Karma? 14 yo boy's parties

[Magic Mom]

I think she was referring to what a previous poster wrote about being in a cast during the summer and how hot it gets. Rora gets that because she lived in S. FLA where it's pretty much always hot.

Ah...that makes more sense. Thank you.

 

[Jennasis]

This kid isn't a bully. He is a fair-weather friend.

 

[Hannathy]

You have no idea what a bully is, if you consider uninviting someone to a party a "bully". There is probably a very good reason the other child did uninvite him, especially if the other parent allowed it.

Sorry but what the child did is bullying, purposefully excluding someone is bullying, it isn't just physical. Take bully prevention training.
yes there was a reason his cool friends wanted to come so out goes the uncool friend. And it wasn't the first time he did it.

 

[dodukes]

Sorry but what the child did is bullying, purposefully excluding someone is bullying, it isn't just physical. Take bully prevention training.
yes there was a reason his cool friends wanted to come so out goes the uncool friend. And it wasn't the first time he did it.

I dont think this counts as bullying. I think we are getting so sensitive to bullying that everything and anything is made to seem like its bullying. I just don't see how this can be bullying.

 

[Magic Mom]

Sorry but what the child did is bullying, purposefully excluding someone is bullying, it isn't just physical. Take bully prevention training.
yes there was a reason his cool friends wanted to come so out goes the uncool friend. And it wasn't the first time he did it.

I've had bully prevention training, and it isn't bullying. It's rude, mean, thoughtless, immature, but not bullying.

 

[phorsenuf]

I've had bully prevention training, and it isn't bullying. It's rude, mean, thoughtless, immature, but not bullying.

 

[luvsJack]

Sorry but what the child did is bullying, purposefully excluding someone is bullying, it isn't just physical. Take bully prevention training.
yes there was a reason his cool friends wanted to come so out goes the uncool friend. And it wasn't the first time he did it.

by that definition there are more preteen/young teen bullies than kids that are not. Kids at this age find it very important to be liked by the "cool kids". He was wrong but he was probably just trying to fit in and he is certainly NOT a bully.

And we don't know if the child's mother even knew this happened. She may be totally unaware that he ever invited the OP's son in the first place.

 

[Jennasis]

Sorry but what the child did is bullying, purposefully excluding someone is bullying, it isn't just physical. Take bully prevention training.
yes there was a reason his cool friends wanted to come so out goes the uncool friend. And it wasn't the first time he did it.

Bully:

–noun
1.
a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.

Doesn't say anything about being a bad/fair-weatehr friend, flat-leaver etc.

Bullying is about intimidation. PERIOD.

 

[moon]

So, those of you who believe in Karma, when you see a person with a disability or suffering from Cancer or some other horrible disease, do you think they must have done terrible things and now they are paying for their evilness; IOW, that they are bad people deserving of their pain and suffering?

 

[Jennasis]

So, those of you who believe in Karma, when you see a person with a disability or suffering from Cancer or some other horrible disease, do you think they must have done terrible things and now they are paying for their evilness; IOW, that they are bad people deserving of their pain and suffering?

Now don't go gettin' all logical.

Makes you wonder...would it be Karma if he'd been diagnosed with Cancer the next day? How about hit by a car in the way home from the party?

I'll say it again, KARMA would be if the cool kids never showed at his party for the second time...NOT him fracturing his leg in two places.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

I typically believe that bad things happen to good people.......

 

[handinpocket]

Sorry but what the child did is bullying, purposefully excluding someone is bullying, it isn't just physical. Take bully prevention training.
yes there was a reason his cool friends wanted to come so out goes the uncool friend. And it wasn't the first time he did it.

Oh good gaucomole. It is "ideas" like this, that will make this generation of kids a bunch of milksops. "Oh, we don't want to upset little Johnny, so everyone on the soccer team must get a little trophy. Oh, we don't want to upset little Buford, we have to invite EVERYONE to the party".

Nope, isn't going to fly in this household. Sometimes, you don't get invited to stuff, deal with it. Sometimes, people really don't like you and try to winnow you out little by little...deal with it.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Oh yeah like she is in the running for Parent of the year after allowing her bully of a son to do what he has done twice to the OP's son.

Frankly that would be the best thing in the world for the OP's son to have no further contact with this bully.

Why are you bashing the parents? We have no way of knowing if they are aware of what their son did.

