Fishbone†
<font color=blue>Does strange things while sleepin
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- May 31, 2001
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I know I'm probably over-reacting.... I'm tired and probably just having one of those extra-sensitive days, but I'm really sad right now.... a little bit hurt really.
I work with 37 engineers - all male. I do kind of miss a little female interaction, but it's not bad. Anyway, there's a group of us (3-4 depending) that go to lunch together every Thursday - it's a standing deal. The last couple of weeks one of the guys has been out of town, and one of the others is an on and off (he's in a different department, therefore different schedule). So last week and this week it was just two of us. Anyway, we always leave at 11:30. So today about 11:10, I went over to this guys desk to see where we were going.... I like to know ahead of time so I can look forward to it. He wasn't there. He wasn't there at 11:20 either..... or 11:30..... or 11:35..... or 11:45.... or 11:55..... or 12:06. In this time, I called a different area, checked the lab and paged him. Nothing. Now that I've waited this long, everyone else has gone to lunch, and I'm forced to go by myself. Not a big deal really, just disappointing. I typically pack left-overs to save money, and look forward to lunch out on Thursdays. Plus, I had really good left-overs if I'd have known. So I go to Subway and come back to DIS. I get back to my desk, and someone tells me that "R" is hiding from me. Whatever. Then "R" comes over.
Me:
Where did you go?
R:
I waited around, and it didn't look like you wanted to go to lunch, so I just left.
Me:
Are you kidding? I looked all over for you. I came to your desk about 11:10 to see where we were going.
R:
Yeah. I left at 11:00. I had to go to the bank anyway.
Now I'm disappointed on various levels. First that you left without telling me. If you didn't want to go to lunch (or couldn't), fine, but you could have let me know. I'd have found someone else to go with, or at least not have waited as long. Second, that you threw it back at me.... "I waited around, and it didn't look like you wanted to go to lunch, so I just left." Whatever!! You left 1/2 hour before we ever leave..... before lunch even starts here. I really couldn't hide my disappointment - mostly just that it wasn't really an accident.
And just for clarity sake, there is nothing between us. He just happens to be one of the group, and I would feel the same way no matter which of my friends it was.
And mostly, I was just venting, because it feels good. Thanks for listening.
I work with 37 engineers - all male. I do kind of miss a little female interaction, but it's not bad. Anyway, there's a group of us (3-4 depending) that go to lunch together every Thursday - it's a standing deal. The last couple of weeks one of the guys has been out of town, and one of the others is an on and off (he's in a different department, therefore different schedule). So last week and this week it was just two of us. Anyway, we always leave at 11:30. So today about 11:10, I went over to this guys desk to see where we were going.... I like to know ahead of time so I can look forward to it. He wasn't there. He wasn't there at 11:20 either..... or 11:30..... or 11:35..... or 11:45.... or 11:55..... or 12:06. In this time, I called a different area, checked the lab and paged him. Nothing. Now that I've waited this long, everyone else has gone to lunch, and I'm forced to go by myself. Not a big deal really, just disappointing. I typically pack left-overs to save money, and look forward to lunch out on Thursdays. Plus, I had really good left-overs if I'd have known. So I go to Subway and come back to DIS. I get back to my desk, and someone tells me that "R" is hiding from me. Whatever. Then "R" comes over.
Me:
Where did you go?
R:
I waited around, and it didn't look like you wanted to go to lunch, so I just left.
Me:
Are you kidding? I looked all over for you. I came to your desk about 11:10 to see where we were going.
R:
Yeah. I left at 11:00. I had to go to the bank anyway.
Now I'm disappointed on various levels. First that you left without telling me. If you didn't want to go to lunch (or couldn't), fine, but you could have let me know. I'd have found someone else to go with, or at least not have waited as long. Second, that you threw it back at me.... "I waited around, and it didn't look like you wanted to go to lunch, so I just left." Whatever!! You left 1/2 hour before we ever leave..... before lunch even starts here. I really couldn't hide my disappointment - mostly just that it wasn't really an accident.
And just for clarity sake, there is nothing between us. He just happens to be one of the group, and I would feel the same way no matter which of my friends it was.
And mostly, I was just venting, because it feels good. Thanks for listening.
but as I was reading before I even got to the part about him bailing on you I could guess what happened. I am backing Ethan's mom on this one. He didn't want to keep going to lunch alone with you in case you or someone else might misinterpret it.
because I understand where you are coming from.
Now that I think of it, maybe he's just sick of hearing about DH2B. And actually, he's our technical writer, so he's not as introverted as a typical engineer. It may be the talk though - maybe he's heard things... but then I think he would tell me.... he's a bit like a woman that way.... he likes to gossip. 
