Kids 16 and under with tatoos? Mostly girls. WWYD?

[KyraS]

Wow I am just amazed that someone would say a tattoo is a deal breaker if they are in love with someone, that blows my mind. Now if you just see someone in a bar or even at church (nowdays they are everywhere) and they have a tattoo that turns you off then sure don't date them! However if you had been seeing someone, had strong feelings and decided to be intimate and then find a tattoo somewhere hidden and call it off then that's just sad!!!!

That being said I have them as does DH and my 17 year old son (Yes I did sign for him in a reputable parlor!) I think they are personal and beautiful!!!!

Of everyone I know the one that speaks to me most is my cousin's. She has the date and a small bear on her wrist from the day she lost her child.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Wow I am just amazed that someone would say a tattoo is a deal breaker if they are in love with someone, ....

I wouldn't get the chance to be in love if there was a "deal breaker".... mine are smoking, and BIG tatoos on women. I would be fine with a small single tatoo.... it would be over before it started.

Back on point, it doesn't seem like 14 year olds can legally get tats, so what would you do if they came home with one?

 

[2girlsmom]

I have an 11 year old and a 9 year old. I personally don't want a tat, can't imagine wanting one, and would be VERY unhappy with both my child AND the tat parlor if they got one underage. That said, my bff has several, my brother has one, my sil has one, etc so obviously I know plenty of mainstream people have them, it is certainly not considered as aberrant as it was when I was a kid. My bff tells my daughters that when they are 18 if they want one, she will take them. I told them if they are 18 and making their own money, not living at home, that I don't mind either, I am not housing and feeding someone, financially supporting someone who has the money to throw away on a tat. Obviously in the case of cancer or something like that, I can see the reminder, and that's cool, in that kind of situation I would probably agree to let the girls get one too. But as a general rule, not happening in my house.

 

[blissventure]

Kids have been sneaking tats for a few years.
It's sorta sad. Someday in the not too distant future the fad will fade.

It's easy to change your hair, clothes over time to fit the newer, more modern fashion, ...it's harder to change your skin.

Likely someday tats will be looked at with the same chagrin as extra puffy sleeved Holly Hobbie dresses, cats eye glasses (with sparkles!), and big, extra-teased bleach blonde Texas hair. (No offense to Texans...most have moved on with their personal style...but we all probably know a few ladies that like that wearing that big beehive style forever!)

 

[NotUrsula]

That just seems really shallow to me. If you love someone enough to go to sleep with them you would leave them over a tattoo?

Seriously, unless your tattoo is something huge and offensive across your face I really can't see it as that big of a deal.

Look, I'm not what I would consider any kind of slut, but I generally didn't have the habit of waiting until I was deeply in love before sleeping with someone I had been dating. In pretty good "like", yes, but not deeply in love.

Besides that, it's very possible to love someone, but find that you are just not sexually compatible with that person. There are all kinds of reasons. (If I had $20 for every person I've ever known who had body-hair issues, I'd be very well-off. Body hair is something that everyone has, but some people choose to groom it in socially conventional ways, and some don't.) I see tattoos as deliberate disfigurement, and deliberately disfiguring oneself is a not a practice I find sexually attractive.

It's never a good thing to marry someone if you don't really want to sleep with that person, no matter how much you might love him or her.

 

[Handbag Lady]

When I was aged 14-19-ish, I loved hard rock bands. I had the hair, the friends, the location (I love Los Angeles!), a car, and clothes, and I really, really wanted an Eddie on my person.

You all know who Eddie is, right? The giant monster from Iron Maiden? Yeah, him.

And I wanted a VH (for Van Halen) on my shoulder blade. They were SO good in concert, I just knew I'd always want their ink on me somewhere. Man, did I have a great time at their shows.

I also wanted some kind of a tribute to Ozzy's Randy Rhoads. He was just the best guitarist, like, ever. And I had a crush on him and I was in tears when he died. I thought I'd never get over his death.


But, but. Luckily, tats were just starting to get popular in my age range but I was forbidden to get one. I couldn't find a place that would do one for me at my age (pre-18).

So, I didn't get inked. I did, however, fall in love with my husband who has since said that tats would be a deal-breaker. I can't imagine not marrying my husband based on tattoos! How scary is that? I would THINK that if I did get inked, I would be able to sway him but you just never know.

I wonder what the young kids think of the things that were important to me at the time of my youth?

