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[MinnesotaMouseketeers]

Its no one's business. But I think that kind of response is a $$ thing (envious that it's a stretch on the budget...)

I was thinking the same thing. WDW and DCL isn't cheap, but for us it's worth every penny. Just have to sacrifice on other things.

 

[TheLanes]

Some people hate the whole princess happy ending with their prince thing. I get it

Some hate the mass commercialization of it. I get that.

It's all true. But when my kids light up every time they watch a Disney movie or get to DL, then I really get it!!!

My girls know the difference between real life and make believe. I've been trying to slowly make sure that life isn't a Disney movie. Thankfully they're bright enough to understand that.

 

[SeattleSuz]

Most people I have talked to just dont realize how much there really is to do there. They just think it's MK and don't really know about Epcot or AK or HS. They are always shocked when I tell them how much fun we had and how nice it was staying on property and being so well taken care of by Disney.

 

[luv2sleep]

Is it me or do hate when someone ask's you "Where are you taking the Family for vacation?" you reply Disneyworld or on a Disney Cruise and pure hate comes out their mouths??? Lady on my job told me "I WOULD NEVER TAKE MY KIDS THERE I DON'T CARE HOW MANY TIMES THEY ASK" So I say WHY she thinks and say cause it's Disney. SMH so you would deny your kids the joy they ask for CRAZY. sorry had a soapbox moment.

I don't even tell people anymore unless I know their as into Disney or cruising as much as I am. Too annoying.

 

[jimsubry]

Although I can see why some people aren't into the whole "fake" kind of vacation, I think to go overboard with the "I WOULD NEVER GO!" kind of statement is just plain mean. Probably smacks of something else, perhaps jealousy.

My sister is the type who is anti-"big business" and all and says if she had kids she'd only take them camping and hiking and such...even though I remind her she loved Disneyland as a kid...we lived nearby and went every year. She replies that kids are just "brainwashed" into liking that stuff.

Anyway, to people like that, I'd just say, "Great! More room there for us!" ha ha

 

[Luv2Diz]

Some of my family and co-workers "get" the Disney thing, and some don't. For those that don't, I don't even try to explain it. We know how happy a Disney vacation makes us and that's good enough for me!

 

[smallblackstars]

I have this issue with DH. He is soooo underwhelmed about going and it does worry me at times but I just hope that all that will change when he gets there. It took me almost 2 years to convince him to go so I just hope he will enjoy it. For me, yes I love Disney, but I feel that no matter where you go it is what you make of it so I really can't understand people who say things like 'I won't take my kids to Disney, no matter how much they beg me', to me my DD is my life and I would do anything I could to make her happy. I am pretty sure that little face of hers lighting up at Disney will convert DH to a Disney lover!!

 

[kathywolf]

Love OC, NC and Disney. All different things and all fun!

 

[darkwing818]

Although I can see why some people aren't into the whole "fake" kind of vacation, I think to go overboard with the "I WOULD NEVER GO!" kind of statement is just plain mean. Probably smacks of something else, perhaps jealousy.

My sister is the type who is anti-"big business" and all and says if she had kids she'd only take them camping and hiking and such...even though I remind her she loved Disneyland as a kid...we lived nearby and went every year. She replies that kids are just "brainwashed" into liking that stuff.

Anyway, to people like that, I'd just say, "Great! More room there for us!" ha ha

I hate to agree, but I think jealousy & money/cost (real or imagined) play a big part. Sad really

 

[jlemieu1]

I also get the shocked looks from my co-workers when I tell them I'm going on Disney cruise with my DW and no kids. Agree with OP is money issue with the commentor.

To be honest, I'm not a WDW fan I prefer Portofino and Universal Studios because I'm a roller coaster nut.

 

[gumbypee]

I grew up with parents like that. I was told it was all ridiculous and the castle isn't even real anyway, it is just a board propped up with a picture of the castle on it. I prepared for our first cruise in 2003 and we added on a day at MK at the last minute to see how the kids liked it. I was 36 and as we walked up main street towards the castle I looked up and it hit me that it was an actual structure and I started to cry. Thankfully, our kids have grown up much more experienced with Disney than I was.

