Just Thought I'd Introduce Myself

[thefigueroas]

I just thought I would say Hi as I will be joining the Spouse of Deployed Military Club this summer. I am lucky as my spouse will hopefully not be gone as long as some have been but it is hard regardless. As you probably will see in my signature my husband and I decided that I would take our son to Disney World during the Free Dining to relax in the middle of this time and celebrate the two of us being together. Have any of you done this? I asked this on the main board and I got some response but the situation is different than most people have. Did you feel guilty? I think it is an awesome idea as my son LOVES going and due to financial constraints we haven't been in a few years. Also, we have promised him for quite a while we would go. This was already planned for September and then moved to May to go before the deployment but my inlaws want to see my husband before he goes so between school ending and my husband leaving my inlaws ate most of the time we could go (which is absolutely fine, please understand me, it is as it should be!) That was when my husband came up with idea to move it back to September for the two of us (can't beat eating for free!). We are planning a trip a few months after his return so that is not an issue but I just feel weird about it and when I mention it to people I get this odd look as if I am going to celebrate my husband being gone. Any advise given would be appreciated!

 

[JohnsPrincess]

Welcome to the club! I think it's a lovely idea to go with your son while your hubby is deployed. He certainly doesn't want you two sitting and moping while he's gone, and I think it's good to spend some Mommy and Me time with him.

How long is he going to be gone for?

 

[thefigueroas]

7 months total. It's weird. Once you find out you just want him to leave so he can come back sooner.

 

[rparmfamily]

I'm about to join the club too--our pre-deployment brief is this month!!! UGG!!

DH is Navy as well.

 

[thefigueroas]

We just had ours today. It's doubly hard for us because there isn't a large amount of people going so I really don't have a whole lot of support in his command. It is harder to get people together for visiting and support when they don't need it and only have to give it. We also live on an AFB so that makes it harder, too. All the "lingo" is different and is geared toward a different set of people and let's just face it..... we Navy wives are a different breed! But I will be fine. I am tough! It was nice to vent a little though!

 

[mrsbornkuntry]

7 months total. It's weird. Once you find out you just want him to leave so he can come back sooner.

Our kids and I felt that way, too. We knew for a long time that DH was going and it put alot of stress on us, just the anticipation. We took our kids out of school for a last minute trip to DL right before DH left just because they needed to get away from the military and relax for awhile, it really helped.

I think since your Dh is okay with it a trip to WDW is a great way to relax while he's deployed. And maybe while you're there you can look around and find something special that you can save to do with DH when he gets back.

 

[katerkat]

Hey now, them Air Force people can be nice, too! Seriously, though, check out the, uh, crud, I don't remember what it's called! Used to be the Family Readiness (or maybe Resource?) Center and I think they changed it to the Airman Readiness Center? They can let you know all the stuff they have for deploying people - phone cards, web cams, free childcare, etc.

As for the trip, I'm not one to talk. We did Disneyland while DH was deployed, and I'm planning a trip in October whether he's deployed or not. I don't feel guilty because he's not exactly the world's biggest WDW fan, so he'd rather I get my fix while he's not around.

 

[jmskinner]

Sorry to hear your DH is deploying. I think it is a great idea to take your DS to WDW. I wish I could have done it. We have made trips to local parks a couples while my DH is deployed. Yes, I have felt guilty, but he would rather we do that, than just sit at home.

I also like the idea of saving something at WDW for all of you to do when he returns. You can also find some items to ship to him while he is deployed.

We went to WDW with the in-laws before my DH left. Took care of both at the same time.