Issue w/best friends girlfriend

[vacanut]

I know how most of you will respond, maybe this is more of a vent than anything. My SO best friend has a "new" girlfriend, I say new they've been together on and off for 6 months now. I absolutely hate her, I know its a strong word but she's nothing but trouble. She got them both arrested after assaulting him about 2 months ago and he happily took her back. She then decided to quit her job (why work when he will pay for everything). He recently has been divorced has nothing, lives paycheck to paycheck, is behind on his truck payment and lives in his camper. He's a nice guy and is trying to get back on his feet. She is bringing him down and NOW she's acting like MY SO owes her too and its putting a strain on us. She knows I don't like her she's a user and feels everyone owes her for some reason. How should I handle this? They asked to borrow something of ours a month ago and we said no so they didn't talk to us for a month now they are calling again because they need something, obviously I see this but my SO feels bad for his best friend, HELP!

 

[MsLeFever]

Yikes! Maybe when you say "no" again you'll gain another month of peace!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

How should I handle this? They asked to borrow something of ours a month ago and we said no so they didn't talk to us for a month now they are calling again because they need something, obviously I see this but my SO feels bad for his best friend, HELP!

Just say no!

Let me explain something...users really don't care. I know it seems as if they do but they do not.
The month they were not talking to you was their search for another chump. Apparently the chump gave them the heave-ho and now they are into between suckers.
Tell SO that you understand that he feels bad, give him a hug and reassure that it is normal since this guy is really in a bad situation.
Explain however that does not give him the right to mess with your relationship. Put your foot down.
That way everytime the users call, your SO is on "the same page" as you.

Ultimately that is what working out a relationship is all about. The users, family, sickness, hard times, etc... Many different things will come your way in all shapes and sizes.

 

[vacanut]

Well its too late because he said YES! He got roped back in. I don't want it to interfere with our relationship. They heard me in the background the last time they are well aware what I think of them. I don't know why my SO feels the need to be nice to everyone.

 

[Frantasmic]

Say no. If your SO is truly best friends with this other person, they will still be friends when the girlfriend moves on to someone else, and she will.

 

[ericamanda01]

Have you explained to you SO what type of woman the girlfriend is? It's really tacky that they stopped talking to you because you didn't do what they asked. If she has him so wrapped around her finger that she can get him to pay her way, there might not be much you can do to help him. You may have to ride out the relationship and be there for him to help pick up the pieces when it ends.