If someone told me they would never go to Disney because it's Disney I would tell them what my DS did at age 8 when a classmate told him the characters were not real -- "I feel sorry for you because you don't have the magic in your heart!"

Aww your 8 year old hit the nail on the head!!!

And sniff sniff about seeing the castle for first time, I'm so sorry you had to wait so long. I never realized how spoiled I was growing up in Florida-our vacation every year was Disney world for one day.

 

[gumbypee]

Also in every day life it bugs me when I say ( excitedly) I just got a ticket to the theater to see Wicked!! And they burst my bubble with "oh I can't afford something like that". Well I really can't either but you only live once and I'm going to do what makes me happy! Can't they just say "have fun!". That's what I say to other people

 

[chemnerd09]

I was thinking the same thing. WDW and DCL isn't cheap, but for us it's worth every penny. Just have to sacrifice on other things.

And this is exactly what we do. I've been going at least once a year for over 23 years. Its not just Disney but a time when the family can come together and not think about work/school. I grew up going on those rides and its nice to visit those memories again when we go back and reminiscence about rides that no longer exist. We don't eat out much or go shopping that often so that we can go to WDW, but to us that's not a sacrifice. Can't imagine not going to WDW and I'm so glad to have found others who "get it".

 

[SnowWhite2]

I hate to admit it but I've lived in Maryland for 29 years and I've never been to Ocean City. Never ever. My girls and DH have gone for a lacrosse tournament.

People give me grief about going to Disney and then they talk about going to the beach (again, and again). I bet Disney changes more than the flippin beach every year! Why is it OK for them to go to the same beach every year but going to Disney is just so wrong???

I just don't talk about it much. It was funny at the beginning of the year when our team had to put together a slide about themselves and present it to the group. I found a bunch of kindred Disney fans Last week I compared Dooney wristlets with one of them.

 

[White Rose]

My SIL is a disney hater...and they (my brother and her)have 5 kids. All the kids want my hubby and I to take them to WDW...but my SIL says no.

They actually did go once, and ignored all my advice, had a bad time and complained...the kids kinda enjoyed it, but they had long lines and went to the wrong parks on the wrong days...sigh.

 

[TwinPrincessMermaids]

I know what you mean about hitting the parks all wrong... My sis has never been to HS (we have no kids in any of our families, and we grew up on thrill rides so she would love HS) but she only goes with her friend and her kids and sees that skinny lane where small world and Peter pan are full of 10000 kids and strollers... She does know Epcot tho! But I want to take her with the "hot couples" because it's a totally different experience than going with four families that have to stop and eat and pee every twenty minutes... And they always go when its hot and only go to MK where masses and masses of people are!

 

[fabulousfive]

I have this issue with DH. He is soooo underwhelmed about going and it does worry me at times but I just hope that all that will change when he gets there. It took me almost 2 years to convince him to go so I just hope he will enjoy it. For me, yes I love Disney, but I feel that no matter where you go it is what you make of it so I really can't understand people who say things like 'I won't take my kids to Disney, no matter how much they beg me', to me my DD is my life and I would do anything I could to make her happy. I am pretty sure that little face of hers lighting up at Disney will convert DH to a Disney lover!!

Yes it will! My DH said why go to Disney when we have an amusement park down the street. Well we went on our trip & he fell in love with WDW & totally got it --- especially when our little ones were just so overjoyed the entire time. In fact, his favorite was breakfast in the castle! We are equally as excited to return this year!! Have fun!

 

[lilpooh108]

I would tell them what my DS did at age 8 when a classmate told him the characters were not real -- "I feel sorry for you because you don't have the magic in your heart!"

Way to go!

Random tidbit about buzzkillers--- We were at a playdate just after we returned from our DCL Med cruise.....it was sooooo awkward when a bunch of parents started asking me how expensive the cruise was in a "we'd never cruise Disney" kind of way. Isn't it kind of rude to ask about how much other people's vacations cost?

Um.....I did have like 2 years to pay it off Glad I didn't tell them about the $2000 of $50 gift cards I bought to do it I'm so glad you guys here understand

 

[Castillo Mom]

I have a relative that doesn't get it so the children of that relative have missed out. I would love to take them to WDW one of these days on my dime because I don't think the parents would see the value in spending the money on it.

