Kind of OT, but looking for your thoughts...

[formernyer]

Last night an aquaintance of mine from the TT forums filled me in on a new GPT site (SWATcash) she'd been using and asked me to sign up using her referral. I didn't mind doing it for her at all since we all know how important the referrals are.

Well she's been IMing me a lot about the site since last night and she's been really helpful. Obviously, she helping me out in large part because anything I earn she'll take 20% of. Again, I have no problem with it even if she's only helping me to benefit herself.

Here's where I got a bit annoyed this morning...

The site runs VERY good daily contests for big prizes. She's already won a $250 Best Buy GC from one of them. She told me that if I win a PS3 today that she expects me to "share the love." I thought she was joking and said something like, "well anybody who gets me as a referral on this type of site is already being taken care of very well because I sign up for so many offers." She then told me that she was serious and that if her kindness in telling me about the site results in my winning a large prize, that she would expect I'd take care of her in some way.

Seriously, I never would have dreamed of "taking care" of the stranger who referred me just because I won a prize. Am I just selfish or do you all agree with me?

 

[bartleby1]

Oh my! Are you sure she's serious? Maybe she just has a strange sense of humor?!??!? As far as I'm concerned, she is already being "taken care of" by the money she's earning thru the referral program. I would not feel obligated to do anything more and quite frankly I think it is very rude of her to expect anything at all.

 

[LorieR]

I noticed you said she was an "acquaintance" and not a friend, as she obvioulsy isn't a "friend"!! I don't think you owe her anything --maybe you should suggest that she owes you something for the referral rewards she is getting because of you!!

 

[TwoOwls]

I'm hung up on the "take care of her.." I'm mean aren't you already taking care of her by signing up under her? What else does she want? I don't think you are being selfish one bit.

 

[formernyer]

I'm glad you all agree with me. I thought she was being rude and greedy, but she seemed to think she was entitled to more than just the 20% if I got a huge benefit that isn't covered under her 20% commission.

Yes, she is just an acquaintance from the TT forums. We were both very involved in the highly lucrative bingo offers last summer, so we shared a few PMs and comments in the threads. Nothing more than that. I was happy to give her my referral for this new site, but now I'm actually upset that she'd going to gain a HUGE benefit from the offers that I do and she is seemingly unappreciative.

 

[M 'n C]

Just be careful on this site. These are the sites that are getting cracked down on the hardest as advertisers are linking these big ticket contests to fraud. One of the advertiser demands is to do away with those contests and the sites that don't risk having credits revoked or losing advertisers.

I'd be blocking her on im if she continued to harass me and tell me I'd have to hook her up on any prizes I'd win.

 

[Schachteles]

Just be careful on this site. These are the sites that are getting cracked down on the hardest as advertisers are linking these big ticket contests to fraud. One of the advertiser demands is to do away with those contests and the sites that don't risk having credits revoked or losing advertisers.

I'd be blocking her on im if she continued to harass me and tell me I'd have to hook her up on any prizes I'd win.

You are right on that...I know RHC was giving away prizes for like $400+ a month, now because of the crackdown, there will be NONE of that. I would have to assume that this site will have that happen too...

 

[formernyer]

They already hit me up for the W-9. I know there is risk with all of these sites now, but I'll have the PS3 in hand long before anything crazy happens. People are claiming to receive their prizes in just a few days!!!

 

[crazymomof4]

Here's how you "take care of her"-
Tell her that you have willed her the PS3.

What a kooook! I mean, seriously, what does she want from you? Half the value of the PS3? Oh, no, maybe she just wants 20% of the PS3. Or maybe she wants you to get a veeeeeeeeeeerrrry long cord for one of the controllers so that she can play from her house.......20% of the time, of course!

Don't get pregnant any time soon...........she'll want you to turn over the newborn if she can guess the name in 3 attempts.

Oh geez! I've got to get to bed, I'm getting punchy!

 

[vernfonzndrian]

Here's how you "take care of her"-
Tell her that you have willed her the PS3.

What a kooook! I mean, seriously, what does she want from you? Half the value of the PS3? Oh, no, maybe she just wants 20% of the PS3. Or maybe she wants you to get a veeeeeeeeeeerrrry long cord for one of the controllers so that she can play from her house.......20% of the time, of course!

Don't get pregnant any time soon...........she'll want you to turn over the newborn if she can guess the name in 3 attempts.

Oh geez! I've got to get to bed, I'm getting punchy!

LMAO!

