Know anyone who miscarried a baby early, but a twin survived?

[7beasley]

Hi

This happened to me -- went through IVF - both embryos implanted -- at 6 week ultrasound showed both babies - one with a strong heartbeat and one with a flicker -- by 8 week ultrasound - the flicker had died -- but the other baby was doing great and she is now 17 months old!!

Good luck to your friend!!

 

[pjtjm]

I wish I could say yes.....I miscarried a twin during the first trimester & the other baby in the second trimester.
It's something you never recover from 100%

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you...I'm need to unsubscribe to this thread....to many memories.

Best of luck to OPs friend

 

[PaulaSue]

I did and my surviving DD just turned 8 a few weeks ago. It is really had to go thought the rest of the pregnancy worring about the one and morning the other and always wondering what if.

 

[PaulaSue]

Down the road it was discovered that she had a single artery in her umbilical cord which according to her Dr. is seen more frequently in multiples, thus furthering the theory that she had indeed lost a "twin".

My youngest DD has a 2 vessel umbical cord had this and I never heard of this before. I always heard it is a red flag for heart, kidney and spine problems but not always means there is a problem. KWIM. My DD has spine problems and I know others with heart problems and one died because of it.

 

[HelenePA]

Yep I know of 2 people who that happened to. Best of luck to your friend!

 

[Mom2gymnasts]

This happened to my husband's cousin and my friend is pregnant now & had the same thing happen about 2 months ago. Both were monitored to make sure the miscarried baby was absorbed by their bodies.

 

[bound2travel]

This happened to a friend's wife back in 1992/93. She miscarried early (92) and carried the other full term. In fact, she was overdue to have him. She wanted to go on long walks and play basketball to get him to come out. He is a great kid with no problems.

Best of luck to your friend.

 

[tonilea]

I wish I could say yes.....I miscarried a twin during the first trimester & the other baby in the second trimester.
It's something you never recover from 100%

My experience is very similar. I lost the first twin at six weeks and the second at twelve weeks. It was just over a year ago and it is still quite painful. I wish your friend the best.

 

[bananda]

my mum miscarried my twin. i found out a few years ago and it was pretty hard to hear. im pretty sure there were no other complications with the pregnancy.

 

[krcit]

I'm so sorry for the posters who lost their babies


This happened to my cousin. She didn't know that she was carrying twins and had a miscarriage. She was actually at the hospital for a D and C and they discovered through an ultrasound that she was still pg. Had a healthy boy. I'll keep your friend in my thoughts.

 

[maelstrom]

A friend of mine likely had a twin in utero who died quite early on. I often tell her (and people we know) that she ate her twin (funny that another poster said the same thing) and that she is a chimera (because she ate her twin). She also ended up being born a few weeks late and that made her astrological sign Gemini (the twins). We used to be best friends, since the first day of sixth grade. This post makes me miss her. Some stupid drama came up and put a rift between us.

 

[EMom]

Yes, this happened to me in my first pregnancy. I lost the twin at around 9-10 weeks...it is called "vanishing twin". I bled until week 17, somtimes very heavily and it was very very disconcerting. I did lots of googling and was suprised to learn that it is estimated that only 30% of twin pregnancies results in twin births. It helped me realize that it was not uncommon. Eventually the miscarried twin was reabsorbed back into my body, but I admit there was a definite twinge every time I had an ultrasound to see where the previous twin had been and see the remnants of the twin. By the last few months of pregnancy it was completely gone. Emotionally it was a struggle too as you mourn the miscarried baby and are still thrilled and terrified for the one remaining.

I was sure with every episode of bleeding that I had miscarried the other one. They put me on low activity, though not bedrest, and I had to wait and see. The doctors said it was up to a higher power at that point. I was 40 at delivery as well. Ultimately, I had a wonderful happy healthy baby boy...and am pregnant again with a single this time.

It is not uncommon, but it is very stressful for the mommy to be.

Good luck to your friend. I remember the emotions of it all very well.

I am not sure of the exact percentage, but she's right that an amazing number of pregnancies that START as twin pregnancies end as singleton. I believe I've read the 30% figure as well. Meaning, the minority of pregnancies that start out as twins end up as twins.

The thing is, before the days of ultrasound, you'd never know you had lost one twin. Even after we got ultrasound, if it was an early loss, it might not show up on the u/s. Now that we have pregnancy tests that can tell us we're pregnant before we even miss a period and trans******l u/s that can see things a regular u/s cannot, we can see the sacs very early on and are aware of the fact that twins were conceived before the loss occurs. But if it were a few decades ago, we'd be blissfully ignorant of that fact.

I knew many women who conceived twins on an IVF cycle and knew it before they had even missed a period because their HCG numbers were so high. So MANY women start out pregnant with twins, lose one, yet go on to have a perfectly healthy baby. It's incredibly common.

 

[NotUrsula]

It's called Vanishing Twin Syndrome, as as pp have pointed out, it is very common.

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/multiples/vanishingtwin.html