Just found out TDY :(

[Liberty Belle]

So I have read this entire thread and I really think that the OP made a mistake posting the information but I am sure she meant no harm. As for complaining about a 6 week TDY that I found that strange but if this if the first time she has been away since they were married than I can understand why 6 weeks must feel like forever but OP let me tell you this you will soon get used to it and it becomes a normal way of life. Since we have moved to my husband’s new duty station he has been TDY 8 out of the 11 months we have been here and when he is working on post it is very long hours so we just do our thing and if he can join us he does if not than that is OK to. As for talking about his rank that too is probably due to you being a new wife I was the same way when my husband got commissioned and was a lowly 2nd LT. I thought that was the coolest thing ever fast forward many years later and well the new has worn off and it is job like any other. I promise you will get use to it and it won’t be so bad because it is six weeks of no cooking and your amount of laundry will be cut in half!

Not only the first time him being away, but she's very newly pregnant.

OP, I hope the time goes quickly.

 

[Abbie]

The only time I refer to my husband by rank is when he is at home and isn't paying attention to me. If I yell his rank he always answers "Ma'am??".

Too funny!

OP, sounds like this whole thread has been a learning experience for you.
Hang in there!

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

So are you guys waiting for that list that was supposed to be out on Tuesday but now we have to wait till the 25th??

Nope - his group hasn't gone to the board yet (next month). Just got his OER in last week and has his new DA photo taken next week. Don't you love the hoops they have to jump through?

Good luck. Hope you guys make the list! WDW trip to celebrate!

 

[lovemygoofy]

So are you guys waiting for that list that was supposed to be out on Tuesday but now we have to wait till the 25th??

We are waiting on the same list ya'll are. I doubt that my husband has been chosen already. This was his first look for another rocker and he is still relatively young in his career at almost 14 years.

Good luck!

 

[irishbosoxfan]

We are waiting on the same list ya'll are. I doubt that my husband has been chosen already. This was his first look for another rocker and he is still relatively young in his career at almost 14 years.

Good luck!

Yeah same here. Hubby is so nonchalant about it. This is his first look for it also. He got picked up for the last one on his first look so I'm hoping for the same thing this time around! I know how high speed he is I'm hoping they see it as well!! LOL!

Good luck to yours as well!



OP there are a few websites available to you.

http://www.deardeploymentihateyou.c...-do-i-create-read-more&catid=34:military-life

This page is a very basic rundown of being a milspouse.


http://www.deardeploymentihateyou.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=33&Itemid=68

This one has OPSEC rules.

The home page has stages of deployment which you can get some info from.

 

[surfergirl602]

Yeah same here. Hubby is so nonchalant about it. This is his first look for it also. He got picked up for the last one on his first look so I'm hoping for the same thing this time around! I know how high speed he is I'm hoping they see it as well!! LOL!

Good luck to yours as well!



OP there are a few websites available to you.

http://www.deardeploymentihateyou.c...-do-i-create-read-more&catid=34:military-life

This page is a very basic rundown of being a milspouse.


http://www.deardeploymentihateyou.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=33&Itemid=68

This one has OPSEC rules.

The home page has stages of deployment which you can get some info from.

Love that site.

"You're a civilian, your husband is in the military. Did you go through basic? if the answer is no, then you hold no rank, your husband does. And your husband got his rank by working hard, and helping others. therefore your job is not to turn his rank into a tiara. You earned a wedding band, which has nothing to do with his career status. Therefore, if your husband is high ranking, it is your duty to be there for anyone and everyone below you. your job is to educate people without chastising them. It is your job to be a role model."

There are a few ladies here that I would love to share this info with!!!!

 

[wtccheermom]

Love that site.

"You're a civilian, your husband is in the military. Did you go through basic? if the answer is no, then you hold no rank, your husband does. And your husband got his rank by working hard, and helping others. therefore your job is not to turn his rank into a tiara. You earned a wedding band, which has nothing to do with his career status. Therefore, if your husband is high ranking, it is your duty to be there for anyone and everyone below you. your job is to educate people without chastising them. It is your job to be a role model."There are a few ladies here that I would love to share this info with!!!!

I must be a bad Army wife because I do not agree with that. I have no extra time in my life to deal with educating other military families or being a role model for them. It is my husband’s job to deal with soldiers and families not mine.

 

[surfergirl602]

I must be a bad Army wife because I do not agree with that. I have no extra time in my life to deal with educating other military families or being a role model for them. It is my husband’s job to deal with soldiers and families not mine.

I just meant the bolded tiara part. I probably shouldn't have quoted the whole thing. I'm the FRG leader so I guess it's just normal for me to deal with families - that's my "job" description. I didn't give that part a second thought! Getting "coffees" together, activities for the kids, and fun things to do while the men are doing their thing is what I do. It's a full time job sometimes. Ugh. Way too much work, but we have fun.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Not only the first time him being away, but she's very newly pregnant.

OP, I hope the time goes quickly.

My thoughts exactly. I always hear about how supportive military families are to each other, but I'm sure not seeing it in this thread.

I understand that she posted too much information, but is a hug really that hard to give out? Sheesh.

 

[drlee]

I must be a bad Army wife because I do not agree with that. I have no extra time in my life to deal with educating other military families or being a role model for them. It is my husband’s job to deal with soldiers and families not mine.

Same here. Navy wife of twenty five years and as my husband always says "The Navy is not who he is, it is what he does for a living". Sometimes my children's friends are surprised that their Dad is in the military. We were always told never to have bumper stickers on our cars with the name our husbands ships and not to advertise that our husbands ships were being deployed. People do stupid things with this sort of information. God Bless you with your first seperation from your husband. I can tell you mine has been gone more than he has ever been home. Will keep you in my prayers!!

