just a little whining...

[Thinktinknpixiedust]

only my fellow dis'ers would understand and that's why I had to come here. We LOVE Disney... guess that's a given. This year we knew we were not going to be able to go because I am finishing up with school, my husband is transitioning into a new job, and and and, unfortunately the list goes on. ok. we were settled that NEXT summer we would get back "home". Wellllll..... my sister in law if finally getting married, and that is wonderful. Not only is she my husbands sister, but she is my best friend. she and her fiance have been with each other for 5 years now and they are finally in a place that they are ready to get hitched. she has decided however, that she wants to get married at the Beaches resort in Negril Jamaca. Very cool... but...its going to cost our family of 5 alot of money... which in itself is hard to swallow...but also takes finances and time = no Disney next year either!! I know i know i know we are getting a fabulous vacation out of this. 10 days in an all inclusive resort, lots of relaxing, well deserved. But the dis'er in me is seriously pouting! Will I be sitting on the beach in Jamaca wishing i were sitting at the beach at the Poly???? oye!

Please dont flame me. please. i am no where near a spoiled brat. our disney vacations are precious to us and we work very hard to pay for them with cash. one of the hardest things is that my oldest son is turning 18 this october and is graduating from high school next spring. I had no idea that the last trip we took to disney was the "last" trip with my kids as ... kids... ugh. I am thankful. I am soooo excited for my sister in law and very excited to go to Jamaca...

I just needed to vent to the only people that would really understand........

 

[Grandbuddy]

You are getting older. Now, some folks may not see that as an upside, but consider this: as your children grow up, they will literally threaten to break you financially, but once you get through their college years, you and your husband will suddenly have more disposeable income than you ever had before. (My kids are in their 30s, now.) Added to that, they give you grandchildren! Now you go to DW more than ever before, and can treat your kids and grandkids to the kinds of vacations they could not afford on their own.

Just be patient for another decade or so....

 

[tinkbutt]

I totally understand my sister is getting married next year and obviously gets our dvc points for her honeymoon but that means no disney for me

I am happy for her but it still gives me the disney blues

 

[eliza61]

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Please dont flame me. please. i am no where near a spoiled brat. our disney vacations are precious to us and we work very hard to pay for them with cash. one of the hardest things is that my oldest son is turning 18 this october and is graduating from high school next spring. I had no idea that the last trip we took to disney was the "last" trip with my kids as ... kids... ugh. I am thankful. I am soooo excited for my sister in law and very excited to go to Jamaca...

I just needed to vent to the only people that would really understand........

No flame from me. My BIL also did a destination wedding but we decided to pass, we had just purchased a house so we definitely did not have the funds to go to Jamaica. BIL & fiancee were totally understanding, in fact they totally expect that a lot of people would not make it. They just did not want a big production wedding and decided on that instead. They ended up only having around 10 people and a we threw a really big family celebration at our new house when they returned.

My kids are college bound also, believe me you will lovve, looove, love going to disney with just you and your honey. That's the upside.

 

[Thinktinknpixiedust]

I knew you guys would be there for me!! I have kids in all stages of growing up... my oldest at almost 18... my middle at 14 and my baby at a mere 4. there is a part of me that relish's the idea of spending less money on "da kids" and more money on... well us! But I get a little twinge when i realize that was our "last" time. Guess your not really supposed to know when that time is... like when was the "last" time we were a kid... time marches on. And so does Disney...

I am totally supportive of my SIL decision to not have the big hurrah, but I am really really going to miss Mickey

 

[chris4disney]

No flame from me either! If my sister was getting married and wanted to go somewhere like Jamaca to do so, great for her... if she wants a private ceremony that is. It really bugs me when people decide to get married somewhere far away that will cost an arm and a leg for others to attend. Now I know that some times one side of the family lives here and the other side of the family lives in X. In those situations you can't help it that one side of the family has to travel somewhere. But it doesn't sound like this is the case with your sister. And of course if you don't attend these far off weddings of a close relative, you look like the inconsiderate jerk who instead went to WDW. But you know what, it's your decision to spend your hard earned money where you want. Especially when you're talking about thousands of dollars! That's a lot to ask of other people to spend on your wedding day, if you ask me. If it were me... and my sister expected a lot of people to make that trip, I'd tell her to go have a good time and maybe have a reception back home that people can come wish them well without paying a fortune. good luck!

 

[Mr. & Mrs. Smith]

I don't think it's selfish of your DSIL, like Chris4Disney does. I think it sounds lovely. I'm pretty sure most people who have destination weddings completely understand when others are unable or unwilling to attend. I think they want a small, intimate wedding typically.

But I also understand that OP's disappointment in not getting to go to WDW as planned. I think you need to do whatever you think is best. I can totally understand if you decided to go to the wedding. Is it reasonable to charge part of the WDW trip and do both?

 

[M&N]

I like being selfish....for Mickey! Is the rest of the family going along with this? Could you figure out a way to do Disney cheaper? It's times like this that I'm glad to be an only child!

 

[Mr. & Mrs. Smith]

OP, have you been able to figure out a way to go to the wedding AND WDW? I hope it works out for you and your family.