Jon and Kate Plus 8, Official Thread-Part 3

[DWGal210]

I'm so upset now too; I wish I hadn't watched that show. I for one will not be watching it anymore.

My heart is breaking for those kids. It's pretty obvious that they know what's going on, from Mady and Cara pitching in to help with the party to one of the little girls (Alexis I think) telling her dad that she misses him.

It was also evident to me that neither of them are interested in this point in staying together; I did think that Kate's comment about the divorce rate among parents of multiples being high was very odd - not that I'm disputing that statistic, because I honestly don't know, but in their case it seems to have more to do with their doing the show than simply being the parents of multiples.

I hope all that money and those freebies were worth it.

 

[OK!]

Well, at least they're sounding civil during the cookout portion of the episode (sorry--I know I'm behind everybody...had to pause during a phone call). At least they didn't leave the episode on a TOTALLY down note.

 

[KandD]

I am so sad right now after that episode. Jon seems completely checked out. I think this is the first time I have ever really felt anything for Kate.

Eck...I hate to go to bed with this feeling. What a terrible situation.

 

[Imzadi]

If the children are noticing the paparazzi following them every where they go, it is time to STOP the show and end this madness .

I know. Kate is saying, "Why are they following us?" Hello! You put your family on national TV. So you have a problem with others filming you, too?

 

[starann]

I just can't understand why they are continuing with the show right now!!!! Unless they want the nation to see the reality of their marriage failing? It would be a true reality show I guess, but years from now, if their kids see the episode.......how sad.


I really can;t wrap my head around it? They both sound like they are there for the kids, but not so sure about each other......THEY NEED THERAPY together to see if there is anything left to save and if not, how to move forward in the best intrest of the children.


Towards the end...Kate said something like "Tell me what I can do to fix it all" or somethign like that...I thought stop the show, take a break, work on your family, your marraige. The show may be there later....they family, once broken will be gone forever.

 

[LoraJ]

I just can't understand why they are continuing with the show right now!!!! Unless they want the nation to see the reality of their marriage failing? It would be a true reality show I guess, but years from now, if their kids see the episode.......how sad.


I really can;t wrap my head around it? They both sound like they are there for the kids, but not so sure about each other......THEY NEED THERAPY together to see if there is anything left to save and if not, how to move forward in the best intrest of the children.


Towards the end...Kate said something like "Tell me what I can do to fix it all" or somethign like that...I thought stop the show, take a break, work on your family, your marraige. The show may be there later....they family, once broken will be gone forever.

Could be because of contracts.

 

[SilverL]

I can't watch it. I can never watch this show again. I used to LOVE it. Their kids are so adorable. With this marathon leading up to the most recent show---seeing when they first got married, first had the kids, and their vow renewal where they promised their children they would be together forever---it hurts me so badly. They did love each other when they got married. That was obvious. Things certainly change in your relationship when you have kids, but this is just... beyond anything. They've given up It's just terrible.

The whole time I was watching the show I just kept saying, "OMG, the kids. The kids." I don't think either of them are actually saying that. But you can also see how much pain Jon and Kate are actually in. I agree with everyone on here who have stated that they got themselves into this mess. It still really saddens me that they are in so much pain. I'm sure that's part of the reason why they're so tired.

It hurts me too much to watch this going on. I wish it wasn't even on TV. Their kids are going to see this episode one day and realize how little their parents were even trying at that point. I wish they would end the show, go to marriage counseling at their church, and keep their promise to the children.

What's next? Kate Plus 8: The Weekdays and Jon Plus 8: The Weekends? Are we going to see the episode where they tell their children they're divorcing? I mean, seriously. This shouldn't be on parade.

I wish I could go into the TV and knock their heads together. Or take their kids home with me.

 

[Dan Murfman]

Could be because of contracts.

You probably are right but if Jon and Kate went to TLC and said our life it's a mess we can't do the show anymore. I would hope TLC would do the right thing.

 

[Nawlinslady]

new to this thread but a constant lurker......to those who didn't like her comments about the party being long...the impression I got when she said that was that she felt like the party was running really long and it was kind of an apology to the parents who were there with their children. I think she was kind of worried that they were thinking it was running way long......

I feel sorry for her.....I have to say she is obviously hurting....as one who has been through that situation (of course not with 8 children though) I know it is incredibly hard......John just seemed very defensive.....it seems like she wants to work it out but doesn't know if it is possible and after seeing how he was acting I think she may be right.......which is very sad......I think he seems like he is realizing he misses his freedom.......well guess what........he's not free........get over it........he should never have been photographed in a car with another woman....or videotaped coming out of her apartment.......stupid moves on his part.....as far as what is being said about her and the security guard.....I've seen no concrete proof....so I'm not convinced.....Jon and the other woman......well....if it walks like a duck....and squawks like a duck.........well you know..........Has his life been a cakewalk since the babies were born? No, it hasn't.....Is Kate hard to live with? Probably so..... Does that give him the right to run around?????? NO WAY!!!!

Just my opinion......

 

[madge]

I know. Kate is saying, "Why are they following us?" Hello! You put your family on national TV. So you have a problem with others filming you, too?

that's the same thing my husband said!

 

[DWGal210]

Not to put the cart before the horse...

But if the unfortunate happens and they do divorce, I can see Jon petitioning the court to discontinue the kid's involvement in the show, thereby basically rendering it off the air. Does that seem possible to anyone else?