Could be that some don't get it because they're cynical and either don't want to or can't give in to the childhood wonderment of it all. That's ok, to each their own.

 

[bumbershoot]

So I say WHY she thinks and say cause it's Disney.

So tomorrow tell her that "cause it's Disney" isn't an actual answer.

If someone said that to me, I'd have to let them know that it wasn't my son who first started asking for the Disney trips.

If someone told me they would never go to Disney because it's Disney I would tell them what my DS did at age 8 when a classmate told him the characters were not real -- "I feel sorry for you because you don't have the magic in your heart!"

Hey now, he said that to a fellow 8 year old? When the other 8 year old was telling the absolute truth? And you're cool with that?

My son flirted with the idea that the characters were real, but one day as he was hugging Mickey he felt the zipper, then saw them, and from that moment he has KNOWN the real situation. Doesn't bother him, he still loves meeting them. He has been taught to not talk about characters AT ALL with other kids, because for some reason some parents teach them that they are real and it's not our place to talk about it with them, so honestly, come on, do the same. Have him not talk about it at all, because it's not HIS place to berate the child for something they know to be true. (and IS true)

I often think my son has more "magic" going on because he knows the truth and simply doesn't care, he likes meeting them anyway. But it's not something he'd ever say to another kid. Unless baited by someone telling him he doesn't have magic in his heart and that he *feels sorry* for my son.

I hope you rethink being OK with him saying that to another child. Who, again, was telling the truth.

Although I can see why some people aren't into the whole "fake" kind of vacation, I think to go overboard with the "I WOULD NEVER GO!" kind of statement is just plain mean. Probably smacks of something else, perhaps jealousy.

My sister is the type who is anti-"big business" and all and says if she had kids she'd only take them camping and hiking and such...even though I remind her she loved Disneyland as a kid...we lived nearby and went every year. She replies that kids are just "brainwashed" into liking that stuff.

FWIW, after I hit my 20s I really disliked Disney. I read the book (The Mouse that Roared) about how sneaky Disney was about buying up the land dirt cheap by keeping his name out of it, etc etc, and it really disturbed me. And I was very anti-corporation, and simply could not understand why all the movies involved mothers dying (and Simba's dad, a bit later).

Then my mom died.

And I went on the journey that you go on when a parent dies.

And I realized that Cinderella's story would be entirely different, and rather boring, if she'd grown up in an intact household. And so on. The death spurs a new story.

I also realized they were mainly all fairy tales that he adapted (knew it before but hadn't really internalized it).

And I started to be more OK with it.

Then I realized, before ever going to Disney as an adult, that all HUGE corporations generally start with some person and their wish to do something interesting. They get big later.

Then we went to Disneyland for a day while in So Cal.

And that did it.


I wasn't jealous of anything. I simply didn't CARE that people were going there. I lived in SC and my mom lived in Miami, I drove into Orlando to visit cousins once, and never once even THOUGHT to visit a theme park. It simply wasn't in my thoughts at all.

I had the things I believed in, and that last paragraph was before my mom died and my whole world shifted, and that was that.

I, too, thought I would be hiking and backpacking with DS. Alas, the arachnophobia has really stopped that idea in its tracks (ha), and it's getting worse as I get older. It really sucks to have that fear.

Until I beat it, though, Disney's fun.

Even though I actively dislike characters (except for Jack Sparrow, who was always VERY kind and amusing to my son), even though my son knows the truth (and doesn't talk about it with his friends, as I hope they aren't talking about it with him), and even though it still bothers me that Walt was so sneaky about buying the land.



(Disney company still keeps their name out of things...my mom and stepdad lived in Country Walk in Miami, the housing development started by Disney and built by Arvada (Arvida?). The subdivision that was absolutely flattened by Andrew mainly because the whole place was made with finish nails, not proper nails. And the homeowners only got something like 20K extra (beyond insurance) per house because Disney got its name withheld 100% and it was only the builders the jury ever got to hear about, not Disney. Disney's VERY good about doing that.)