Kids stuck out in the cold! UPDATE (post 27)

[Mercy]

Well at least you got to the bottom of it.... Before you called and blasted the other mom for leaving the boys out in the cold!

Teens... TOO MUCH DRAAAMA!!!!

 

[dbogen]

Well... I found it out the way I find out everything else with this kid. I read his IM log. I know I'm setting myself up for flames by admitting that, but honestly, I don't care. If anyone wants to complain about kids and rights to privacy, they're more than welcome to come and raise him for me.

Ok (geting into my flameproof suite) how did you read his IM log? Did he leave it open, or is there somewhere in my computer to see this? My DS are only 13 and 10 and so far don't close the IM when I walk by and they will tell me who they are talking to
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So I guess I am trying to be proactive on this. So far they haven't given me erason to spy but I know the day is fast approaching. Kids make stupid judgement calls, I don't think I can stop it, but I would like to know what is comming. You know to give them a good " I told you so" LOL

Deanna

 

[Planogirl]

I don't think that I'll let my son near the computer until he's at least 21 and then he can borrow it sometimes.

I don't get these kids having blogs and IMing each other and so on. My friends and I were extremely private when I was a teen and our parents rarely had a clue what we were thinking nor any way to find out. Kids seem so open nowadays.

 

[Wishing on a star]

way to go Marseeya!!!

The truth is always out there somewhere... Maybe letting the kid IM is a GOOD thing!!! LOL!!!!

 

[mtblujeans]

LOL maybe I should just welcome the OP to the Drama Mama club, send her a club teeshirt and beanie hat?

TOV

WHAT?!?? There is a teeshirt and hat?? Is this something new??? No one offered me those when I joined the club in the '90's with my (then) teen DD!! Unfair....!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

WHAT?!?? There is a teeshirt and hat?? Is this something new??? No one offered me those when I joined the club in the '90's with my (then) teen DD!! Unfair....!

Oh, quit your whining!!! You were the original founding drama mama and if you didn't have the t-shirt and beanie it's because you didn't set that expectation!

 

[lucyanna girl]

It is my firm belief that the reason God made Babies soooo cute is that the memory is what keeps you from killing them when they are teenagers.

 

[Marseeya]

Ok (geting into my flameproof suite) how did you read his IM log? Did he leave it open, or is there somewhere in my computer to see this? My DS are only 13 and 10 and so far don't close the IM when I walk by and they will tell me who they are talking to
.
So I guess I am trying to be proactive on this. So far they haven't given me erason to spy but I know the day is fast approaching. Kids make stupid judgement calls, I don't think I can stop it, but I would like to know what is comming. You know to give them a good " I told you so" LOL

Deanna

There's more than one way to monitor the logs depending on the program they're using. AIM is tough because it doesn't have a chat log or history. You either have to download a program that will log it (some of them do it in stealth mode) or you can download google desktop and it logs every single thing that goes on in the computer! That's a little tougher to monitor, though.

My DS used to use Trillian, which had an automatic logger, so I just read those. Now he uses AIM, so I downloaded a program called Nalsoft Aim Logger (it was only $15 to buy after the trial period). It's not a bad program.

My biggest problem is not knowing what to do with the information I'm getting off the logs. I can't really confront him because then I'll lose that source of info. I have to be sneaky and creative at that point and catch him in other ways.

Whew! Parenting sure is a full time job.

 

[Marseeya]

It is my firm belief that the reason God made Babies soooo cute is that the memory is what keeps you from killing them when they are teenagers.

I also think the reason they're such big pains in the butts as teens is so we'll be able to let them go when they're old enough to fly the coop!

 

[snowwite]

Yes, they were invited -- the mother always seems to enjoy having the kids over. But then after they'd been there most of the afternoon, she said she had to go to the grocery store and she just took her DD and left -- the boys couldn't very well stay at the house alone (understandably), but she could have waited the 15 minutes it took us to come get them.

You know what's weird, is I worried about something like that happening and wondered how I'd react to it if it did! I don't know why I even worried about it, because she's never given me reason to feel that way.

I cannot even imagine ever just picking up and leaving and making either of my kids friends wait outside for a ride in nice weather let alone when temps are so low they could get frostbite.If you have not already I would strongly recommend calling this other mom and voice your concerns.I also would never let my kids go over there again because she does not appear to have a shred of common sense so the kid are not going to be well supervised.It makes you wonder sometimes.Jeepers, it doesnt even sound like this was an emergency situation that she had to run off to either since she was going grocery shopping.I would have taken them all with me or dropped them off if I really needed to go out when we had company over for a visit. The whole thing is pretty irresponsible behavior for an adult.Were the kids ok,other than being cold?

 

[tw1nsmom]

No flames from me for looking at his IM's. My kids won't stand a chance when they're older. DH is self-employed as a computer consultant and just opened a second business with his partner in computer forensics. He can find things on hard drives even after they're deleted and can access all of our computers remotely. I hate when he needs a file on my computer and I'm on it, when the mouse starts moving on it's own.

Our current source of amusement is a night vision close circuit camers we have in their bedroom. We'll lie in bed and watch them play when they're supposed to be sleeping and shout for them to go to sleep. If they try to turn on the closet light, we'll shout out "don't you dare turn on that light and start playing!"

The look on their faces when they look around and try to figure out how we're seeing them is hysterical . Yes, it's evil and wrong, but consider it the payback for the heck they gave us the first ywo years.

 

[bigmerle1966]

No flames from me for looking at his IM's. My kids won't stand a chance when they're older. DH is self-employed as a computer consultant and just opened a second business with his partner in computer forensics. He can find things on hard drives even after they're deleted and can access all of our computers remotely. I hate when he needs a file on my computer and I'm on it, when the mouse starts moving on it's own.

Our current source of amusement is a night vision close circuit camers we have in their bedroom. We'll lie in bed and watch them play when they're supposed to be sleeping and shout for them to go to sleep. If they try to turn on the closet light, we'll shout out "don't you dare turn on that light and start playing!"

The look on their faces when they look around and try to figure out how we're seeing them is hysterical . Yes, it's evil and wrong, but consider it the payback for the heck they gave us the first ywo years.

You're a naughty one aren't you? Gives a whole new meaning to "eyes in the back of your head".

 

[Marseeya]

No flames from me for looking at his IM's. My kids won't stand a chance when they're older. DH is self-employed as a computer consultant and just opened a second business with his partner in computer forensics. He can find things on hard drives even after they're deleted and can access all of our computers remotely. I hate when he needs a file on my computer and I'm on it, when the mouse starts moving on it's own.

Our current source of amusement is a night vision close circuit camers we have in their bedroom. We'll lie in bed and watch them play when they're supposed to be sleeping and shout for them to go to sleep. If they try to turn on the closet light, we'll shout out "don't you dare turn on that light and start playing!"

The look on their faces when they look around and try to figure out how we're seeing them is hysterical . Yes, it's evil and wrong, but consider it the payback for the heck they gave us the first ywo years.

I had to read this aloud to DH because I was laughing so hard! DD looked at me and said, "You would never do such a thing to ME, would you?" Um, yeah right kid.