Oh good gaucomole. It is "ideas" like this, that will make this generation of kids a bunch of milksops. "Oh, we don't want to upset little Johnny, so everyone on the soccer team must get a little trophy. Oh, we don't want to upset little Buford, we have to invite EVERYONE to the party".

Nope, isn't going to fly in this household. Sometimes, you don't get invited to stuff, deal with it. Sometimes, people really don't like you and try to winnow you out little by little...deal with it.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

ROFL at the name Buford.....of all the names out there....LOL

 

[Acklander]

So, those of you who believe in Karma, when you see a person with a disability or suffering from Cancer or some other horrible disease, do you think they must have done terrible things and now they are paying for their evilness; IOW, that they are bad people deserving of their pain and suffering?

Nope, I see those as challenges. EVERYONE has challenges, some more visible than others. How we face our challenges is what counts.

 

[handinpocket]

ROFL at the name Buford.....of all the names out there....LOL

LOL, it came from a song my father used to sing me when I was a little girl....long....long....long ago, lol. It went "Mama please don't whip little Buford..." that is all I remember, but it STUCK with me!!

 

[sparklynails23]

I bet the kid just over-invited people and had to un-invite someone. He's just a kid. Maybe he chose the wrong people, but he's just a kid.

 

[Shelton123]

DS (13) has had a friend the same age as him for the last 4 years who'd sit with him on the bus every day. Not the closest of buddies, but close enough ya know? They'd get together occasionally, play etc.

Last year the boy decided to have a birthday party at his house and invited a ton of the "cool kids" who were not his friends as well as my son, and another boy who is also his friend. My son couldn't make it as I was in town working and there was no way I'd let him bike the highway to get there. None of the cool kids showed up, just the one other friend. ... I felt so awful for not finding a way to get DS to the party, but there was nothing I could think of to do and I only found out later what happened.

This year, this same boy decided to have his party at an indoor bike and skateboard park. His mom rented out the place but told him he could only have a certain number of kids. DS, the friend who showed up last year, and some new friends the boy made were all invited. DS was so excited we took his bike down to the shop and got it tuned up. Then last Monday the boy informs DS, the other friend who went to his party last year and a few others that they are UNinvited becuase he wants to invite the "cool kids". DS was angry but held onto the slightest hope that he'd be re-invited along with the other boy.

No deal, didn't happen. The party was yesterday and the kids got updates from facebook posted from the party stating how "cool" it was and who was there. Well, half an hour into the party the birthday boy broke his leg landing wrong from a jump. Yup, the mom and her son spent the rest of the day off in the ER waiting, X-raying and getting the leg set.

Karma?

BTW - DS is horribly saddened to hear this happened to his friend and is willing to forgive and forget.

ETA: It's a scary world where one has to defend asking a simple question. I'm simply shocked over the number of people who've jumped to the conclusion that I'm happy this happened or that the boy deserved what he got. To me that says something about their quick to judge personalities. First off, I don't feel any of us have the right to judge and label one another. Second off, these people haven't read my question asking for a definition of Karma (a coworker often tells me of Karma and when discussing this situation she felt this was a perfect example.) I don't feel anyone deserves physical punishment for uninviting kids to a party (not saying it's right). You can keep reading posts, join the conversation, and give us an opinion on the definition of karma and if this situation applies, or you can stop after reading a few posts and judge. All opinions are welcome. /end of public service announcement

Have you ever considered the possibility that maybe possibly every so slightly your precious little angel son could've possibly done something every so slitely wrong to the boy to make him uninvite your son?

Also, sometimes, and I've found this especially true with teenagers oh well maybe because I am one, that sometimes we grow out of our friends. This is gonna sound cruel, but sometimes we just change, and we like different things, and if there isn't enough space at the party, I'm gonna say sorry to the kids I don't hang out with that much, but I overinvited!

But it is bad to uninvite people no matter what, I think you should always look into how many people you can have, and invite that much! That way not as many complaints (because someone will always complain) and no surprises. And I don't think he deserved to have his leg broken... maybe fall down a couple times when skating

And to people who have said this is bullying, everything you do is bullying if you look at it a certain way. With every decision you make, there is someone who won't like it, and that means you are choosing some people's tastes over another in a sense, so is that bullying? No. I know my example is extreme but whatever.