Rustysmom
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I'm a little sad because we put my mom's house on the market the other day. I just realized that soon we'll never be able to go there again. Someone is going to probably demolish her kitchen and bathroom. They are outdated, but I always thought they were cute.
Mom only died 2 months ago and I didn't want to sell it so soon, but my husband is insisting. He says we can't afford to pay the taxes, insurance, and utilities for 2 houses. He has a point, because I'm a SAHM right now and he doesn't make much, but I'm not ready to sell. He's being very mean about it and said "Well, if you can come up with the money to pay the taxes etc., you can keep it as long as you want, but I can't afford it". "I can't afford it" should be his middle name because it's all he knows how to say. He knows I can't go back to work as long as my daughter is in pre-K, because she only goes for 2 1/2 hours a day. Maybe in September I can go back, if they are hiring, but not right now.
Then he gave the real estate people a set of keys so they can show it whenever they want. I didn't tell him to do that! My mom's cat is still over there and do you think they are going to care if the cat runs out or not? So yesterday I took a LONG walk after I dropped my daughter off at pre-K and put the slide lock thing on the front door, so they can't get in. They don't have the garage key. Today I'm going to go and ask for the keys back. If they want to show it, they can arrange it with us so one of us will be there. My husband doesn't want that though, because he said it's "too much" for him to drive back and forth over there. It's only 10 minutes by car and he goes after work anyway to feed the cat. I don't drive. Well, darn it, then I'll walk there or take the bus then! And it's not even so much about that cat, but I feel funny about strangers walking around the house when nobody is there.
Then the price that they gave for the house wasn't quite what I was expecting. I thought it would be a little more. I don't want to be greedy, but I did have to put out $113K out of my bank accounts to pay off her reverse mortgage. I wanted to paint and pull up the carpeting, but once again DH didn't want to bother. Sheesh, the reason I paid off the reverse mortgage now was so that I wouldn't have to rush to sell it, and he's making me rush anyway.
I probably could have gotten more.
Then I don't know what to do with Mom's cat. I guess I'm going to have to take her home soon, but will she get along with my 2 cats? She is a sweetheart with people, but when she used to see stray cats outside the window, she would go nuts. She has claws and my cats don't. She old, half blind with glaucoma and might be partially deaf too now, but I can just see her attacking my cats. What if she dies of fright? She has a bad habit of peeing on the floor, which is another reason why Mom's house is priced low. It stinks! The carpet in my old room has to be pulled up. Yesterday she walked to the litterbox in the bathroom, gave it a look, walked out, and then went to the litterbox in my old room (where she poops) and was about to pee on the wall like a male. I pushed her rear end to stop her and she's so frail she almost fell over. I picked her up and carried her to the correct litter box and she went like a good girl. What is she going to do in my house then? I don't know what I'm going to do.
Mom wanted her put to sleep when she died because she knew I would have to sell the house and was afraid she would run away, but I just can't do that.
Mom only died 2 months ago and I didn't want to sell it so soon, but my husband is insisting. He says we can't afford to pay the taxes, insurance, and utilities for 2 houses. He has a point, because I'm a SAHM right now and he doesn't make much, but I'm not ready to sell. He's being very mean about it and said "Well, if you can come up with the money to pay the taxes etc., you can keep it as long as you want, but I can't afford it". "I can't afford it" should be his middle name because it's all he knows how to say. He knows I can't go back to work as long as my daughter is in pre-K, because she only goes for 2 1/2 hours a day. Maybe in September I can go back, if they are hiring, but not right now.
Then he gave the real estate people a set of keys so they can show it whenever they want. I didn't tell him to do that! My mom's cat is still over there and do you think they are going to care if the cat runs out or not? So yesterday I took a LONG walk after I dropped my daughter off at pre-K and put the slide lock thing on the front door, so they can't get in. They don't have the garage key. Today I'm going to go and ask for the keys back. If they want to show it, they can arrange it with us so one of us will be there. My husband doesn't want that though, because he said it's "too much" for him to drive back and forth over there. It's only 10 minutes by car and he goes after work anyway to feed the cat. I don't drive. Well, darn it, then I'll walk there or take the bus then! And it's not even so much about that cat, but I feel funny about strangers walking around the house when nobody is there.
Then the price that they gave for the house wasn't quite what I was expecting. I thought it would be a little more. I don't want to be greedy, but I did have to put out $113K out of my bank accounts to pay off her reverse mortgage. I wanted to paint and pull up the carpeting, but once again DH didn't want to bother. Sheesh, the reason I paid off the reverse mortgage now was so that I wouldn't have to rush to sell it, and he's making me rush anyway.

Then I don't know what to do with Mom's cat. I guess I'm going to have to take her home soon, but will she get along with my 2 cats? She is a sweetheart with people, but when she used to see stray cats outside the window, she would go nuts. She has claws and my cats don't. She old, half blind with glaucoma and might be partially deaf too now, but I can just see her attacking my cats. What if she dies of fright? She has a bad habit of peeing on the floor, which is another reason why Mom's house is priced low. It stinks! The carpet in my old room has to be pulled up. Yesterday she walked to the litterbox in the bathroom, gave it a look, walked out, and then went to the litterbox in my old room (where she poops) and was about to pee on the wall like a male. I pushed her rear end to stop her and she's so frail she almost fell over. I picked her up and carried her to the correct litter box and she went like a good girl. What is she going to do in my house then? I don't know what I'm going to do.
