Just Feeling Sad & Devastated

[disneygirlatheart]

Thank you for all the kind words. tink-lover hope your day in MN has better news than we had yesterday. We are in TN.

 

[Liberty Belle]

My goodness...and I thought my day was bad.

I was laid off in June. Still no job. DH still has his, thank goodness, but he's a little worried.

I hope there's something for him you just don't know about right now. If not, I hope you're able to move somewhere where he can find one.

Hang in there.

 

[NewCrew42]

Just was reading threads for a pick me up. Bad news today. My dh just found out he will be without a job. They are closing the doors and 1900 people will be without a job in the next few months. I have been without a job for a while now also. Searching and searching with no luck. We are just beside ourselves. We have a hard road ahead, so do a lot of people in our area. That was the only job for miles and miles. People drove 50 miles one way daily to get to this job. We live in a very rural area. Looks like bankruptcy and moving is in our future and a lot of our friends also. We have so many bills to pay and kids in school. I feel for anyone who has been in this position, it is so sad and so scary!

For the day to be even worse my dh's uncle passed away this morning, and down our road 2 people out walking, a mother and daughter, got run over by a truck.

But on the bright side, we believe there is a reason for everything, so hopefully this will be one of those it happened for things to be better, even though it does not seem that way right now and probally will not for a long time.

Please send good thoughts and prayers for not only our 1900 job losses in this area, but for all over the US. Times are really hard for a lot of people. If you have a job, please hold on to it!

 

[Pigeon]

I'm so sorry. I hope you are able to find great new positions soon.

 

[bellebud]

I'm so very sorry this is happening to you, and to so many people in your area (and of course, all over!)

BUT I have to say, when I read your title, I thought "omg, her dh or child died!", then when I read "lost job", I was relieved for you honestly.

Things can always be better, and they can always be worse.

I'm not downplaying your situation at all, just telling you my gut reaction to your title.

This absolutely stinks for you guys right now, and it's the worst thing going on in your life, so it's huge!!

Maybe look at it as a chance to completely start over, somewhere new. America is full of opportunities... we all have to work hard to get them, but I thank goodness every day that this is the country we live in, because there's always 'something'... always! It will not knock on your door, but it's there.

We have friends whose dh recently lost his job, they're covered for 6 months w/ severance pay, but took the last few weeks to really re-evaluate their lives, what they want, etc, etc. They're selling their house (not because they need to - he found another job), but because they feel like if it happens again, they'll be more comfortable. They're going to buy a much smaller house. They're downsizing a lot of material things (not that they even have a lot to begin with - they're not those type of people), but they're getting rid of clutter in their lives - feeling like his job loss was an opportunity to really explore themselves.

We have other, very dear, very close, lifelong friends, whose 6yo ds is battling leukemia. Just got diagnosed in November - super-duper healthy boy before this hit. They're living in the hospital for about 8 months now. They're also trying to make life as normal as possible for their 4yo ds who is missing his big bro/best friend tremendously.

I don't mean to downplay your situation at all, please don't take it that way! But I know it helps me when I really look around at what we do have, as opposed to what we don't have. Now, not having a job is not like not having a nice car, of course, so again, please don't take offense at my post.

I hope and pray things work out for you guys for the better. Please keep us updated on your lives, and we're all here for you for support.

 

[FINFAN]

It is rough to take for sure. One of the nagging emotions I think that makes the devastating feeling is the loss of control. I mean, you pretty much have it one day and the next, gone. I would do small daily things that still give you control. family decisions, even little things like clearing clutter that has been a "I'll get to it one day" chore. As the weather breaks allow yourselves to go to the park with your kids, bike ride etc. Those won't add any cost but will add to your mental health! I have found even getting our groceries at the most affordable offers a small victory, it takes planning, couponing and even mapping out my route to use the least gas possible but when I accomplish it I feel like I have made another financial contribution to our family (if that makes sense) Since a move may be in your future, start going thru and seeing what you can Craigslist or have for a garage sale, You will be getting your place in order on your terms( very helpful if you need to make a quick move) and maybe make a few bucks too. Use Facebook, any site to network...that is a huge factor in how interviews come to place, someone who knows someone. Take a deep breath, try to stay half full as the others have posted, it will help you stay healthy which is very important right now! Keep your confidence up, that is vital when interviewing, youcannot appear beaten down. Keep up with this thread if you can so you can get encouragement in the low times.