 

[formernyer]

She made a comment after I won last night about how she really likes cookies. Then about a minute later she asked if I was going to send her some cookies now that I won. I made a joke about how I thought she didn't like cookies because she deletes them all the time. Then I said something about how cookies would get stale in the mail anyway. Her response was that I could send them to her from an online cookie gift store. So I told her that she can get herself a whole lot of cookies with the money that she's already earned in referrals from me.

The thing is, I think she's just young and inexperienced/immature. I found out last night that she's only 21, so I guess I need to cut her a little slack. She seems nice enough otherwise.

 

[tcarr5]

wow, I personally think she has ALOT of nerve!! you don't owe her anything!!!!!!!!!! NOTHING...ZILCH....maybe a thank you for sharing the site and tips but thats it. I can't believe the audacity I'd tell her not to hold her breath

 

[Magical JenK]

The thing is, I think she's just young and inexperienced/immature. I found out last night that she's only 21, so I guess I need to cut her a little slack. She seems nice enough otherwise.

I don't know that I'd chalk it up to her age...granted things have changed since I was 21 but I wouldn't have EVER suggested I deserved anything more than what I was already getting for a referral!!

It's like if you win the lottery laughing: ), you may "tip" the store who sold you the store, but you're not going to give them x% each year you get your cash out (if of course you should choose the annunity option!!). She's getting enough from you period.

If it were me, I'd almost be tempted to 1) not allow her to PM you anymore & 2) possibly get your cash & prizes & leave that site. You don't want to be harassed like that.

 

[crazymomof4]

Thinking about this some more.............
you know there are all kinds of people out there and some just don't realize what things fit into the "socially accepted norm" and what does not. It's like that "chip" was never installed into their brain. They say and do things that stuns 95% of the general population, yet they think it is perfectly normal.

I had a childhood friend like that. We grew up to be so different- (me: married 22 yrs, 4 kids, 3 cats. Her: never married, lives w/ her mom, 1 bird). She would say weird things like this woman. She would also use vague terms, like "share the love", that left you wondering "How am I supposed to take that?". She was also all about what I can do for her (or what I haven't done in the past). In fact, I had to back away from the friendship recently bc. I could not keep up with all of her "needs" AND those of a family of 6, plus 2 aging parents w/ health problems.
So, my advice would be to back away from contact with her. It may lead to what I had w/ that friend- something I define now as a "toxic relationship".

COOKIES- geez, what does she think- you are her nextdoor neighbor? The next time she gets the sniffles, she'll be asking you to mail her some chicken soup!

 

[Schachteles]

Thinking about this some more.............
you know there are all kinds of people out there and some just don't realize what things fit into the "socially accepted norm" and what does not. It's like that "chip" was never installed into their brain. They say and do things that stuns 95% of the general population, yet they think it is perfectly normal.

I had a childhood friend like that. We grew up to be so different- (me: married 22 yrs, 4 kids, 3 cats. Her: never married, lives w/ her mom, 1 bird). She would say weird things like this woman. She would also use vague terms, like "share the love", that left you wondering "How am I supposed to take that?". She was also all about what I can do for her (or what I haven't done in the past). In fact, I had to back away from the friendship recently bc. I could not keep up with all of her "needs" AND those of a family of 6, plus 2 aging parents w/ health problems.
So, my advice would be to back away from contact with her. It may lead to what I had w/ that friend- something I define now as a "toxic relationship".

COOKIES- geez, what does she think- you are her nextdoor neighbor? The next time she gets the sniffles, she'll be asking you to mail her some chicken soup!

I have a friend like this too...always what you can do for me!!

I cannot believe the gull of that lady, there is NO way, I am not far off of 21 and I can tell you nothing like that would come out of my mouth, it is tacky. I would just not talk to her anymore...there is no way.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

wow.

I finally earned 10cents from a referral and I was thrilled.



She sounds a little unstable. I think I'd change the email address and just not communicate with her anymore.

 

[ALISON1572]

Thinking about this some more.............
you know there are all kinds of people out there and some just don't realize what things fit into the "socially accepted norm" and what does not. It's like that "chip" was never installed into their brain. They say and do things that stuns 95% of the general population, yet they think it is perfectly normal.

crazymomof4- I COMPLETELY agree with you! I'm always saying that there is something wrong with people nowadays- there is a line you shouldn't cross and people continually cross it and then they get mad when you point it out!
There seems to be a sense of entitlement with people nowadays..... I had a family member ask to borrow money and I said I didnt have money to lend them (because this person NEVER pays anyone back). They started asking me "how am I going to feed my kids if I didnt have any money?" Ummmm I have money, I'm just not giving it to you.