Just Back - My Dh Was A Bump On A Log!!!

[Tootles]

I must be a terrible wife. My DH has no idea how much our trip costs. I knew if I told him hewould not want to go. He would know that the money could & should be used elsewhere. Before you give me a lecture I earned the money with extras that I would not hae done if a trip wasn't planned. I didn't charge it either. But I know that if my DH knew how much this trip costs he wouldn't go either.

Obviously, my husband is comfortable with NOT knowing either. You're NOT a terrible wife, your just keeping your DH happy with the unknown. There's too much arguing that goes on anymore for couples dealing with day-to-day stress. If it's not hurting him, why WOULD you tell him? You go girl! Your keeping your marriage, happier!

 

[ILoveDisney&Cruising]

Oh, I'm so sorry!

 

[pfalcioni]

My DH used to be just like this - we never went on vacations, always worked our vacation time, then spent the money on house repairs, etc. When we did go on short trips, he was upset about every dollar we spent.

About 10 years ago, he started to figure out that there had to be a balance between saving for later, and living NOW.

Because of his relentless saving, we do have a very good nest egg for retirement, and for that I'm eternally thankful.

However, I am also eternally thankful that he's 'seen the light' and now LOVES our vacation time. We take at least 5 weeks a year.

He knows now that life is short, we get old, nothing is certain. Part of loving life is exploring new places and things.

I am glad he finally came to his senses! But I know that for many people, time away from work is just that, time away from what they really want to be doing. They're not happy unless the feel like they're being productive.

I agree that for people married to these folks, it's probably better to just take separate vacations - but leave the door open for them to change in the future.

Of course, 'they' are probably on some other forum somewhere, complaining that 'we' expend too much time and energy on frivolous vacation time that only lasts a week or two!

 

[rie'smom]

My husband can take or leave WDW. He's a good sport though. However, my 13 yo DD and I go 2x a year and he usually come with us on 1 trip.

 

[wld4mky]

Tootles, I am so excited for you!!!
The look on your kids faces will make your hubby happy.
Here is to a future with Many more WDW vacations!!!

 

[meandtheguys2]

But seriously, part of being married is learning to like what the other spouse does. My DH has had to learn to like WDW, college football and foreign travel. I've learned to like folk music, fishing and baseball.

Well said! It is often about compromise, and enjoying time together wherever we are!

 

[Tootles]

Tootles, I am so excited for you!!!
The look on your kids faces will make your hubby happy.
Here is to a future with Many more WDW vacations!!!

Okay-you actually made me teary eyed! Isin't it funny how a kind word from a stranger can make someone feel so good inside? Sincerest thank you, and I will be sure to do a trip report when we get back!

 

[wld4mky]

Great, Can't wait to read it!!

 

[MermaidQueen]

I am glad to see my husband isnt the only one like this. He doesn't by no means share my enthusiasm about Disney, but he doesn't as he puts it mind to go every four years. That is why I am taking my cousin with me and the kids next March because they are just begging to go back. His response as long as I don't have to go again right now I don't mind. So I'm planning it without him and all is well!

 

[parmtoo]

Obviously, my husband is comfortable with NOT knowing either. You're NOT a terrible wife, your just keeping your DH happy with the unknown. There's too much arguing that goes on anymore for couples dealing with day-to-day stress. If it's not hurting him, why WOULD you tell him? You go girl! Your keeping your marriage, happier!

Honestly, my DH doesn't know how much anything cost! I think he likes it that way. We've been married for nearly 22 years, and I've planned all the vacations, college funds, 1 wedding, and everthing in between. As long as he can go golfing and take a trip once in a while, he's happy!
BTW, he loves WDW, and I'm soooo happy about that.
For all of you with young children, tell your DH's that tome flies! Before you know it, they are grown w/kids of thier own. (Then you get to take grandkids to WDW) Spend every moment you can with the little ones!