Just starting and scared of failure...

[cats7494]

Just beginning and scared I will fail...

Well, here I go. I was always a very muscular person – I played ALLLL the sports in High school…then I blew my knee, hit college, had a baby, got married, got divorced, gained weight, and became very sedentary. Sometimes I get so depressed just thinking about it.
I have gained 100 pounds since high school!!! I can hardly believe it myself... ME… the all state basketball and volleyball player!

I have, since November gained 50 pounds! Is that nuts or what!?!?! Well, I am an emotion-linked eater too! November was a wonderful and awful month for my DH, DD10, and myself. Wonderful – I got married to the man of my dreams. Awful – while we were on our honeymoon in Cancun, our house had a fire in it and we lost everything , worst of all - our beloved 2 cats and pet chinchilla. Completely devastating!

As you can probably see…. That was such a hard time for us…. I ate so much and still do…. It is what makes me feel better then I hate myself for doing it!
I have read the books, I bought the latest Atkins book…. How do you make yourself do it! How do you end the cycle of emotional eating?

I am sorry to rant to you all…. You don’t know me…. Maybe that is why I am able to do this…. More anonymous and “safe.”

I need to just get healthy, emotionally and physically. I “know” what I am supposed to do… I “know” how to exercise and how to eat right…. Just doing it!

Thanks for “listening”! Wish me luck as I begin this journey of healthiness!!

Cats

 

[DMickey28]

I am with you cats. It is hard. I am at the beginning like you are. I am emotional eater too. Happy, sad, angry all of it evokes eating. I love food.

I don't know where to start. I am getting married in four months and I have bought my wedding dress a size smaller.

I started on Saturday going to curves agian. I will go this afternoon and hopefully walk after dinner too. I think starting exercise is the first step. I notice that the more I feel better when I excercise the easier it is to turn away from some of the food.

I need buddy to keep in on track..... if you would like a friend and some help let me know...

There is a ton of great advice on this board... that mixed with someone that you are accountable to is important....

Good Luck and you can do it!!!

I am sorry about the tough times in the Fall. I can't imagine that....

 

[Lynn CC]

Just try to take it day by day. You will see progress soon
{HUGS}

 

[cats7494]

It is always wonderful to have someone understand what you are going through...
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! What a beautiful time!!

I would love to have a friend to go through this with. It is hard alone and I lose patience with myself for mistakes and for not doing what I really need to do.

I just need to get going on exercising....I always feel so much better when I do it.... I just have to get off my bum and go!!

Good luck to you too!!

 

[DMickey28]

You are welcome Cats... if you need anything let me know.

Where in the country are you??? I am in Indy.

As you will notice I have the DIS WISH member tag however I have had it since March. I am not sure how to get it to show lbs. lost but I haven't lost anyway!!

If anyone knows how to get the new lbs. lost clippies...5 etc... let me know. Maybe that will motivate me!

 

[yasuern]

Hi Cats,

Welcome to the WISH board. I am on Atkins and honestly it has been pretty easy. Just make sure for the 1st 2 weeks you use the chapter in the book on induction as your bible! Drink your water and EXERCISE - even walking everyday is great exercise. My DH has lost 40lbs(I hate men! ) And I have lost 18ish -

I have a lot more to lose (around55lbs) - but I stay motivated by checking in here often - that what keeps me going!


I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved animals - I would be devistated if something would happen to my pets . You sound very motivated and ready to do this and I believe you WILL! But take it one day at a time - if you slip up let it be just that "a" slip up and don't let it take over your whole day,week etc.

I hope to see you around these boards often!

GOOD LUCK!
Sue

 

[cats7494]

I feel better already just reading your replies..... thank you!

I am in Iowa.... relatively new to the area but love it!!

Yes, one day at a time is how it goes.... I have definately not been drinking as much pop! I have been drinking more water and tea this last week and I think that helps somewhat....lots of sugar in pop!!

I just need to get moving now!

 

[ohMom]

cats -- welcome to WISH! you are among friends here

try not to overwhelm yourself with your big picture, baby step it and make small changes. they WILL add up and you WILL see results and feel so much better. cyber high five for your proclamation to a healthier lifestyle!

 

[perfectmatch300]

Cats, you can do it! We're here to support each other through the good times & the bad. I can really identify about what you are saying about the emmotional eating. It really helps to come here & talk about it so you don't have to find release through food. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your pets, I'm sure that was a tough time for you.

