Karma? 14 yo boy's parties

[Rora]

Well lucky you. My dd did suffer - it wasn't any fun. The orthopedic surgeon said it's one of the worse breaks when you break the bone in the leg on the growth plate. Try having a long leg cast from May 28th to July 28th during the hottest summer ever when you have an inground pool and have to watch everyone else swim. Having to go to school in a wheelchair definitely wasn't fun. I can't believe you would think that anyone would want to have to go through this. Do you think it's "fun" to have to worry that your leg will grow at the same rate as the other leg?

If this is really your attitude I'd worry about having you teach my kids!

Uhh.. I lived in South Florida. Almost all of my bones were broken during the summer months. I DID suffer. But, it wasn't nearly the suffering as other kids endure that have diseases, cancer, serious illnesses, etc. A broken bone HURTS, for sure.. and it's difficult to deal with.. I went to school in a wheelchair, and I had crutches, and I couldn't write for almost a whole semester.. Please. I know what your child went through.

My point: there are worse things than a broken leg, no matter how bad the break.

And, for the insult to my professional career:

 

[mdsoccermom]

Uhh.. I lived in South Florida. Almost all of my bones were broken during the summer months. I DID suffer. But, it wasn't nearly the suffering as other kids endure that have diseases, cancer, serious illnesses, etc. A broken bone HURTS, for sure.. and it's difficult to deal with.. I went to school in a wheelchair, and I had crutches, and I couldn't write for almost a whole semester.. Please. I know what your child went through.

My point: there are worse things than a broken leg, no matter how bad the break.

And, for the insult to my professional career:

Oh good grief. Of course there are worse things than a broken leg. That doesn't make the injury any less serious and certainly doesn't make it "no big deal". For some kids, it's very serious and not cool or fun.

 

[CarmenPeteron]

The birthday boy is too immature to realize that he cannot invite and uninvite kids to replace them with "cool" kids. His mother probably did not know that he did this. I think you son would be better off not having him as a friend.

 

[Rora]

Oh good grief. Of course there are worse things than a broken leg. That doesn't make the injury any less serious and certainly doesn't make it "no big deal". For some kids, it's very serious and not cool or fun.

That's fair. 100% fair.

Again, just stating my opinion, as you're entitled to yours.

 

[krcit]

I honestly cannot believe that this thread is still going on. Just when I think I have seen it all on here, a thread like this pops up. The fact that anyone thinks that this 14 yo kid "deserves" a broken leg because he uninvited a boy to his birthday party is so unbelievable to me. Unbelievable and disgusting.Truly. And to say that a broken leg in 2 places is not a big deal. Really? My dd broke her collarbone and while thankfully in the long run it was not a 'big deal', it was a very painful and gross experience for her. To think a child deserves that sort of pain because of a renaged party invite just blows my mind.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

ETA: It's a scary world where one has to defend asking a simple question. I'm simply shocked over the number of people who've jumped to the conclusion that I'm happy this happened or that the boy deserved what he got.

Well, the concept of Karma in the West, which is a weird warped version of the Indian religious belief is that the universe has a cosmic "balance sheet", and that God, or the Universe, or whatever, causes bad things to happen to people because they are "deserved" due to a person's actions. So basically, by asking if this is Karma, you are asking if this was deserved. I don't think you sounded happy about it, and I'm not sure if you actually believe that it was Karma. But if you did, than you are saying he deserved it. Unless you believe that the nature of Karma is unfair.


Edit: Actually, I guess really what you are asking is if the UNIVERSE thought he deserved it.

 

[luvmy3]

Karma certainly isn't "payback", IMO.

Honestly, a broken leg really isn't a big deal. I've broken a ton of bones (ankle, 2 elbows, a wrist, mulitple fingers, etc) and while it's definitely been painful, it's not a "serious injury". Yes, I've had the surgery and had pins put in.. it was all okay. I got a fun pink cast and got to miss school.. everyone signed my cast.. I felt pretty cool, to be honest. Most kids enjoy the attention they get after breaking a bone. I'm a 3rd grade teacher-- see it all the time.

Now, if the OP had posted: The boy was hit by a car and died-- karma? Then yes, we could all point fingers and call the OP the "bad guy", say she's gloating, etc. In this situation, I don't think the OP is the bad guy at all.

So, is it karma? Yes. In a perfect world, the little boy would take stock of his situation and realize the lesson behind his broken leg.. but, he won't .

The fact that you believe that this little boy (as you call him) should be learning a lesson from his broken leg is one thing, but they fact that you find it humorous that he won't is disturbing. The fact that you teach 3rd graders and believe this kind of stuff, well there are just no words

 

[Disney Doll]

I didn't read all the posts, but yes. . .Karma. And no I don't think it's gloating on your part. I think it is also Confucianism that teaches when you do the right things in life, that life rewards you. When you do the wrong things, then life punishes you.

He surely got punished for doing the wrong thing. I'm kinda bad with my kids that way. Sometimes when they are being ugly with their sibling and they get hurt in the process. . I tell them that God tripped them. It plays out amazingly well! They can be snotting off to me and then stub their toe. Gee. . .I guess God just tripped you for being disrespectful to your Mom. Or sometimes I just tell them that God smacked them on the head, because Mom wouldn't.

My mother used to say "God gets you and it's not always pretty".

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't know about it being Karma, but the old Irish curse did come to mind...

May those who love us,love us;
and those that don't love us,
may God turn their hearts;
If he can't turn their hearts,may he turn their ankles,
so we'll know them by their limping.

I have this framed in my house!

 

[ChrizJen]

So I'm a bad guy now?