Not that I would mind, for one - I won't be watching any longer and I hope TLC takes some heat for this. They're profiting on the downfall of a family, and one that has 8 kids, no less. Shame on them.

 

[luvmy3]

It's sad. I wonder if they could have salvaged something, had the media not butt in.

Their entire life is a reality show, do you really think the media butted into it? I'm sorry, they chose this life it wasn't the media's choice it was theirs. If you don't want your dirty laundry aired in public don't do your laundry at the laundromat.

 

[1stluvispooh]

I'm so upset now too; I wish I hadn't watched that show. I for one will not be watching it anymore.

My heart is breaking for those kids. It's pretty obvious that they know what's going on, from Mady and Cara pitching in to help with the party to one of the little girls (Alexis I think) telling her dad that she misses him.

It was also evident to me that neither of them are interested in this point in staying together; I did think that Kate's comment about the divorce rate among parents of multiples being high was very odd - not that I'm disputing that statistic, because I honestly don't know, but in their case it seems to have more to do with their doing the show than simply being the parents of multiples.

I hope all that money and those freebies were worth it.

I hate it when people who's marriages are falling apart pick some group they are in, have multiples, special needs kids, got married before the where 30 , got married during a full moon etc and say that the divorce rate is higher in that group. Is it that or did you just choose the wrong person to marry. As a local trauma Dr. once said on the news a situation like this only intensifies whats already there. If it good to begin with it will be good in a crises

 

[Imzadi]

I am so sad right now after that episode. Jon seems completely checked out.

He's checked out because he's had enough. I didn't see the very beginning, so I don't know if he admitted to having an affair or being with another woman. I am NOT an advocate for affairs. But, research states that spouses (of both sexes) leave or have an affair because the way the person they are having an affair with makes them feel. If he got some respect, some tenderness, a person who actually listened to him, made him feel special and not simply a servant for the kids, was kind instead of critical, yeah, I can see why he finally checked out of his cold, emotionally empty marriage.

It's a shame. I saw a couple pictures and footage of Kate at the start of their marriage. She was actually softer. She's become cold, harsh & critical. There are parents who've raised large families without becoming that, so having large families is not an excuse.

 

[kidshop]

It hurts me too much to watch this going on. I wish it wasn't even on TV. Their kids are going to see this episode one day and realize how little their parents were even trying at that point. I wish they would end the show, go to marriage counseling at their church, and keep their promise to the children.

What's next? Kate Plus 8: The Weekdays and Jon Plus 8: The Weekends? Are we going to see the episode where they tell their children they're divorcing? I mean, seriously. This shouldn't be on parade.

I wish I could go into the TV and knock their heads together. Or take their kids home with me.

Exactly! I'm glad I didn't watch, and I'm a little sorry to be reading about it here. it's sickening to me.

 

[newtodis]

For anyone who wants to check out one of their facebook pages: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1314550984#/JonandKatePlusEight?ref=ts

Kate said several times she's been "dealing with this" for 6 months...that would be October correct? The first pictures came out in Feb correct? (I'm sure madge has the timeline for reference!! ) So that means they've been having problems throughout the holiday season and pretty much as soon as they moved right?? That's got to be awful to have to "make things work" for six months and to still not know what you're going to do at this point.

Off the current topic - did anyone read that Deanna's other brother came out and confirmed their relationship?

 

[madge]

Not to put the cart before the horse...

But if the unfortunate happens and they do divorce, I can see Jon petitioning the court to discontinue the kid's involvement in the show, thereby basically rendering it off the air. Does that seem possible to anyone else?

they're still filming episodes. Jon included. While it looks like things are bad with the marriage, they're still able to suck it up and crank out new shows. I can't imagine why he'd stop their earning potential while it's at an all time high. Jon likes the freebies and material perks of the show .. he said so in an interview not long ago

 

[luvmy3]

He's checked out because he's had enough. I didn't see the very beginning, so I don't know if he admitted to having an affair or being with another woman. I am NOT an advocate for affairs. But, research states that spouses (of both sexes) leave or have an affair because the way the person they are having an affair with makes them feel. If he got some respect, some tenderness, a person who actually listened to him, made him feel special and not simply a servant for the kids, was kind instead of critical, yeah, I can see why he finally checked out of his cold, emotionally empty marriage.

Amen

 

[Nawlinslady]

He's checked out because he's had enough. I didn't see the very beginning, so I don't know if he admitted to having an affair or being with another woman. I am NOT an advocate for affairs. But, research states that spouses (of both sexes) leave or have an affair because the way the person they are having an affair with makes them feel. If he got some respect, some tenderness, a person who actually listened to him, made him feel special and not simply a servant for the kids, was kind instead of critical, yeah, I can see why he finally checked out of his cold, emotionally empty marriage.

It's a shame. I saw a couple pictures and footage of Kate at the start of their marriage. She was actually softer. She's become cold, harsh & critical. There are parents who've raised large families without becoming that, so having large families is not an excuse.

I'm sorry....I totally disagree.....If you are not happy....man up and say it and then move on ......do not sneak around and wait until you are caught.....there is NO EXCUSE in my book for cheating on a spouse......I know the children are involved but I would have way more respect for him if he would have done that.....

 

[LoraJ]

I'm sorry....I totally disagree.....If you are not happy....man up and say it and then move on ......do not sneak around and wait until you are caught.....there is NO EXCUSE in my book for cheating on a spouse......I know the children are involved but I would have way more respect for him if he would have done that.....

Bingo!!!!!!