If you're ready to get healthy, WISH is the place to be. I, too, was an athlete when I was younger, but you'd never know that now. Slowly I'm losing all the weight I've gained over the years & am getting back into shape. Check in on our daily exercise thread - that really helps to keep me motivated each day to work out.

You, too, DMickey28! Either of you please feel free to send me a PM any time you need encouragement. Believe me, it will help me as much as it helps you!

 

[DMickey28]

Thanks Nancy

The problem is I don't know I need encourgement until it's too late... I don't debate about eating the bad stuff, it's a snap decision and then it's too late!

 

[dizneegirl]

Originally posted by cats7494
How do you make yourself do it! How do you end the cycle of emotional eating?

When you're ready, you just DO.

Those things that seemed so hard become MUCH easier... the things you thought you couldn't, you CAN.

That said... My best piece of advice for those starting Atkins... it's ONLY 2 weeks. You can do ANYTHING for 2 weeks. Follow the induction list to the letter... even if you want to quit, or don't think you can do it, DO IT. You'll be amazed by the end of the 2 weeks. Really.

 

[Kmygrl73]

Just wanted to say good luck. I have gained about 50 lbs sinced I got married in 2000. I have had 2 babies since then and a broken leg last year. Every day I say this is the day and it always seems to fail. I started back again today. Doing WW on my own without going to meetings. It's too hard to find the time with work, 2 kids, busy life, etc I am going to start walking every day no matter if it's 15 min or 30 min. At least it's a start. I gave up regular soda too. I think it makes a huge difference. Well, good luck again. I feel for you and I hope we all can do it together.

Kim

 

[Stacerita]

Cats - I can totally relate to you about being an emotional and stress eater.

At the begining of the year I was on track and losing weight in a good way. Between Jan and the middle of Mar I was able to lose 25lbs. But then my family was turned upside down with quite a few things in the matter of a week.....my uncle passed suddenly, my neice was born with downs, my brother was sent to Iraq, and a close friend of the family was given days to live. Well, to make a long story short, by the time my uncles funeral was over I had gained 10 lbs. And in the weeks following continued to gain. I am now practically back where I started in Jan.

I have always been an emotional eater and scared of failing. Its hard to not be scared about failing when the worry about failing is making you drive yourself to being emotional.

One thing that has helped me some is yoga. Just taking a bit of time once a week seems to make a difference to me. It helps me clear my head, breathe easy and focus on the things that important.

Just take it one day at a time and dont consider a slip as a failure. Its more like just room for improvement. Keep focused and you will do great Im sure. Good luck!

 

[AlreadyexcitedGrammy]

It was the fear of failing that kept me from REALLY trying - I gave that up and along with Weight Watchers that "clicked" for me (but I believe each person does have to figure out what plan is good for them) I have been able to focus on exercising, food control, WISHer's on the boards and "My buddies" so that I count myself a success!! Course I know this is a lifestyle now, too!! And what better results than a healthier me - soon it will be a healthier you, too!

I say - get that "buddy-system" going and lean on one another - hopefully when one is struggling the other is up and vice versa - that's what is so good about having a buddy right there when you need one. Keep posting to so that other WISHers can share in your journey and be supportive.

YOU CAN DO IT ! will be watching for those progress reports

 

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by DMickey28
If anyone knows how to get the new lbs. lost clippies...5 etc... let me know. Maybe that will motivate me!

I think you'll find everything you need in here.... http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=454614 If you still need help, just post (or PM me) and, someone/I will try and help.

cats, you'll find lots of help and support here at WISH. Don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying. Once you get started, and see some success, the fear will get less and less. jmo You CAN overcome your fear and, lose weight/get healthier at the same time.

Onward and Downward!

 

[HappyMommy2]

Oh Cats, I got tears in my eyes as I read your story! I am so sorry for all you have been through. It sounds like you are ready to do what you need to do to get fit and healthy, though, and that is great!

I too am on the road to fitness. This past winter I weighed 60 pounds more than I weighed pre-kids, only 5 years ago!
I was dragging around all day, feeling bloated and unhealthy and sorry for myself. Then, suddenly realizing that even my "fat" clothes were too tight, I made the decision to get on track and make whatever changes I needed to make to regain my old healthy, trim self! WISH has helped me SO much. I don't post here every day but I read all the time, and when I am having a craving or wanting to binge I will often come here and read some threads and the unhealthy urges will pass. Progress has been slow but steady for me--15 pounds gone in about 3 months, and I am developing some real muscle tone! I am following the Body for Life exercise plan along with a semi-Weight Watchers eating plan; these are programs I can live with over the long haul. For me that is important.