Would I be ashamed of any of the tats if I got them?

Would it be funny if you were 40 and had an Eddie on your arm?

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

True and I could definitely see smoking being a deal breaker but its something that is known up front. If you (assuming you were dating) see a man you are interested in and then he lights up, you could just pass him by. I see a "hidden tattoo" as something totally different especially if its a man you have fallen in love with and then decide to become intimate with and discover his tat. I think it would be hard to just walk away because of it.

Yeah so I really could not imagine if I was at that point with someone where I loved them enough to be intimate with them suddenly not loving the person anymore because they had a tattoo.

I love my bf's sexy long, loooong hair but if he shaved his head tomorrow, he'd still be my prince, my love. Once you reach a certain point, honestly, nothing about the appearance should really matter anymore.

Neither of us have tattoos. But wow, I really just can't even wrap my mind around loving someone enough to be intimate with them and then not wanting to be with them anymore because they had some silly tattoo.

Now I could see if it was a terrible tattoo like a swastika or some sexist saying or something that spoke to a deeper problem. But a butterfly or a band logo? Really? I just can't imagine caring at that point.

 

[luvmy3]

My dh always thought smoking would be a deal breaker for dating and/or marriage. when he met me I smoked, when we moved in together I smoked, and when we got engaged I smoked and when we got married I smoked. When we decided to start a family is when I quit. I think if you meet *the one* you may find what you think is your deal breaker doesn't really matter if you are truly in love.

 

[Mskanga]

I am Imabrat's mom , I was dead against letting my children get tattoos until they turned 18 but then my daughter was diagnosed with bone cancer . Talk about maturing and body image changing .....try to go through chemo and have a knee replaced at age 14 , you will mature and grow up real fast.

I convinced my husband for my daughter to get her tattoo , I knew what it meant to her. We still had estipulations , it had to be small and in a discrete spot that would not hinder her being able to get a job later on , ( she wants to be a pediatric oncology nurse ) and we had to go with her to make sure things were done properly. She had it done and we do not regret it.....if she is mature enough to fight cancer , she is mature enough to decide if she wants a tattoo.
Life is too short and I pick my battles , if a tattoo is the worst thing she is ever going to do , I am all for it , all I can do is give her advice.

I bet you anything if you asked my friend she would say she would gladly allow her daughter get a tattoo instead of her daughter dying from a brain tumor.

 

[JEmaryland]

I am Imabrat's mom , I was dead against letting my children get tattoos until they turned 18 but then my daughter was diagnosed with bone cancer . Talk about maturing and body image changing .....try to go through chemo and have a knee replaced at age 14 , you will mature and grow up real fast.

I convinced my husband for my daughter to get her tattoo , I knew what it meant to her. We still had estipulations , it had to be small and in a discrete spot that would not hinder her being able to get a job later on , ( she wants to be a pediatric oncology nurse ) and we had to go with her to make sure things were done properly. She had it done and we do not regret it.....if she is mature enough to fight cancer , she is mature enough to decide if she wants a tattoo.
Life is too short and I pick my battles , if a tattoo is the worst thing she is ever going to do , I am all for it , all I can do is give her advice.

I bet you anything if you asked my friend she would say she would gladly allow her daughter get a tattoo instead of her daughter dying from a brain tumor.

Hugs and thanks for the reminder about what's important in life.

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

I am Imabrat's mom , I was dead against letting my children get tattoos until they turned 18 but then my daughter was diagnosed with bone cancer . Talk about maturing and body image changing .....try to go through chemo and have a knee replaced at age 14 , you will mature and grow up real fast.

I convinced my husband for my daughter to get her tattoo , I knew what it meant to her. We still had estipulations , it had to be small and in a discrete spot that would not hinder her being able to get a job later on , ( she wants to be a pediatric oncology nurse ) and we had to go with her to make sure things were done properly. She had it done and we do not regret it.....if she is mature enough to fight cancer , she is mature enough to decide if she wants a tattoo.
Life is too short and I pick my battles , if a tattoo is the worst thing she is ever going to do , I am all for it , all I can do is give her advice.

I bet you anything if you asked my friend she would say she would gladly allow her daughter get a tattoo instead of her daughter dying from a brain tumor.

Blessings to both you and your daughter. Neither of you has had an easy road to travel. Cancer changes the way you look at things and not many people realize that unless they have been threw it.