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

Same here. Navy wife of twenty five years and as my husband always says "The Navy is not who he is, it is what he does for a living". Sometimes my children's friends are surprised that their Dad is in the military. We were always told never to have bumper stickers on our cars with the name our husbands ships and not to advertise that our husbands ships were being deployed. People do stupid things with this sort of information. God Bless you with your first seperation from your husband. I can tell you mine has been gone more than he has ever been home. Will keep you in my prayers!!

Yep - the "1/2 my heart is in Iraq" window clings are on vehicles all over the place around here. Way to let someone know you are home alone.

We have a small "Support our Troops" ribbon magnet on one vehicle and other than that no mention of the military other than our DoD decals.

 

[Magic Mom]

Love that site.

"You're a civilian, your husband is in the military. Did you go through basic? if the answer is no, then you hold no rank, your husband does. And your husband got his rank by working hard, and helping others. therefore your job is not to turn his rank into a tiara. You earned a wedding band, which has nothing to do with his career status. Therefore, if your husband is high ranking, it is your duty to be there for anyone and everyone below you. your job is to educate people without chastising them. It is your job to be a role model."

There are a few ladies here that I would love to share this info with!!!!

If your husband is in the military then he is in the chain of command, not you, so no one is really "below" you.

 

[natenapril]

If your husband is in the military then he is in the chain of command, not you, so no one is really "below" you.

I agree. I didn't go through basic or deal with all the stress and deployments he deals with so no way would I wear HIS rank. It goes both ways. He's not studying his butt off to get a Masters degree while taking care of 3 kids so he sure doesn't take credit for what I do either.
I really think the younger troops, whether they are O's or E's, won't stay in past their initial enlistment because of the attitude of some of the higher ranking members and some wives

 

[beaucoup]

I've always been more impressed by someone who as been in decades and earned their rank on the way up, versus a young one out of college who came in at that rank. KWIM? I know I'm not the only person who feels that way.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I've always been more impressed by someone who as been in decades and earned their rank on the way up, versus a young one out of college who came in at that rank. KWIM? I know I'm not the only person who feels that way.

I understand that, but the ones out of college (or military academies had to work so hard to get their initial rank. Once they're commissioned, they're in the same boat, whether E or O, because they have to earn successive ranks by continuing the hard work. And I'm not saying this with a tiara on my head. That's been slapped off and I'm a better person for it.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

I must be a bad Army wife because I do not agree with that. I have no extra time in my life to deal with educating other military families or being a role model for them. It is my husband’s job to deal with soldiers and families not mine.

For me what I took from that line is that as senior spouses we should try to be as helpful as possible without denigrating. And we're always role models. I would like to have younger families look at us and say "Wow, they're really squared away. So and so really has set an example to follow" It's not a matter of extra time but rather just putting your best foot forward and having others see it.

I agree. I didn't go through basic or deal with all the stress and deployments he deals with so no way would I wear HIS rank. It goes both ways. He's not studying his butt off to get a Masters degree while taking care of 3 kids so he sure doesn't take credit for what I do either.
I really think the younger troops, whether they are O's or E's, won't stay in past their initial enlistment because of the attitude of some of the higher ranking members and some wives

I have seen some crappy wives and some crappy service members but if someone chooses to not stay in I think it'll have more to do with their own attitudes rather than others. The military isn't easy and unfortunately a lot of people aren't cut out for the life and that includes the member and their spouse.

As an example of that---I remember the first FRG meeting I went to for the new Company that had just been stood up. My DH had asked me to go because he was the PLT SGT and he didn't think it was right for him to ask his Soldiers to bring their wives if his wasn't going to be there. Well the leader got up and introduced herself then went on this spiel about how she was glad there was an FRG because now she "had backup" to fight the system. About how she was tired of her husband working long hours everyday,not having weekends off and being called out at all hours for alerts. How we were going to change things and she had plans for telephone campaigns etc,etc.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't believe what this woman was saying. Well without even thinking I opened my mouth and words fell out. Lots of them. Some of them I feel bad about now because she was a new wife, she wasn't young,just new (her DH had been in for about 6yrs at that point and she was his second wife)

Well after the meeting the 1SG chased me down the hall and asked me to assist the leader saying she didn't realize exactly what they were getting when they accepted her and that I could be a counterbalance. That someone who had been around for a little bit had knowledge they could share that would benefit everyone.


So I guess with that book I wrote what I was trying to say is that good or bad we're all examples. Someone at sometime is going to see us somewhere. I'd like to think that when that time comes that I will be a credit to my husband, his service and the Service.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Someone at sometime is going to see us somewhere. I'd like to think that when that time comes that I will be a credit to my husband, his service and the Service.

This is how I want to be, too. I thought it was going to be easy, but I don't come from a military family and I'm seeing that being a credit to my husband, at least in my case, is going to come from experience, but I'm trying. I can't believe I'm saying this because I miss him a lot already, but maybe it's a good thing he's away right now so that I can get my head in the right place during the next 6 weeks.

 

[VAfamily1998]

I've always been more impressed by someone who as been in decades and earned their rank on the way up, versus a young one out of college who came in at that rank. KWIM? I know I'm not the only person who feels that way.

You don't "earn your rank on the way up" after decades, to be the same rank as what a "young one out of college" starts out at.

From what you said above it sounds like you don't understand the rank structure.

 

[wtccheermom]

You don't "earn your rank on the way up" after decades, to be the same rank as what a "young one out of college" starts out at.

From what you said above it sounds like you don't understand the rank structure.

I think maybe she is referring to prior service soldiers who go through one of the commissioning programs. OCS, Green to Gold

 

[beaucoup]

Loose lips sink ships.

Another old saying for those not familiar with OPSEC & PERSEC.