It's going to be a long summer!!(vent)

[wdwnutze]

Just needed to vent a little. DS came home from college last week. We love him to death but he is hard to live with. In the 1 week since he has been home, he broke curfew 1x and then last night came home at 1am saying he got hit in the head with a stick and needed to go to the hospital. I was at the hospital with him til 5am. He ended up with 6 staples in his head. Really not clear on what happened but I'm sure it had something to do with his mouth(he says no). He hangs out with the wrong crowd although he has never been in any trouble with police or anything like that. He will start working next week full time. As of 5am my dh wants to consider throwing him out of the house.(he won't do it but boy is he angry). It is always something with DS. He has been grounded(he thinks this is unjust since he is 19). Our theory is, "You live in our house, you follow our rules". I guess in between everything else I had to do today, I will now have to head out to the police station to find out what the investigating officer has to say.
CALGON.....................................Take me away!!!!

 

[laceemouse]

I am sorry that you are having a bad time with your son. Hang in there! My oldest is only 12 and already she gives me fits!! I can almost say I look forward to the day when she moves out and we haven't even hit the teen years yet! You do the best you can with your kids, but when they reach a certain age they have to make their own decisions. I know this is hard at 19, you have rules but he thinks he is an adult. I went home for the summer after my first year of college, but after that I never went home for any extended period of time again. My prayers to you and your family.

 

[jfulcer]

Your roof, your rules. Break the rules, don't use the roof.

That's what my parents told me when I came back for the summer from college. I was a reasonably good kid so there weren't too many rules.

Good luck!

 

[zurgswife]

I agree if he doens't like the summer rules then he should find his own place .......Give him 7 days and tell him if he breaks the rules then he will be shown the door....Otherwise I think you are just enabling him...

Good Luck

 

[jx3smom]

Boy, do I ever hear ya! DS#1 graduated from college and is home and working his regular summer job. He is really easy to live with and deal with. A really responsible kid but need to start looking for a real job.

DS#2 is home from college. A really good kid but a major slob who shares a room with DS #1 who is very neat. They don't fight at all because DS#1 is so easy going. I fight with him all of the time to clean up!

DS#3 is only 12 and his best buddy is DS#2 but they also fight all of the time. He is also a slob. So now I have double the fights to clean up and to get the two of them to just SHUT UP. They both want the last word.

On top of all of this we have one bathroom. We all go to work at different times or boy would we have more problems.

You know what, I'm actually thrilled that we are all under the same roof again.

 

[hercamore]

Oh boy, that's a tuff situation. You're right, a job with a different routine should keep him outta trouble. Do his buddies have jobs too?

It's been a rough week here too with my dd (l9) back from her freshman year of college.

Everyone she knows her age has NO curfew at all. Kids can come in when they please.

DD is a good kid, but she is really asserting her independence.

One things I really try is to keep the lines of communication open. Once they shut down, you're both in big trouble. I have seen this firsthand with my neighbors kids.

herc.

 

[Disney Doll]

My father's famous statement was "You live under my roof, you follow my rules. You don't like my rules, you find a new roof to live under." There wasn't much more discussion about it than that, and there wasn't a lot of aggravation. because he very much meant what he said.

On the flip side, the rules weren't very confining, mainly because my brother and I were good kids who didn't give our parents much trouble. Basically they asked for the common courtesy of callign if we were going to be very late or if there were a major change in plans, which I did not find to be unreasonable. I wasn't the type who wanted to be wandering around till all hours of the morning...I was usually home by 12-1AM, unless it was a special event like a wedding or a concert or something.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

A glimpse into the future! eek!!!!!

As of 5am my dh wants to consider throwing him out of the house.(he won't do it but boy is he angry).

Oh I would never advocate throwing him. Kindly escorting him to his new one room apartment with a shared bathroom on the other hand..........

 

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[wdwnutze]

Thanks for all the kind words and encouragemnet. Sometimes it helps just to hear some feedback. Things are pretty quiet on the home front right now. I"ll just hope they stay that way. Thanks again everyone.