I was just reading your post on the families thread about Rylan's sleeping! Oh man, some of those people are RUDE! What about the lady who puts her 7yo to bed at 6:30pm...I don't even have dinner on the table by then!! If I put Emily to bed at 6:30pm, she'd be up by 4:30am. That's about the time I finally fall asleep!!
Unfortunately, I don't have any advice on the paci because Emily never took one...even when she was crying and I'd shove it in her mouth to try to keep her quiet!!

Anyway, I can tell you what I do and hope there is something you can use! Everynight at 9:30ish Emily heads upstairs for bath time then she can bounce on our bed until 10pm. (We use these opportunities to learn about time too. She knows that 10pm is 10:00 on the clock and when she sees it, she knows it's bedtime) At 10pm we go in her room and read a book then she gets in bed and has quiet time until she falls asleep. Some nights she is out in 15 minutes, other nights, like last night, she was still awake at 1am. Regardless, I wake her up every morning at 10am, she'd sleep til noon if I let her!!

She know this is the routine, we've been doing it since she was born. Every once in a while, Emily will ask to listen to music and I let her, but only when she asks! (She has a CD player in her room)
Well, that's my story and I'm sticking to it!! Hope there is something there to help you!?!