Jealous Grandma's

[Jenn Lynn]

Does anyone have a Mom or MIL who is jealous of the other Grandma?

My Mom gets jealous of my MIL and my Sister's MIL because we both live close to our IL's so we see them on a regular basis. My parents live far away from us and we see them a couple of times a year. She is not mean about it. She doesn't try to make us feel guilty, but it happens.

We asked MIL to go with us to WDW in October. I just told my Mom this morning that we are going. I did not tell her MIL was going also. I'm not sure how to approach it so I am putting it off.

Does anyone else deal with this?

 

[wvrevy]

Constantly !!!!

Luckily, we live fairly close to both my mom and MIL, so we try to split time evenly between the two of them...even having DD stay with each for a couple nights if DW and I go out of town without her....Unfortunately, I don't have any advice about your WDW trip, but just wanted to let you know that I certainly feel for ya'

 

[Bob Slydell]

Yup. My Mom's jealous of my MIL all the time, because she lives a few minutes away from DS and not a couple hours.

 

[Pete's Mom]

Neither Pete or I have any Grandmas or Grandpas.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Tell her to watch the Weather Channel.

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by Jenn Lynn
Does anyone have a Mom or MIL who is jealous of the other Grandma?

My Mom gets jealous of my MIL and my Sister's MIL because we both live close to our IL's so we see them on a regular basis. My parents live far away from us and we see them a couple of times a year. She is not mean about it. She doesn't try to make us feel guilty, but it happens.

We asked MIL to go with us to WDW in October. I just told my Mom this morning that we are going. I did not tell her MIL was going also. I'm not sure how to approach it so I am putting it off.

Does anyone else deal with this?

Yes, I can completely relate, although I don't live near either set. It's just that my mom (who is 6.5 hours away) is still working but DH's parents (who are 10 hours away) are retired, so they can travel up more often. Plus, when we go visiting, we always stop at both places. But mom doesn't have room for us so we end up in a hotel so we only stay 2 or 3 nights. In-laws have plenty of room, so we stay the week

We did the Disney thing, too, although I convinced DH's entire family to go...his parents, his brother/wife/kids, his mom's sister, her two boys, their two wives, and her grandkid. 17 people. My mom was jealous, said she'd never been, and asked if she could come, too! And bring my brother and his partner! So we turned it into a 2 family trip Be careful....

 

[welovedisneyx4]

Oh my gosh!!! Yes, I totally agree. I am so grateful to have both sets of Grandparents here in town, but geez!!, they can be so childish sometimes.

They get upset over gifts and who spends more time w/ the kids. It has gotten better, but is still a problem sometimes.

I just try to make things as smooth as possible. Good luck on the trip issue.

 

[Lachesis00]

My mom

 

[monkeyboy]

That could be a new Fox reality show.

When Grandma's Attack

Round 1- pinch a cheek contest
Round 2 - out spend the others at Toys R Us
Round 3- the GUILT ROUND (bonus points awarded)

 

[tar heel]

I sometimes don't tell my mother that we are going to visit the in-laws b/c we visit them more frequently and for longer periods. There are a number of reasons: my brother in law and family live nearby, so the kids get to play with their cousins; they live in a resort area so it's like going on vacation; there is enough room for everyone to stay comfortably; and it's just more fun. I love my parents, but they watch TV every waking hour. Our visits consist of everyone sitting in the den in front of the TV.

 

[DD2Disney]

I don't think my mom is jealous. She just gets really sad. We live 3,000 miles away from her. My MIL lives next door to us . I just wish we could take him there more often. Its hard to live away from your extended family.

 

[spagheddie]

I can relate to. In my case I think I create the guilt rather than them going out of their way to make me feel guilty.

As far as the trip, unfortunately these things have a way of coming out later on, but I wouldn't tell her about it. It might crush her. I know I would be. Just make sure your MIL is not in any of the pictures!

Also, how about extending an invitation to her also?

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

My DDs have 3 sets of grandparents. They are the only grandkids for my parents, and the only blood grandkids for DH's parents (both of his step parents have kids and grandkids from thier previous marriages). And we live no where near any of them. We try to balance things, but we get jealousy every once in a while. Usually they make up for the not seeing the girls by mailing gifts regularly.

We have done 2 trips to WDW where we invited everyone to meet up with us (at their own expense). Once DH's dad and step mom took us up on it; once nobody did. Their choice. Unfortunately many of our "vacations" tend to be to visit family. Not that I mind visiting family, but if we lived closer, we could do other vacations. That is probably why I always extend the invite to everyone when we go to WDW.