing with my family. We checked out all the deluxe resorts (no, we didn't pool hop), and we ate places I wouldn't eat with the kids. We saw shows that would bore our children. We waited in the single rider lines and got on a lot of rides much more quickly because of it. It was a lot of fun. I felt guilty for about 2 minutes.

 

[disneyfam]

why not extend your trip? Go the first part with the ladies only and then on the day that the ladies are leaving have your 13 & 20 yr old fly down and join you for a few days. Would be the best of both worlds.

cynde