listen, if you are getting that suit (j. crew, yes?), definitely get the vest! i wanted my (now) husband to wear that but he didn't like it - it looks like it would look so very hot on any guy who whould wear it and your man will look great!
side note to all about the bride headbands - i'm someone who has been known to sport mouse ears all day long in the parks, and those headbands are super annoying to wear!! i don't really like the bride hat ones, but i probably would have worn those all day, every day!!! the headbands are "ear" heavy and they flop forward like a weird, sequin-y visor! they don't feel like they are loose or weird, but i look insane in avery picture with them on! so have your fab five ladies in waiting make sure to adjust your ears whenever photographs will be taken!!
my MOH just handed me a set of the cinderella "just married" buttons at a surprise shower the sunday before the wedding. she just asked for buttons at the poly, and thats what they gave her. i told her she found the holy grail!!!! we honeymooned on the Dream, another bride on their told me about the ariel buttons, so we just asked and they gave us some at guest services (on the ship). when i got home, i saw some donald and daisy honeymoon buttons from
DCL. not sure how old - wish i had asked about it!!