Just a vent about people bumping threads...

[oxfordcircus]

That wouldn't help at all unfortunately. Instead of bumping the OP, there would be threads calling out to the OP and asking for status.

I think there's a board policy against starting a thread directed at an individual. I've seen such thread-starters admonished by the mods to send a pm instead.

 

[Crankyshank]

I think there's a board policy against starting a thread directed at an individual. I've seen such thread-starters admonished by the mods to send a pm instead.

If so then it's not enforced. There's been plenty of "whatever happened to the poster that....." threads

 

[CarolA]

I just wonder if people are aware of the PM option?

There have been a few threads of sensitive nature regarding family issues that keep getting bumped up after weeks of the OP letting it die and I think it is really insensitive. If anyone is worried about the OP (or their family), or just thinking of them, why don't they just send the OP a nice pm?

To keep bumping the thread comes off as ambulance chasing to me. It rubs salt in the wound where someone really could just want to keep it to themselves or may have just forgotten about it or wanted everyone else here to. It really isn't our right to know the 'ending' just because someone happened to post a thread here in the heat of whatever is happening in their lives.

Maybe some people have walked away and just forgot to post an update, even still... wouldn't a pm be more appropriate than constant 'bumps'?

I dunno, I am certain to be flamed for mentioning it because obviously people are just 'concerned' about their 'friends'...but that is what i think the pm option was designed for. Anyone else feel this way? I just think it would be better to err on the side of caution, that maybe the OP doesn't want to get into it or has alot on their plate right now. That is why I think a pm is ore appropriate if someone is just concerned about them.

Ok, rant over...maybe I will get flamed and then walk away and one of my friends will bump this for me in a month or two...

Sorry, but if it's sensitive personal information, why would you even bother to post it. You give up your right to control how the thread is dealt with when you post.

I am amazed at what folks will post on here and then thier reaction. If you can't take the heat don't jump into the fire.

 

[oxfordcircus]

I think it is entertaining and funny to read all the "concerned" posters wanting to hear the ending of stuff. They try to pass off their "concern" as caring but we all know it is pure nosiness.

At the church in which I grew up, folks would gossip thusly: let's pray for so and so, because her husband is cheating on her, etc. But in those cases, I never heard anyone say they were entitled to an update merely because they prayed for the person.

 

[pearlieq]

I agree....sure you can post a vent or whatever but you have to be prepared that this is a public message board. Does the OP have the right not to update, etc. Absoultely.

I would agree. I think it's part of the trade you make. If you post to vent or get advice, part of the "price" is that people will be curious and want to know if it's resolved.

I suppose a PM would be a bit more discreet, but I really don't think that's a reasonable expectation. After all you didn't just discreetly PM a friend for advice, did you?

If the OP doesn't want to update they're certainly entitled. They can either ignore and let the resurrected thread die or ask the mods to close it.

 

[KristinBelle]

Ok, just letting you all know I am running to the post office, the grocery store etc and I may not be back to this thread for hours...if ever. If I don't come back, no need to be concerned.

I think people should just admit that they're nosey and that's why they're bumping the thread.

 

[Planogirl]

So if someone asks for advice, they have to come back and tell everyone what's going on? I don't even have to do that in real life.

 

[ChrisLei]

I have to agree with those that say if they post personal things on a public forum that they are essentially drawing attention to themselves and will be bombarded with those that want updates.

I too am very private by nature. Only 3 people I would turn to with very personal matters. A public forum is not the place to post things if you don't want people to be nosey. I think of it this way....would you go to a total stranger on the street and tell them what you are posting here?

A vent because MIL is driving you up a wall....OK. Hubby doesn't put the toilet seat down, OK. I am suspicious that hubby is having an affair....NOT OK. Way too much info you are giving to essentially strangers.

 

[Oreo Cookie]

Sorry, but if it's sensitive personal information, why would you even bother to post it. You give up your right to control how the thread is dealt with when you post.

I am amazed at what folks will post on here and then thier reaction. If you can't take the heat don't jump into the fire.

I agree with you. I think if someone wants to "bump" a thread that's their choice. I would PM if I were really concerned, and I'm not a thread bumper, but this is a public forum, so anytime you post you open yourself up to responses, both positive and negative.

Also, the OP can just choose to no longer read the responses in the thread. We all CHOOSE to be here.

 

[hackorydackorydac]

If it bothers you, why are you opening the threads?

 

[nuke]

I just think it would be better to err on the side of caution, that maybe the OP doesn't want to get into it or has alot on their plate right now.

I think it is always wise to err on the side of caution and compassion. Unfortunately that doesn't seem to happen on these boards.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I thought this was about the needless bumping of inane fluff threads.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

PAW, I agree with you. I think some people are just nosey and don't have the OPs best insterest at heart. Yes there are those who are truly concerned, but I would bet that is the minority. Sometimes people want to vent and move on. If they want to update they will. Giving advice does not entitle anyone to an update.

 

[bananiem]

PAW, I'm concerned. Have you figured out how you REALLY feel about this? I didn't read all the replies so I'm sorry if you already answered.
Hang in there. It's bound to get better!!!

 

[WNDMom]

I once asked for advice because one of my twins was biting the other. I got a few responses critical of my parenting style. I haven't posted anything remotely personal on the boards since.

I can understand why posters might want/need advice from time to time. There are things they'd rather tell the internet world that they will never meet face to face than tell their real life friends. I can also understand why the posters who give friendly advice might be curious of the outcome.

However, I think it is over the line to be checking the last time users have logged into the DIS and speculating on why they haven't updated their thread. I'm sure they have good reasons for not posting, when it's way beyond obvious that they purposefully aren't updating the thread.

 

[oxfordcircus]

I thought this was about the needless bumping of inane fluff threads.

Are you saying you want to turn this thread into a party thread? Great, I'll work on some clip art for our sigs.

 

[Laura]

I think people should just admit that they're nosey and that's why they're bumping the thread.

 

[Luv'sTink]

For me it works like the ignore feature....Just dont open it anymore and dont post on it saying to stop that just brings it back to the top.