All I asked was would anyone consider the situation to be Karma? No gloating involved. I feel for the boy and even more over the bad decisions he's made over who to have as friends. I hope DS and he do work things out becuase the boy needs guidance the mom doesn't seem to offer. Not saying I'll step in a the mom, just as an adult he can trust if he needs one to talk to.

I really can't get over being the bad guy

I agree. I feel bad for the kid, and I would never wish that one anyone. But I don't think that's what you were doing, OP. You were simply putting out there that sometimes life has a way of coming back around and kicking you in the rear.
I absolutely think it's karma. But I do feel bad for the kid.

 

[AmberHeartsDisney]

what goes around comes around..... Karma is a ....well you know lol

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Uhh.. I lived in South Florida. Almost all of my bones were broken during the summer months. I DID suffer. But, it wasn't nearly the suffering as other kids endure that have diseases, cancer, serious illnesses, etc. A broken bone HURTS, for sure.. and it's difficult to deal with.. I went to school in a wheelchair, and I had crutches, and I couldn't write for almost a whole semester.. Please. I know what your child went through.

My point: there are worse things than a broken leg, no matter how bad the break.

And, for the insult to my professional career:

Saying that kids enjoy the attention of broken bones is insulting to your career choice. Your lack of compassion seems strange for a teacher.

BTW I know all too well that there are much worse things than broken bones. My older ds had bone cancer when he was three and had his leg amputated and underwent a year of chemo.

That doesn't mean that a broken bone "isn't a big deal" as you suggested. Just because it's not the WORSE thing doesn't mean it isn't anything. Maybe you should word your response differently.

 

[MushyMushy]

I agree. I feel bad for the kid, and I would never wish that one anyone. But I don't think that's what you were doing, OP. You were simply putting out there that sometimes life has a way of coming back around and kicking you in the rear.
I absolutely think it's karma. But I do feel bad for the kid.

I think you can feel bad for someone and still feel that they might be going through something karmic. A lot of people do have that "Ha! You'll get yours!" attitude, but for a lot of people who really believe in karma, it's not like that. There's not a sense of satisfaction to it. Just a sense of balance.

Okay, I'd be lying if I said there's never satisfaction to it, but not usually.

My daughter has been through hell socially for many years. Although I don't think she has done anything to deserve it, I do believe there's something she's meant to learn. That doesn't mean I'm not going to do everything in my power to help her get through it, and I wish with all my heart things would be better for her.

 

[handinpocket]

My hope would be for the injured child's mother to see this post by the "benevolent" OP (or so she would have us believe), and not allow any further contact with this family.

 

[Magic Mom]

Uhh.. I lived in South Florida. Almost all of my bones were broken during the summer months. I DID suffer. But, it wasn't nearly the suffering as other kids endure that have diseases, cancer, serious illnesses, etc. A broken bone HURTS, for sure.. and it's difficult to deal with.. I went to school in a wheelchair, and I had crutches, and I couldn't write for almost a whole semester.. Please. I know what your child went through.

My point: there are worse things than a broken leg, no matter how bad the break.

And, for the insult to my professional career:

This is way OT, but what does living in S Fl have to do with broken bones? I have never broken a bone (knock on wood) and I grew up in S. FL too...played sports, rode horses, climbed trees....was I missing out on some cool Florida activities?

 

[ChrizJen]

I think you can feel bad for someone and still feel that they might be going through something karmic. A lot of people do have that "Ha! You'll get yours!" attitude, but for a lot of people who really believe in karma, it's not like that. There's not a sense of satisfaction to it. Just a sense of balance.

Okay, I'd be lying if I said there's never satisfaction to it, but not usually.

My daughter has been through hell socially for many years. Although I don't think she has done anything to deserve it, I do believe there's something she's meant to learn. That doesn't mean I'm not going to do everything in my power to help her get through it, and I wish with all my heart things would be better for her.

I see what you're saying. There is a big difference between hoping for karma and recognizing it when it happens. I do believe that karma and the universe work both ways. Sometimes the universe can come back around and teach you a lesson (for example, when you've treated others badly - again, not that you HOPE for that to happen to another person, but you recognize it as that when it happens.) But I also believe that when people go through tough times (like your daughter), the universe has a way of coming back around and (as you said) balancing it all out eventually.
Either way, once the universe balances out, you can usually step back and recognize it as karma.

 

[Hannathy]

My hope would be for the injured child's mother to see this post by the "benevolent" OP (or so she would have us believe), and not allow any further contact with this family.

Oh yeah like she is in the running for Parent of the year after allowing her bully of a son to do what he has done twice to the OP's son.

Frankly that would be the best thing in the world for the OP's son to have no further contact with this bully.

 

[Magic Mom]

Oh yeah like she is in the running for Parent of the year after allowing her bully of a son to do what he has done twice to the OP's son.

Frankly that would be the best thing in the world for the OP's son to have no further contact with this bully.

Uninviting someone to a party is over the top rude, but it is hardly bullying. And it certainly isn't deserving of broken legs. He deserves to lose the OP son as a friend...but not bodily injury over it.

 

[handinpocket]

Oh yeah like she is in the running for Parent of the year after allowing her bully of a son to do what he has done twice to the OP's son.

Frankly that would be the best thing in the world for the OP's son to have no further contact with this bully.

You have no idea what a bully is, if you consider uninviting someone to a party a "bully". There is probably a very good reason the other child did uninvite him, especially if the other parent allowed it.

 

[phorsenuf]

This is way OT, but what does living in S Fl have to do with broken bones? I have never broken a bone (knock on wood) and I grew up in S. FL too...played sports, rode horses, climbed trees....was I missing out on some cool Florida activities?

I think she was referring to what a previous poster wrote about being in a cast during the summer and how hot it gets. Rora gets that because she lived in S. FLA where it's pretty much always hot.