I think you made a decision that worked well for your family.

 

[Colleen27]

If someone can't accept you for who you are, they don't deserve you anyway. JMO.

I agree. And at this point in my life, I think "mom of 3" is far more likely to be the deal breaker than "has a couple of hidden tattoos" should I ever (God forbid) find myself single and dating again!

 

[Colleen27]

Bending over to use low file drawers or reaching up to hold on to straps on the bus tends to make untucked blouses ride up. And they show through sheer blouses.

Believe me - it's not like I am staring at the gals in the office, and it's not like they're dressed inappropriately at work, because most of the time they're not. But I do think a lot of women are not aware just how often their lower back tattoos are showing, even when their underwear is not.

I guess this is a difference of opinion on what is appropriate for work... Something so sheer that a tattoo would show or something so short/fitted that it would ride up so easily doesn't strike me as work wear. Even without any tattoos I wouldn't feel comfortable showing skin that way in a professional setting, and I don't think it would have been acceptable in any of the offices I've worked in.

 

[Seewhatimesdone]

I love how people always say "it will look terrible when you get older!" What's not going to look terrible when I get older??! When i'm covered in wrinkles i'm not going to care about how my skin looks!

And to all the parents that tell their kids that they won't talk to them or provide for them, etc. if they get a tattoo - that's death to a relationship. If your child was doing something dangerous like drugs or alcohol I could understand, but excommunicating them over an expression of self? They're better off finding people who won't control every aspect of their lives.

 

[Mskanga]

Those parents who say would stop providing for their children if they ever got a tattoo , need to spend a week in a hospital , preferably in a cancer ward.

 

[ericamanda01]

I love how people always say "it will look terrible when you get older!" What's not going to look terrible when I get older??! When i'm covered in wrinkles i'm not going to care about how my skin looks!

And to all the parents that tell their kids that they won't talk to them or provide for them, etc. if they get a tattoo - that's death to a relationship. If your child was doing something dangerous like drugs or alcohol I could understand, but excommunicating them over an expression of self? They're better off finding people who won't control every aspect of their lives.

Very well said. It's just ink, plain and simple. I was 23 when I got my first tattoo and I was so scared to tell my mom a I didn't for 3 years. When I finally told her she laughed and said it was pretty. She said the fear she wanted me to have was over getting something I would regret. But She would never disown me over it. A tattoo doesn't effect anyone but the wearer, and when I am old and wrinkled I wanna say I have no regrets. I don't think I will be in a retirement home thinking how unhappy I am that I got a tattoo at 23 and 32 and hopefully 35. It's just skin and ink.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

I have absolutely nothing against tattoos. In fact, I have 3. A very large back piece, a half sleeve I'm still working on, and a butterfly I got when I graduated from high school. My DH also has ink.

As for my two daughters, I will not consent to any tattoos for them when they are under 18. If a tattoo shop here did tattoo them, I would absolutely report the shop to authorities. I would be worried about any shop that is breaking rules. It is so important to have reputable parlors. If they are willing to violate the rules on age, what other rules are they not following?

And as for people who don't like tattoos, that's fine. Diversity makes the world go round. And if you wouldn't date someone with tattoos, that's great. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't date you anyway!

 

[Cool-Beans]

I wouldn't blame someone else. No calling cops, no calling the tattoo parlor to ***** and moan.

If you can't control your kids, that's your problem. That's how I see it. I realize it isn't a popular opinion, but it is mine.

This is so sexist of me, but if the boys came home with a tattoo, I'd tell them they were morons and leave it be. If DD came home with one, it would be removed.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

I would absolutely report the tattoo parlor.
Cool Beans, I completely disagree with your double standard. The punishment should be the same whether it's your son or daughter. I'd hate to be a daughter and know my parent feels like this. I'm sure you're a great parent in every other way, but that's just not right.

 

[robinb]

I wonder what the young kids think of the things that were important to me at the time of my youth?

Would I be ashamed of any of the tats if I got them?

Would it be funny if you were 40 and had an Eddie on your arm?

I had to Google "Eddie Iron Maiden" . I have seen him ... on men. The thought of a 40-year old woman with him on her arm makes me .

I think that is another reason why the lines of communication should stay open between kids and their parents when it comes to tattoos. If your kid is going to get a tattoo anyway and you are part of the process you have a greater say in what will go on their body.