It really does get easier over time. I'm having fewer and fewer "bad days" and my old desire to be constantly snacking and chewing on something is fading. From this board, I've learned the importance of getting right back on track if I do have a bad day. At first I'd let one bad day lead into a whole week of unhealthy eating, but not anymore. It will get easier for you too!

Please visit WISH often and share your successes and trouble spots with us if you like. Everyone here is super nice and you will find plenty of support.

Janet

 

[Claire4dpins]

Hello Cats & welcome!! I am another emotional eater & my only advice is to take each day as it comes - if you sometimes have a slip - put it behind you & move on to the next day - that is what I am trying to do! I have lost 40lb of a total of 112lb that I have to loose - I try to take each day as it comes. I am doing Atkins & I find it easy to follow - give it a try and you will be able to tell if it is the right program for you after the first couple of weeks - and hopefully by then you will have lost a few pounds! My main advice drink as much water as you can!!

I am so sorry about the loss of your home & beloved pets - good luck in your endevour - you will find loads of support here!
Claire

 

[cats7494]

Thank you, thank you, thank you ALL! Boy, you are all right in that you get lots of support here. You are wonderful people and it is great to hear from people who have similar difficulties with eating and emotions.

I want to be healthy, all the women in my family are rather large and I was determined when I was younger that I would not get that way. Well, trying on clothes at a department store certainly makes you realize that size 20 is not a healthy size. I know diabetes and heart conditions run very heavily in my family so I need to start to take care of my self.... I do the typical thing of worrying about everyone else first....

I just have to do it. My DH and I are going to the fitness center tonight after work. He wants to get toned up too.... yes, he will probably lose 20 in a week! haha
I am lucky in that he is very supportive and loving.

It has been hard dealing with our losses from the fire... we are all healing and my DH is doing quite well too.

Small goals....baby steps..as mentioned before!

thank you all!

 

[lmhall2000]

You may not realize it, but you are already on your way to becoming healthier and stronger!!! YOU POSTED DIDN'T YOU???? You just tapped into a goldmine of inspiring nuggets...it's a start and just what you need! Here are some keys to my weight loss...

I started at 236 last April...I am at 188 now... the lowest I've been is 178.(in the past year)..I have taken the past 4 months off because we are going through a relocation and had too much on my plate...that's okay, if you need a break take a break! Now I'm back and ready to reach for my goal clippie...which at this point is anything under 150!

Some things I realize...

I have NO sense of PORTION CONTROL!!! I was very active before babies and was into cycling, raquetball, tennis, you name it...but it also meant I was active and could eat anything. Once the activity dropped my eating didn't.
So, how did I attack this problem? I chose slimfast, I just needed something to shrink my stomach so that I would have reasonable hunger pains. If you're like I was I could eat a cheeseburger and fries and still be hungry 2 hours later...after slimfasting for a month my stomach really did shrink and one cheeseburger filled me up without the fries. From that point I added exercise...I started out walking 15-20 minutes 4x a week to walking 4 miles 5x a week...you know the drill...you were an athletic pro...you know how your body feels when your blood's pumping and everything seems to work...well attack the eating first, then add teh exercise...together they make an unstopppable losing team!

And keep coming here! I've signed up to walk the 1/2 marathon in January ..and I am going to be at 150 by then...make yourself a goal and believe it....and boy those clippies are GREAT!

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
Tara

 

[cats7494]

Thank you Tara for your great words!

Choices, choices, choices.... that is what is about. Today, for lunch - I soooo wanted McDonald's Quarterpounder, french fries, and a Coke - I don't know why... I even said to myself - sure... go for it.... you can make it up tonight when you go work out

I DID NOT EAT IT! I went to Subway and got a Turkey sandwich and a glass of ice water. Boy...small steps - but I feel better about myself. I know that McDonald's would have tasted great, but getting to type in here that I was able to resist is definately worth it. HOORAY!!

Small steps, big changes! I have to do it!
I bought a new cookbook over lunch today... it is supposed to have smaller portions/calories.... (not a big fan of cooking but will have to!)

Now, I have a question....why are the "healthy" foods more expensive than the junk foods? Yeah.... I know.... cheaper to make the junkfood.... but still frustrates me. Just going to have to realize that the grocery bill will be a little larger from now on Definately worth being healthy!

Going to a 5:45 aerobics class tonight after work... DH is going too... he will do the weights and treadmill...can not bring himself to do aerobics yet! Ha ha

One day at a time, right? I also bought a food journal to write down all I eat and my emotions at the time.... also keep track of my excercising.

I am going to do it, I know I can!!!