Keep the ring?

[VSL]

Isn't an engagement ring also a form of gift? - in which case, I can't imagine you would give other gifts back, so keep it

 

[NeverlandClub23]

Thanks for all of the advice and . I'm not moving for another week and a half (I had to give two weeks notice at my current job), so I have some time left to decide. I'm looking forward to moving back home as I missed my family but I'm still in shock. I'm looking forward to our upcoming trip to WDW just to get away (even though he was supposed to come). Thanks again and I know it'll get better with time. That and a repeated cycle of "I will survive" playing over and over again.

 

[mickeyfan2]

He gave it to you, so it is yours, keep it. Good luck.

 

[AMcaptured]

Keep it, it's yours!! Move on with your life and once you get settled in, sell the ring and donate the proceeds to some worthy cause, i.e., disney dollars?.....

Good Luck and whatever you do, don't feel guilty about keeping it. It was a gift afterall.

 

[Vijoge]

Keep it . Do NOT give back expensive jewelry.

 

[kpm76]

Personally, I'd give it back because I would not want the constant reminder of the breakup. However, if he told you to keep it, then I think it's fine to keep it. You just don't want it to keep opening up old wounds. Maybe it's a personal thing, I'm very sappy and sentimental so everytime I would look it it would bother me. Good luck with your move back home. Remember, things happen for a reason and this guy was obviously not the one for you. Someday you'll look back on this experience and thank him for "letting you go" and find your sole mate. I'm sure it doesn't feel that way now, but trust me, better days are ahead for you

 

[Meezers]

My ex wanted me to sell my anniversary ring and split the profits (I bought the darn thing).

I now have a custom designed neckace with a 1/2 carat diamond (gift from an aunt...it was her first engagement ring)...and 4 1/4 carat stones from my anniversary ring. Used the 5th stone to pay for the work. I love my necklace and never take it off.

If he broke off the engagement...keep the ring...who knows...you may give it to a niece someday who will have it made into a necklace....

I would not sell it...either have it remade or put it away...you won't get as much $ as it is worth....have it made into a "right hand ring" when you have the great job and life you deserve...with your family around you who will love and appreciate you...

 

[ckret01]

I would keep the ring...but just be prepared that one day he might ask for it back.

I was sort of in your shoes. I was with someone for 7 years was engaged the last year. Found out then that he was just kind of stringing me along and had no intension of getting married or having kids. We both agreed to break it off after that (how could I not) and I gave the ring back. He told me he gave it to me and its mine and I said no get your money back......well I found out later that he took the stones out of it and made a ring for his new girlfriend.

I am so sorry you have to go through this. Better now than later. Good luck and let us know how you are doing when you get back to VA.

 

[lulugirl]

I would give it back.
I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

[PatsGirl]

I always thought protocol was that if the ring was given on a special day, birthday, Valentines Day, Xmas, it was yours to keep and if it was not given as a "gift" but as a commitment, that it should be returned....

That's protocal -- been engaged three times, married once (but don't ask, lol). You can ignore it if you want I traded in an engagement ring that "he" refused to take back and got a Macy's credit for about $2K -- bought the best baby and wedding shower gifts for the next two years!

Don't want to sound insensitive, just thought I'd lend some humor!

Brenda

 

[horseshowmom]

My understanding has always been the same as stated above - if she breaks the engagement, the ring goes back. If he breaks it, she keeps the ring (it was a gift to her). I'd keep it.

I'm really sorry for what you're going through.