Can I vent for a minute?....thanks!
So my mother is the youngest of 5. Her 3 brothers all live within 20 minutes of us and her sister lives in Kentucky. Her 95 yr old mother lives with us (now let me just say that I know I am very lucky to say that my grandmother is 95 yrs. old and is still in decent health and is pretty mobile and is still together in her head - although we are starting to see a decrease in that lately. Really I do know that I am lucky to spend my days with her.). So with Thanksgiving coming up we figured someone would want Grandma with them...right. Ok well no, no one has called or invited her anywhere, well that's ok, we are doing a meal here, so no biggie right.
However this is just the tip of the ice berg of no one doing anything with Grandma. When we go to Disney, Grandma will be spending some time in Kentucky with my aunt. So my mom and I figured they would want grandma for Christmas down there....oh no, my aunt will be driving up here New Years Day and then she and her husband will be spending a few days in Southern WI where my cousin's wife is living (don't get me started on that subject....

). So since we leave on the 7, we figure we won't really have much time to get ready for our trip. Ok well, who cares, we just want to get the h*ll out of here.
So now my grandma is starting to say things about "being shipped around like an unwanted package" all the time. When she sees a Wal-mart bag or something she makes comments about wanting to go places, well yes we get that, however I'm not about to take a 95 yr old to the mall on a Saturday anymore.
I have on uncle in particular that I just feel the need to punch whenever I am in his presence. His wife is a not nice word. She calls my aunt and says that "we don't let anyone take Grandma for the day." Well their definition of the day is to pick g-ma up at 2pm for dinner and return her by 6...yeah that's ALL DAY!
I've considered sending a letter to my uncles (because actually talking to them would get me no where because one of them just hangs up on you when he doesn't like what you are saying). My mother wants me to just drop it. However, and I hate saying this, but my mother is a pushover. She never says no, but just keeps taking more on. She feels guilty about doing anything without Grandma because she doesn't get out much anymore.
We are all at our wits end with this, but no one is doing anything to help. A part of me really wants to say something to everyone, just so I can defend my mother, but I also don't want to hurt her even more because her siblings would turn everything against us and make it all our fault. Today my mom started to talk about looking for plane tickets to come back home earlier than the rest of us, so that she doesn't have to "bother" any one else's lifestyles.
There is so much more that goes on with this and it just frustrates me. Everyone in our house is constantly crabby with each other because things just keep piling up and we really don't see an end in sight
Thanks for letting me vent. It's been a long time dealing with this, but like I said previously, I do feel very lucky to have this time with my g-ma and hear all the stories she has to tell

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Ok, off to make tacos now. Have a good night.