Jealous relatives.......HELP!

[Pembo]

I have a s-i-l that just infuriates me. She is very self-centered and gets very jealous of me for any little thing.

Today I called to talk to my brother, he wasn't home. I mentioned to her that the church is having a picnic and invited them. Then I went on to say that I got MY mom to babysit dd (11 mo). Her comment "The world revolves around you". WHAT???? I replied "No, the world revolves around dd's nap time."

Now thinking about it, just irks me! Her parents have watched her kids daily since birth. (she's works 3 days/week). My parents have watched her kids every year during bowling season since they were babies. (they are 8 & 10). She is spoiled and self-centered and I'm darn sick of it.

We now live only 15 mins away (used to 50 miles). I'm going to see her more often but I can't handle her jealousy. I could go on & on but Popdaddy wouldn't like my long post.

So how would you handle a jealous s-i-l??????????

 

[piratesmate]

Ignore her? Literally - just don't "see" her.

Sorry, that's not very helpful. I have a situation that is somewhat similar. I usually just make all statements responding to her jealous comments into a joke - then I go home fuming, but trying to forget about her. It doesn't do any good to let her have so much control over my life (via my reactions) and I doubt anything I have to say will help her change.

Deb

 

[Robinrs]

She sounds very insecure, immature and self centered.

Don't lower yourself to her level. That's what she wants you to do. Treat her cordially and consider the source.

 

[4greatboys]

She sounds liek one of those people that can only feel better about themselves by putting down or being mean to other. Personally I would have told her since they are not her kids she needs to mind her own business.

 

[SnowAngel]

Hang her up and beat her

I would pretty much make a joke about whatever she says and let it go. Is she really worth the aggravation. She won't likely change. If it does get to you just don't talk to her very much

 

[Serena]

Next time she says something stupid like that, just agree with her. Nothing you say will make her any less a pain, so why not have some fun. lol

 

[browneyes]

I'd probably grin and bear it, but family get togethers would be very strained, to say the least. I would probably also get mad enough to confront her about her jealousy, just to get the situation out in the open.

 

[dtuleya]

I agree with everyone else. Try to ignore it. I had a similar situation with someone I knew and I finally realized that she had problems with depression. Can you talk to Popdaddy about it?

 

[tkyes]

She is jealous and wants to irritate you. Don't let her get to you.

You could try killing her with kindness, it will probably drive her crazy and make her so furious, but it will be fun to sit back and watch it happen. Honestly, I did that with a roomate who was always trying to make me mad. One day I just started being really nice, the baffled confused look on her face was priceless. I could almost see her head swimming, trying to figure out what I was up to.

Good luck!

Tamie

 

[Mskanga]

Just agree with her, smile and go on with your life, she will get really ticked off by that. You know the truth and that's what matters.
My SIL did a better one with me, years ago my inlaws were moving to Florida so they told all the children to come and get whatever was left from the apartment , but of course they told me a week after everyone else knew.
I went over , I asked if I could take one of the dressers because my dd needed one . You would think and considering that she was taking the entire bedroom set , the dinningroom set and the desk , she could spare one dresser? My MIL says, I will ask her . She comes over before I left and tells me that I can't get any of those dressers ( there were three of them ) BUT I can get one that she has at home, it only needs a coat of paint. I turned around and said, since it only needs some paint and you are taking all the good ones , why don't you keep the one that needs the coat of paint, paint it and keep two good ones and share the other one with another son ( my dh ) ?
She did not like my question. I took two bookshelves that nobody wanted and left.
This is also the same SIL who keeps telling me, we are loaded because we go to Disney every year, everytime we do or buy something is, how can you afford to do this?
And I am not going to tell you what was done last year when both my inlaws passed, let's just say I got one TV and dh had to "negotiate" with one of his sisters!
Oh yeah, and I got my MIL's Webtv, do you know why? Because I was the one who bought it for her two years before.
I actually suggested ( when they asked me if I wanted it back ) for her to keep it since she was the only one without internet access, she said ,oh no , I'm keeping my dad's computer, he told me months ago I could keep it when he died . I had no use for the Webtv, but I have seen this family so selfish that I thought, if I keep it in the closet I don't care, but they won't get it!

 

[faith]

Don't let it become a full blown feud. You would probably be the one to keep all that negative emotion inside and make yourself sick while she goes happily on with her life. I agree with the posts that more or less say kill her with kindness.